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How to React When a Woman Flirts With Your Man

We all know her: the coworker who runs to your boo with all her problems, shows up wherever he is with his boys, and texts him late at night. Women will flirt on your turf shamelessly. While it’s easy to lose your cool and cause a scene, it’s not in your best interest. Here’s how to handle the homewrecker in a classy manner. -- April Dawn Ricchuito

Don’t be overly possessive or jealous
In short, the answer is don't react. Remember that although he’s your dude, he doesn’t belong to you; you don’t own the man. Let him set the boundaries.

Studies on patterns of attraction in birds and humans show a partner’s appeal goes up once they’re coupled up versus when they’re single. It’s in our biological nature to seek out partners with desirable traits, and when we see a man who’s wifed up, our primitive brains tell us he’s a catch.

While you’d like to think that means women will back off once they find out he’s spoken for, there are some that will probably still pursue him. Take it as a compliment. You know he’s a catch—that’s why you’re with him. And if he’s a faithful dude, he won’t return pursuit.

Understand how you feel and why
Set your own boundaries with him, but explore your reasoning. Is it because there’s genuine disrespect to your relationship? Are you jealous? Remember jealousy doesn’t communicate desire; it shows your own insecurity. The last thing you want is to create a wedge between you and your man and give her the opportunity to comfort your man after a fight.

Be honest with him
After you’ve decided that you’re not being fifty shades of crazy and there is something that needs to be discussed, express your feelings to him in “I” statements. “I really don’t appreciate that Sonya from your job is texting you late at night.  It seems inappropriate to me and work should be left at work; this is our time right now,” instead of “You need to tell that b**** Sonya to stop texting you late at night, I don’t like that!”  Make sure you make it about how you feel and not about him and what he is or isn’t doing, so that he doesn’t feel attacked. Trust is vital to a relationship and you want him to feel that he’s trusted, just as you want to know that he trusts you.

Flirt with him
Just because he’s your boyfriend or husband doesn’t mean you can’t flirt with him. Flirting is fun and it keeps things playful and spicy. Just like you want to be told you’re beautiful, receive flowers once in a while, and be treated like a queen, your man wants to feel desired and appreciated too. Flirt with him, keep your sex life spicy, acknowledge the little things he does with a thank you note, send him racy texts and pics when he’s away, and compliment him often—he’ll reciprocate.

Last resort: Let him go
If any man can be stolen away by another woman, let her keep him. She did you a favor and she’s in for the same type of experience—if he did it with her, he’ll do it to you.

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