The Single Girl's Holiday Survival Guide
Being single during the holidays doesn’t have to suck or be a struggle. It can actually be fun and liberating. Here’s a single girl’s survival guide to staying sane—and fabulous—this holiday season. --April Dawn Ricchuito
If you’re sad about being single during the holidays, acknowledge it and accept it. Don’t drown your sorrows with alcohol, food or overspending. Wallowing in self pity will also keep your friends and family at bay and no one likes a negative Nancy.
Understand you may not be able to change the picture, but you can change the frame. Stop the self-talk of “I’m single and I hate my life” to “I’m single and I rock!” It sounds cheesy, but positive affirmations really work, and if you start saying them often enough, you’ll believe them.
Be honest with others
If you’re getting the third degree from family about what’s new in your love life, why you’re not married yet or when you’re planning on getting serious with someone, be honest. Most people love talking about themselves, so deflect the question back to them, change the subject and let them talk.
You can also deflect the third degree with humor, just make sure to keep a straight face!
1. “I had so many options, I couldn’t decide which to bring, so I decided to come solo so I wouldn’t break anyone’s heart."
2. “I got married last week! We eloped Vegas-style. I’m going to post the pics on Facebook later this week. No, seriously...so what’s up with you?”
3. (While turning to the side and placing one hand on your stomach) “You can’t tell I’m expecting already? Of course I’m expecting…some amazing food! I really need this recipe, because this is so yummy. How do you make this?
Throw a party
While it seems like everyone in the world is coupled up, there are actually approximately 54 million single adults in the U.S. That means you’re not alone, and chances are, you have a few friends who are also home alone for the holidays—girls and guys—and they probably have single friends, too.
Host a holiday party and invite your friends (and maybe even their friends) who would otherwise be sitting at home with leftover Chinese. There is no rule that says the holidays are about spending time with your significant other and you’re left out if you have no boo. Don’t let what you don’t have stop you from enjoying all the loved ones you do have!
Why wait for a guy to write you love notes, bring flowers, gifts, and say “I love you”? Let’s face it: sometimes guys can be clueless. Buy your own flowers, write yourself love notes and treat yourself to a gift for Christmas. You deserve it and you need to see that more than anyone else.
January is National Self Love month so get a jump start and start practicing that self love now—and don’t stop!