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The Single Girl's Holiday Survival Guide

Being single during the holidays doesn’t have to suck or be a struggle. It can actually be fun and liberating. Here’s a single girl’s survival guide to staying sane—and fabulous—this holiday season. --April Dawn Ricchuito

Be honest with yourself

If you’re sad about being single during the holidays, acknowledge it and accept it. Don’t drown your sorrows with alcohol, food or overspending. Wallowing in self pity will also keep your friends and family at bay and no one likes a negative Nancy.

Understand you may not be able to change the picture, but you can change the frame. Stop the self-talk of “I’m single and I hate my life” to “I’m single and I rock!” It sounds cheesy, but positive affirmations really work, and if you start saying them often enough, you’ll believe them.

Be honest with others

If you’re getting the third degree from family about what’s new in your love life, why you’re not married yet or when you’re planning on getting serious with someone, be honest. Most people love talking about themselves, so deflect the question back to them, change the subject and let them talk.

Use humor

You can also deflect the third degree with humor, just make sure to keep a straight face!

1. “I had so many options, I couldn’t decide which to bring, so I decided to come solo so I wouldn’t break anyone’s heart."

2. “I got married last week! We eloped Vegas-style. I’m going to post the pics on Facebook later this week. No, seriously...so what’s up with you?”

3. (While turning to the side and placing one hand on your stomach) “You can’t tell I’m expecting already? Of course I’m expecting…some amazing food! I really need this recipe, because this is so yummy.  How do you make this?

Throw a party

While it seems like everyone in the world is coupled up, there are actually approximately 54 million single adults in the U.S. That means you’re not alone, and chances are, you have a few friends who are also home alone for the holidays—girls and guys—and they probably have single friends, too.

Host a holiday party and invite your friends (and maybe even their friends) who would otherwise be sitting at home with leftover Chinese. There is no rule that says the holidays are about spending time with your significant other and you’re left out if you have no boo. Don’t let what you don’t have stop you from enjoying all the loved ones you do have!

Celebrate yourself

Why wait for a guy to write you love notes, bring flowers, gifts, and say “I love you”? Let’s face it: sometimes guys can be clueless. Buy your own flowers, write yourself love notes and treat yourself to a gift for Christmas. You deserve it and you need to see that more than anyone else.

January is National Self Love month so get a jump start and start practicing that self love now—and don’t stop!

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Kelly Rowland Says Her Highly-Anticipated Project Is "Definitely Coming"

Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

"I'm a huge fan," she said. "I love her writing and how detailed and particular she is. I always wanted to figure out how the heck she has so many different layers of harmonies when she is constructing these vocals, and it's so complex but simple. It's genius. It's the genius in her genius mind that she has in there." One of the last times the pair collaborated was on Rowland's "Simply Deep" track off her debut solo album of the same name. Solange also penned a few songs off the same project. Fast forward to 2016, and Rowland's vocals were featured on Solange's iconic A Seat at the Table.

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Teyana Taylor To Pay Homage To Ballroom Culture In "WTP" Video

Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.

 

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👀 1.19.19 👀 #WTP Directed by @teyanataylor & @ogbeefjones @theauntiesinc 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾 The wait is ALMOST over. 😏 @museumofsex

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Trina Braxton’s Ex-Husband, Gabe Solis, Dies After Battle With Cancer

Gabe Solis, the ex-husband of Trina Braxton, lost his battle with cancer, Thursday (Dec. 20),  TMZ reports. He was 43.

Solis passed away at his home in Texas, surrounded by friends and family, according to the outlet. No official details have been released about his passing.

Solis had reportedly been keeping his cancer battle private. His death came as a shock to his loved ones. On Friday (Dec. 21), Braxton seemingly mourned the loss of her ex-husband with a cryptic Instagram meme reading, “I need a hug..E bottle of wine.”

The former couple tied the knot in 2003, and appeared together on previous seasons of WEtv’s Braxton Family Values. Despite finalizing their divorce in 2015, Braxton and Solis confronted lingering issues from their marriage during an episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life, earlier in the year.

Braxton has since moved on to a new relationship, but remained friends with Solis.

 

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