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Want That Old Thing Back? 5 Ways to Get Back With Your Ex

In many cases, getting back with an ex usually proves to be the same old story. Things are great for a month, and then you remember exactly why he’s an ex. Although it’s generally not advisable to get back with an old flame, with dedication, compassion, and willingness from both parties (and maybe couple’s therapy), an old fling can be made new again. Here’s how it can work, if both parties want in. -April Dawn Ricchuito

1. Get it together
If you two were a hot mess together—then chances are you might have been a little bit of a hot mess on your own. If you’re knee deep in splitsville because you were overly jealous, had some type of super destructive and unhealthy habit (drugs, binge drinking, etc), or brought drama to the relationship, then rekindling the flame and repeating these same behaviors again will yield the same results. If you’re split because he was cheating, make sure you’re ready to forgive him and let go of the hurt before you enter into second chance zone. The bottom line: Get yourself together first before you try to get him back. It’s like the oxygen mask on the plane—secure your own oxygen mask first, before you try to help someone else.

2. Understand why you want to get back together?
Be honest with yourself about why you want to get back together. Is it because it’s been a few months and you haven’t found someone new? Is it because you’re afraid you won’t find someone else with XYZ criteria? Is it because it was familiar and comfortable and you fear the unknown? Make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons, lest you find yourself cycling through unhealthy relationship after unhealthy relationship and repeating the same behaviors with different partners.

3. Listen to each other's complaints.
If you’ve examined your heart and decided you want to make amends, sit down and discuss the issues that triggered the break up. It may not be about who’s right or wrong; it may be about what you’re each willing to tolerate. If you can’t come to an agreement or get past this step, do you really want to go through this again? Remember that if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always had—you’ve got to try something new to get different results.

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10 Year Old Commits Suicide After Being Bullied For Colostomy Bag

A 10-year-old Kentucky boy committed suicide after being bullied incessantly by classmates, who reportedly picked on for using a colostomy bag.

Seven Bridges' mother found him dead in the closet on Saturday (Jan. 19). Tami Charles was reportedly out grocery shopping, and the boy's father Donnie was at a church choir practice. Charles called Seven, her only child, a miracle baby, as she was told that she wouldn't be able to have children.

"Seven had a tough start. He was born with a condition that required a colostomy bag. Even after several surgeries, he would still have problems with leaks. Charles said it became a reason for kids to make fun of him," reports WHAS11 in Kentucky. According to Charles, her son underwent 26 surgeries from the time he was born.

"WHAS11 talked to Charles and Seven in September after an alleged bullying incident on his bus ride home from Kerrick Elementary School," the site continues. This is unfortunately not the first time bullying has severely affected Seven and his family. "He said he was called the N-word by a student. His friend told him to beat-up that student, and when Seven refused, he said the bus buddy started choking him." This incident was detailed on Tami's Facebook page.

Seven, who was planning on going to another school to start sixth grade, was told by his mother than the bullying would end when he changed schools.

“The balls that were dropped,” Tami said of the flawed system that couldn't protect bullying victims at the school. “It wasn't that [Jefferson County Public Schools] didn't have these tools, they just weren't at our school. It wasn't that they didn't have these tools to help the victims of bullying, they just weren't there, they weren't used."

Due to the manner of the boy's death, insurance will not cover the costs of his funeral. If you'd like to help the family, please click here.

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Michael B. Jordan To Star In 'gen:LOCK' Anime Series

Michael B. Jordan will be lending his lady-loved voice to a new anime series,"gen:LOCK," for Rooster Teeth.

In the new series, Jordan will be playing Julian Chase. The show is described as "50 years in the future, where an oppressive authoritarian force threatens to conquer the world. So a daring team is recruited to pilot a new form of weaponized neuroscience that powers devastating mecha. However, this team must be willing to sacrifice everything to save the world," according to Shadow and Act.

“He is willing to lay his life on the line for the greater good. He had a lot of heroic qualities to him that made it easy for me to be like ‘cool, I want to voice this guy,’” Jordan told SyfyWire about his reason for picking the role.

Way too excited to show you guys the final trailer for #genLock all my real followers/fans know how much I’m an Anime fan and this show fulfilled one of my life-long dreams of voicing a character on an animated show. Jan 26th it’s going to get crazy on @roosterteeth

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The first two episodes of gen:LOCK will premiere on Jan. 26 on Rooster Teeth, which is available on iOS, Andriod, Xbox One, and Apple TV. (RoosterTeeth.com's memberships start at $4.99 a month.) Watch the trailer for the series up top.

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Kerry Washington To Star In And Produce 'American Son' Netflix Adaptation

Kerry Washington's Broadway banger, American Son, will be making its on-screen debut with Netflix.

Steven Pasquale (The Good Wife), Jeremy Jordan (Supergirl), Eugene Lee (A Soldier’s Play) and Washington will be reprising their groundbreaking roles from the thought-provoking Broadway production. Kenny Leon, who served as the play's original director, will be directing the picture and producing the film alongside the former Scandal actress.

The 41-year-old made the announcement on Monday night (Jan. 21) while appearing on The Tonight Show With Jimmy Fallon, where she gushed over her role as Kendra and the play's exploration into an interracial families search for their missing son in a Florida police station.

I love you @jimmyfallon 😍 thanks for letting me come on @FallonTonight and share this thrilling news about #AmericanSonPlay 😍😍😍😍 https://t.co/5sk97I4Co6

— kerry washington (@kerrywashington) January 22, 2019

Netflix’s Vice President of Original Content Cindy Holland said in a statement, “We are honored to work with Kerry Washington, [director] Kenny Leon, [writer] Christopher Demos-Brown and the entire cast to bring this story from the Broadway stage to our members around the world.”

The American Son production will come to a close this Sunday (Jan. 27) after a two month running at the Booth Theatre beginning in Nov. 2018. Watch Kerry Washington gush over American Son below.

 

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