The Truth About Snooping
Snooping wasn't always complicated. Women would easily rifle through their guys pockets, find evidence that he's been up to no good and call it quits. But gone are the days where a tiny piece of paper with a phone number scribbled on it was a sign of infidelity. Now there are so many ways to creep undercover and women are desperate to check them all.
If you find yourself alone with your man's iPhone and the temptation to run through it is overwhelming then you need to pause to consider the repercussions. What if you find something? What if you find nothing?
It's time to learn the truth about snooping and what it says about you—not your man.
The moment you start to investigate, you are on a mission to find something inappropriate. You have made up your mind that your man is doing something worth finding.
What most women aren't prepared for is the moment after they uncover the truth. For instance: Your man is having racy conversations with a stranger on social media, what are you going to do? Are you ready to break up? Are you ready to confront him directly? Or will you suppress your findings and pretend as if nothing is happening?
On the flip side, what if you find nothing? Will you feel relieved or will you look for another medium to investigate?
If you have time to obsess about what your partner may or may not be doing then you have to take a hard look at your priorities. If you are committed to accomplishing your goals then you shouldn't have a moment to devote to checking on what a grown man is doing.
If you feel the thoughts creeping up then find some busywork to do. There are far more important things going on in your life than policing your boo's inbox!
If you found yourself engaged in a few inappropriate conversations with someone other than your boyfriend or husband you may feel an itch to poke through his things to see if he's fallen off the wagon as well. In order to justify your actions you may try to make the man you love into a monster to soothe your guilty conscious.
Forgiving a cheating man is easier said than done. But what happens when you can't move on? Investigating your man's recent activity may be a sign that the trust has vanished from the relationship.
If you're still looking to salvage your love, try confronting him about your concerns instead of exploring his e-mails.