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10 Reasons Why (You May Not Want to Accept) You're Still Single

Black Folks | Frustrated Woman

A lot of females praise the single life are secretly yearning to be in a relationship. They believe they possess all the attributes it takes to attract and keep a man, yet they haven't been with a man in years. There's nothing wrong with feeling confident, but maybe there is something wrong with you.

Read below 10 factors that may be keeping you in singledom.


 

 

 

Aggressiveness and assertiveness

There's a big difference between being aggressive and assertive. Men like women who go after what they want not attack what they want. Don't be that girl.


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Save Some For Later

Why does he know about your upbringing, your family, all the pets you ever owned, and childhood friends on the first date? Slow down and breathe, let him slowly learn about you. The mystery of a woman intrigues the interest in a man.


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When He Speaks Believe Him

Women have great intuition; however, some women become infatuated with guys they aren't compatible with, in hopes that he will become the guy of their dreams. He wont, not for you anyway.  Too many times a man tells you he’s not looking for a relationship or, even worse, has ties with someone else. Next time, keep him as an acquaintance while patiently waiting for someone better to come along.


Too available

Why are you accessible all the time? If every time a potential suitor contacted you and you're always available, he'll lose interest. It’s okay if he wonders what you are doing, you aren’t married. Let him know your busy or at least let him think you are.


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Too career driven

This may be the one no one will agree with (especially men) but a man’s ego can’t take his lady being very busy and focused on her career. This is not a downplay on your hustle, but at some point you'll want to think about settling down. Men do it all the time; they don’t focus on a relationship because they are too focused on becoming established first.

To borrow a few lines from Jay-Z's "Lost Ones": 

I don't think it's meant to be, B
But she loves her work more than she does me
And honestly, at twenty-three
I would probably love my work more than I did she

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Too insecure

We get it. Nobodies perfect, but if all a guy hears about is how "unperfect" you are, he’s going to start to believe it too. Nothing is more of a turn off than a girl who is always pointing out her flaws and constantly complaining. The sexiest thing a lady wears is confidence. If you truly hate something about yourself change it, and if your unwilling to change it, shut up.


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Too Independent

Webbie said it good, I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T, Jay-z said it better “Get ya independent ass out of here, question?”  This is not to promote dependency, but you have to make a man feel as if he’s needed or he won’t want to be there. Whether it’s financially, emotionally, or physically, ease up your reigns and give the man some lead way. To put it simple: You should be able to do for yourself, but not have to do for yourself.

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Maybe you’re the problem

If you’re constantly getting cheated on, dumped, stood up, or ignored…you’re the common denominator. Are you too clingy, too easy, or too open? Maybe you should look at your past relationships with friends and see where you are going wrong.


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You’re a gold digger

You want a man who has money, yet you don’t have any yourself. It’s not about a come up, its about bringing what you have to the table. No man wants a girl he has to finance 100% of the time. Why do you expect a man to afford a certain lifestyle you can't afford yourself?


You’re too easy

Now a days people have sex within the first few months (some even weeks) but if you are always giving it up in the first few days, the relationship won't last. If a guy can get you to easily open your legs, he will think its that easy for every other guy. Give him something to work for; if he’s unwilling to work then you don’t need him.

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