Should You End Your Relationship? 5 Signs it’s Time to Call it Quits
Relationships are a huge topic of contention among women. Chances are, before we actually break up with someone, we’ve heard from our girls and our family that we should have done this a long time ago. Even when we don’t ask for advice, sadly, the peanut gallery is right. Here are five signs to start thinking about ending your relationship before the "I told you so's" roll in. —April Dawn Ricchuito
Your needs are consistently not being met.
Does he withhold affection, sex, or time? If this happens a few times, you can toss these instances in the trash him pile, but if it’s happening all the time then discuss it. And if that doesn't work, toss the relationship.
The sex is nonexistent—or you wish, anyway.
Sex is a big part of any romantic relationship, and it’s a good way to gauge how the relationship is going. If the sex is bad or you’re starting to find yourself giving the “I have a headache” excuse, this can be a huge indicator of other problems in the relationship. Are your needs being met? Is there intimacy? Can these issues be worked on or is it time to kick him out of the bedroom and out of your life? Think about it.
You keep trying to change him.
You are in a relationship with your partner—not your partner’s potential. Your partner's growth should be a bonus, not what’s keeping you in the relationship. If you find yourself wanting to change a lot of things about your partner, perhaps it’s time to consider a new boo.
You’re doing all the work.
A relationship involves two parties—your partner and you. In an ideal world, things would always be 50/50. But sometimes due to illness, work loads, child rearing, and other responsibilities, it doesn’t always pan out that way. There may be a time when either you or your partner have to do the lion’s share of the work to hold down the fort. But if you’re doing all the work, bring it to your partner’s attention, and if you don’t get help, see him to the door.
The unforgivable occurs.
Honor your deal breakers. Does your partner hate your family? Is he/she rude to your kids? Rude to your pets? Cheating? Abusive? If this is happening, don’t think twice; get out now.