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When The Glove Comes Off: Condom-Free Sex?

black-couple-bedHave you heard the chatter lately about birth control free sex? New York Magazine dubs us 20-something's "The Pull Out Generation". While the idea of ditching prophylactic's altogether sounds like a dream come true, there are many factors to consider before the glove comes off. Like...

1. STD's?

Barrier methods like condoms (both male and female) offer unmatched protection from embarrassing and life threatening STI's. Losing the protection shouldn't be an option if you aren't in a trusting/committed relationship. Leaving your life up to chance for a lusty one night stand or an uncommitted partner is risky behavior.

frustrated woman2. Shark Week

Have you ever seen a picture of a shark brain? Affectionately referring to our ever-frustrating menstrual cycles as shark week is totally fitting. Although we may experience horrifying side effects from hormonal birth control, the one benefit we can count on is shorter, lighter flows. If you're one of those poor women doubled over for a week due to menstrual pain, be very sure when you abandon the hormones altogether.

Man and Woman Sex3. Self Control

In order to perfect the pull-out method, you have to protect yourself on the days that you are ovulating. When you're most likely to conceive you have to take precautions, either turn down sex for the night or be diligent about your back up method-- condoms. You also have to trust your partner to pull-out right before the Big O to prevent any accidental pregnancies.

 

Pregnancy Test5. Pregnancy

Remember in health class when the teacher warned us about semen in the "pre-ejaculate" fluid?  Even if your man has 100% accuracy with pulling out, there is still a margin for error and pregnancy. One wrong cycle calculation or drunken sloppy night and you could be looking at that scary blue line. Talk to your man about how you two will handle a positive prego test. Make sure you're on the same page, otherwise you could face a Rasheeda/Kirk LHHA situation. Yikes!

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6. Is this the last resort?

So, birth control pills make you sick, IUD's are notorious for complications and spermicides and diaphragms are too old school. Is the pull-out method really the last resort to a satisfying and safe sex life? Be sure to exhaust every option science has afforded us before ruling out new-age birth control entirely!

PlanB One-Step7. Keep a backup on hand 

While Plan B isn't a form of long-term birth control, it does wonders to ease an anxious mind when taken as directed after an irresponsible romp. Keep Plan B within reach to cut down on time spent traveling to and from the pharmacy. Remember, the sooner you take it, the better chance it has at working!

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Keke Wyatt has news to share that concerns expanding her family tree. On Monday (Oct. 14), the "If Only You Knew" singer revealed that she's pregnant with her tenth child.

"My husband Zackariah Darring and I are so happy to announce that we are expecting our new bundle of joy!" she wrote on Instagram. "We are excited to welcome the 10th addition to our beautiful family."

The vocalist continued to state that fans can follow her pregnancy journey on her YouTube series The Keke Show where she gives an intimate look at how she balances her career and motherhood.

 

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My husband Zackariah Darring and I are so happy to announce that we are expecting our new bundle of joy! We are excited to welcome the 10th addition to our beautiful family. Stay tuned for the release date & information for my new YouTube Series “The Keke Show” where you will see me balancing Wife, Mommy and Artist!!! Trust me.. it’s never a dull moment with my family. Love ya sugars💋💋💋 photo credit: @keever_west Styled/Designed by: @keever_west Asst: @freddyoart

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In an interview with The Christian Post, Wyatt said she believes she has "an anointing with motherhood" and looks at her children as fuel to keep striving in her career.

"I just don't believe in shutting down. I believe in that's what the Lord had for me," she said. "Babies don't get in the way of careers, we get in the way of careers. If that's what the Lord had for me from the very beginning, there's nothing nobody can do and nobody can say."

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Summer Walker's Debut Album Inspires Drake To Write New Music

Summer Walker's debut album Over It has everyone's heart aflutter, including Drake.

Off the heels of her debut project, the Atlanta songstress shared Drake's admiration for her project Sunday (Oct. 6) which included collaborations from Jhene Aiko, Usher. 6LACK and Bryson Tiller. Drake had a strong reaction to "Fun Girl," a track that speaks to the acoustic aura of her precious project, CLEAR.

Sharing his love with more than a few emojis, the rapper reveals the song inspired him to pen two new songs at the crack of dawn.

 

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So I guess fun girl is his favorite song on the album, mines isss... BODY🥰 what’s yours ?

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Summer and Drake worked together for the remix to her breakout hit, "Girls Need Love." In Billboard's  “You Should Know” series, the singer says the two met via Instagram after he gushed about her visuals to the original track. "He said, 'I saw your video on a bowling alley monitor. Thought it was cool,'" she recalled. She added it was Love Renaissance's Justice Baiden who talked her into asking Drake for the remix. The singer is signed to the label along with Grammy-nominated singer 6LACK.

Things have been looking great for the singer. Her album has topped Spotify and YouTube since it's release Friday and is expected to make a nice debut on Billboard's 200 charts.

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Tinashe Resurfaces With Exciting Message: "I'm Back And Better"

Tinashe fans rejoice! After a hiatus, the Joyride artist resurfaced on Instagram Saturday (Sept. 28), in a brief video expressing that she's “back and better.”

After a tumultuous relationship with her label RCA, the singer-songwriter broke ties with the company. Since then, she's been hibernating in her “cave,” as she puts it.

"Creatively, I just feel like I needed to go through what I went through in order to be the person that I am today and to get back to my roots," she explained. "You pretty much put your heart and soul and emotions into all these songs and then you put them out there for the world to judge and tear down and pick apart. It's terrifying and it can really mess with your head."

 

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In an interview with VIBE, Tinashe expressed how important it is for her to stay true to herself and artistry. “It’s not even necessarily speaking up but coming to your own conclusions yourself and owning your own instincts and trusting in yourself and creative power,” she said. “I think that’s something that is always important to continue to maintain. It’s easy for that sometimes to get derailed, and it’s important to come back to that.”

During her recent statement, she broke down the importance of art and how it should be expressed through individuality and free expression, sans any boxes or limitations. Making people happy through her music is the goal.

"Music and art are supposed to be these wonderful beautiful things that bring people joy and happiness, and that's really why I started making music in the first place—to give people something that means something to them,” she said.

Although Tinashe did not say when fans can expect new music, she did share a snippet of what she’s been working on in the studio in a separate post. “I’m too emotional.”

 

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