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When The Glove Comes Off: Condom-Free Sex?

black-couple-bedHave you heard the chatter lately about birth control free sex? New York Magazine dubs us 20-something's "The Pull Out Generation". While the idea of ditching prophylactic's altogether sounds like a dream come true, there are many factors to consider before the glove comes off. Like...

1. STD's?

Barrier methods like condoms (both male and female) offer unmatched protection from embarrassing and life threatening STI's. Losing the protection shouldn't be an option if you aren't in a trusting/committed relationship. Leaving your life up to chance for a lusty one night stand or an uncommitted partner is risky behavior.

frustrated woman2. Shark Week

Have you ever seen a picture of a shark brain? Affectionately referring to our ever-frustrating menstrual cycles as shark week is totally fitting. Although we may experience horrifying side effects from hormonal birth control, the one benefit we can count on is shorter, lighter flows. If you're one of those poor women doubled over for a week due to menstrual pain, be very sure when you abandon the hormones altogether.

Man and Woman Sex3. Self Control

In order to perfect the pull-out method, you have to protect yourself on the days that you are ovulating. When you're most likely to conceive you have to take precautions, either turn down sex for the night or be diligent about your back up method-- condoms. You also have to trust your partner to pull-out right before the Big O to prevent any accidental pregnancies.

 

Pregnancy Test5. Pregnancy

Remember in health class when the teacher warned us about semen in the "pre-ejaculate" fluid?  Even if your man has 100% accuracy with pulling out, there is still a margin for error and pregnancy. One wrong cycle calculation or drunken sloppy night and you could be looking at that scary blue line. Talk to your man about how you two will handle a positive prego test. Make sure you're on the same page, otherwise you could face a Rasheeda/Kirk LHHA situation. Yikes!

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6. Is this the last resort?

So, birth control pills make you sick, IUD's are notorious for complications and spermicides and diaphragms are too old school. Is the pull-out method really the last resort to a satisfying and safe sex life? Be sure to exhaust every option science has afforded us before ruling out new-age birth control entirely!

PlanB One-Step7. Keep a backup on hand 

While Plan B isn't a form of long-term birth control, it does wonders to ease an anxious mind when taken as directed after an irresponsible romp. Keep Plan B within reach to cut down on time spent traveling to and from the pharmacy. Remember, the sooner you take it, the better chance it has at working!

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Kelly Rowland Says Her Highly-Anticipated Project Is "Definitely Coming"

Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

"I'm a huge fan," she said. "I love her writing and how detailed and particular she is. I always wanted to figure out how the heck she has so many different layers of harmonies when she is constructing these vocals, and it's so complex but simple. It's genius. It's the genius in her genius mind that she has in there." One of the last times the pair collaborated was on Rowland's "Simply Deep" track off her debut solo album of the same name. Solange also penned a few songs off the same project. Fast forward to 2016, and Rowland's vocals were featured on Solange's iconic A Seat at the Table.

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Teyana Taylor To Pay Homage To Ballroom Culture In "WTP" Video

Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.

 

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👀 1.19.19 👀 #WTP Directed by @teyanataylor & @ogbeefjones @theauntiesinc 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾 The wait is ALMOST over. 😏 @museumofsex

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Trina Braxton’s Ex-Husband, Gabe Solis, Dies After Battle With Cancer

Gabe Solis, the ex-husband of Trina Braxton, lost his battle with cancer, Thursday (Dec. 20),  TMZ reports. He was 43.

Solis passed away at his home in Texas, surrounded by friends and family, according to the outlet. No official details have been released about his passing.

Solis had reportedly been keeping his cancer battle private. His death came as a shock to his loved ones. On Friday (Dec. 21), Braxton seemingly mourned the loss of her ex-husband with a cryptic Instagram meme reading, “I need a hug..E bottle of wine.”

The former couple tied the knot in 2003, and appeared together on previous seasons of WEtv’s Braxton Family Values. Despite finalizing their divorce in 2015, Braxton and Solis confronted lingering issues from their marriage during an episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life, earlier in the year.

Braxton has since moved on to a new relationship, but remained friends with Solis.

 

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