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Keep Calm and Be Prepared: 15 Ways to Prepare for Black Friday

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Black Friday is just around the cold, brisk corner and it is time to get down to business. Enjoying Thanksgiving with your family has been cut short, and by 6pm you are headed out the door to secure your place on line for door busters at 8:00pm. Do you have everything you need? Are you sure? There is nothing worse then finding yourself  frazzled amongst thousands of people; lost, confused and bombarded. Black Friday is a true adventure and if you are not careful, it can leave you injured (seriously). For a productive and successful Black Friday shopping experience, follow these 15 tips:

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Have a Plan

First, make a list of the items you want to purchase from stores that you want to visit. Then, create a time schedule surrounding these questions: what time you want to be on the road, what amount of time you want to spend at each location, and most importantly, what time will you be finished? Once you have answered these questions, you will be immensely prepared to kick off you shopping spree.

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Have A Group

Recruit a group of about four people to help you with your Black Friday shopping. Make sure they are people who are physically and mentally able to help you during this hectic day.

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Visit the Store Before Hand

Learn the lay of the land. Know your way around the store, through the aisles, even visualize short cuts around the store . You might not know where sales will specifically be set up, but based off your previous Black Friday experience, you can figure out where certain key items will be. If your stop is the mall, then pin point the stores you want to visit and figure the quickest way to get to them and where you should park.

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Cash Only

Leave the checks, debit and credit cards are home. Cash is your best bet during your Black Friday shopping spree. Not only are to avoid debt, but with the high risk of cash registers burning out, you won't want to find your self leaving without anything.

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Assign Roles

When assemble your crew, assign certain roles to each person. Have someone hold a spot online, have someone grab movies, assign someone to grab video games, and you hold down the fort at electronics. Headed to the mall? No big deal. Have your crew divide and conquer. Assign each one a specific store with a list of your desired items.

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Determine a Meeting Place

After assigning roles to your crew, designate a meeting place to meet up after purchases are complete.

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Non Confrontational

Black Friday is a perfect equation for bad tempers, fights and arguments. There is no need to be petty, rude, and mean. If the TV you wanted is sold out, don't look to steal out of others carts, don't tug over the last sweater in your size, and don't physically assault another for a game your brother wants. Remember: it is not that serious.

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Don't Make A Mess

Whether you are in Target, Wal-Mart, Old Navy, or Gap, shop with care. Try not to make a mess. The associate that are at work are probably already pissed that there are missing out on spending time with their family (not by choice), and have to tend to your wants and needs. Let's try not to make their jobs harder. If you knock a pile of shirts on the floor, pick it. Need help finding a size? Ask an associate to help you, instead of ransacking the display table.

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Carry Snacks

Nuts, fruit, and water are perfect snacks that will give you energy and rehydrate you. So when you start to feel groggy you know what to do.

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Be Comfortable

Sneakers, Sweats, and a cross body is your uniform for the big day. You are going to be doing a lot of walking, standing, and maybe a bit of running. Hurting feet and hot flashes are a no-go Friday.

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Leave the Kids at Home

Black Friday shopping is for people 16 years and older. Children under this age are restricted from the chaos and confusion of Black Friday. Why? In the midst of trying to get your hands on whatever commodity you want, who wants to tend to crying, tired, and cranky children? Drop the kiddes off your moms, sister, uncle, hire a baby sitter; then go forth and shop.

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Be Patient

Black Friday shoppers all have the same goal: to get as much as they can for as little as possible. Ironically, this is more reason to remain as patient as possible, especially to the associates and cashiers you come in contact with. People are going to be asking them millions of questions, needing their assistance, and of course giving them a hard time. Put your self in their shoes and be a understanding.

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Communication

As your crew disperse to their designated areas, there is a need for constant communication. Create a group chat, invest in walkie-talkies, or just simply have your phone in hand. You will have a better understanding of what is going on and better control over your shopping experience that day. BTW: Make sure everything is fully charged.

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Rest Up

After that second plate of food and the itis has made it was to your tummy, its time to turn in. With 8:00pm Thursday sales, you and your crew need to catch some early Z's. You guys are going to be hustling for the next 12 hrs. So plan dinner a bit earlier this year. We don't want you to literally  shop til you drop.

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Don't Do Too Much

There is going to be hundreds of sales at hundred of places. You don't have to make your way to each and every one of those locations. Three stores should be your absolute limit.

Happy Shopping!

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