Porsha Stewart Talks Life After Divorce, Shares Beauty Secrets and Explains Why She’s Ready to Date Outside Her Race
Breakups can be hard—and when you’re in the public eye it can be a complete hot mess. If any woman knows a thing or two about breaking up on camera, it’s Porsha Stewart. Since her husband Kordell Stewart filed for divorce in March, it’s been a whirlwind of drama for the Real Housewives of Atlanta superstar.
He said, she said aside, Porsha sat down with us to discuss how this Fall is shaping up to be a banner season for the reality TV star. Who is Porsha 5.0? How has she changed? And what type of man is she looking for now? We dig deep and learn that Porsha is just like us: a smart young woman looking to give and receive true love.
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VIBE Vixen: I hear you’re keeping your name. What’s your thought process behind that?
Porsha Stewart: Life is a journey. I was born Porsha Williams, but I was given to a husband that didn’t work out, but at the end it still was a part of my life. I’ll give up that name when I meet my next husband, but until then it’s really not necessary. The name [Stewart] meant something to me, there’s sentimental value with my name it’s not like ‘oh I hate him so take his name back’ it’s my name too. It’s the name that everybody knows. At the end of the day, this is business. I’m on a platform and I’m building businesses and people know me as Porsha Stewart and when you build a brand you have to work with what you got.
Do you think Kordell is a bad person?
No, just not good for me.
So what has been the hardest part of dealing with the divorce?
You find yourself at different points in your life and you realize that you have to refocus. I need to secure my future. I’m not even concentrating on the divorce, I’m trying to move past that.
Do you think that you’ll ever get married again?
Oh yes, definitely. I’m a hopeless romantic. I still have big dreams. I still have big hopes and I believe in that fairytale. I believe it can happen because I’m blessed and I’m highly favored so all I need to do at this moment in time is get myself in a position where I feel complete, and then I’ll meet someone who can compliment me. It may not be what everyone else thinks it needs to be, but I’ll find him.
I would love someone who is God-fearing. If he is God-fearing then it means he is disciplined and he’s not living his life by his own say-so. He’s submissive to a higher power.
Someone who has a specific religion and a specific doctrine so we could fall back on because I feel like in a relationship if you don’t have any foundation, then it’s just the two of you deciding what you’re going do together. I made it in my marriage as long as I did because even when I was upset and pissed and mad or whatever I would ask ‘what is love?’ and I would always go back and read that love was kind and endured. If I did not have that I would just be mad and I wouldn’t know how to show love. So for me it wasn’t always about a man telling me he loved—you have to show me. I want him to be successful, I want a man with a plan because I’m a woman with a plan and I want us to do it together. I want us to be a power couple.
Do you think Kordell is God-fearing?
He’s spiritual. But, you don’t know when somebody prays—you don't know their relationship with God. They could be praying on the toilet, so I really can’t speak on his spirituality. I just know that I had moved too far from God towards the end of my marriage and I felt like once it ended I needed to get back to that place and once I got back to that place it came right back. I got my joy back and that’s one thing that nobody can take from me.
What about the looks department?
At this point, race isn’t a factor for me. I am open for love in whatever way that it comes. My heart is not closed. This far in the process I’ve gotten away with not becoming bitter. It’s an everyday fight because you go through being depressed, and then you’re confused and upset. I know what I deserve and I want to be open to it. So I wake up every single day and I’m like ‘you are loved and you accept and you give love’ and those are things that I tell myself just to keep my spirit open.
Did you think you would ever be in situation years ago?
No, of course not. When you get married you have to know what you want. You have to think of the worst case scenario. For me, even in the worst-case scenario divorce wasn’t an option so, no I did not foresee this. But now that I’m here I never knew I was this strong. You never know how strong you are until you’re put in a particular situation. Everybody has imparted their wisdom to me and helped encourage me through this situation. Even the fans and the supporters of the show and of me have reached out with their prayers and everything so I’m very blessed in this situation.
And you want kids one day, right?
Oh yea, definitely, real fast. I definitely want to have a child.
Will you stay in the Atlanta area?
Atlanta is home so I’ll always have a home in Atlanta, but I wouldn’t mind having a condo somewhere else just so I can be able to get out. Sometimes when you’re in Atlanta for too long and you start moving and shaking and doing things in Atlanta people can get really jealous. Sometimes you have to mix it up and get out and come back, but I try to keep myself around people who are positive. I want to learn something from them, and hopefully they get something from me.
Wendy Williams recently said that you were spoiled. What are your thoughts on that?
Yeah, I am. There is nothing wrong with being spoiled. I’m also humble and I spoil the people who are around me. She called me spoiled because of my mom gave me her room. My mom and I have a wonderful relationship. I am blessed to have my mom and if she wants to give me her room and make sure that I’m comfortable, that’s her way.
But eventually you’ll move out?
You gotta keep watching the show!
Who exactly is Porsha 5.0 ?
Porsha 5.0 is fun-loving. I am multi-faceted. I’m free-spirited. I am outspoken and very straightforward. I just no filter this season. They started filming me a month before everybody else because of my situation and I didn’t put on or do anything extra for the cameras. I didn’t even act like they were around.
Let’s talk about your new hair line, Go Naked. What can we expect from it? Why is it amazing?
Women should definitely get down with the Naked hair movement because I hand selected the hair. I have been researching the hair unofficially for at least ten years. I tried different vendors and then for the past two years I knew I wanted to start a hairline so I would test different vendors. I had two that it came down to and the one that I ended up selecting, and it is just wonderful. The hair is one hundred percent human hair. All the cuticles are intact which is very, very important because that means that it accepts dye very, very well. Also, after you dye the hair the texture and the integrity of the hair is still intact. Also, the cuticles are all in the same direction, which is a good thing. I’ve given the hair to a lot of hairstylists and every single one of them the biggest thing they love about the hair is the weft. It’s flexible; it’s easy if you’re trying to sew it in so they love that. The price point is very affordable, it’s only $72 for a bundle.
Tell us about the music project you have coming up.
I’m working on a song right now called “Perfectly Worthless”. I’m working with a producer named Pierre. I’ll be releasing that single within the next couple of months.
The song is all about passion and pain. I feel like this song is going to be a woman’s anthem for her to gather herself up and move on and realize who she is and what she’s worth. I went into the studio at a very emotional point in my life and I’m very proud of that. I also have a teeth whitening line. It’s not out yet, but it will be soon.
Wow! Why teeth whitening?
I was bullied in junior and high school—people talked about me having big teeth for years, and now that I’m an adult I’ve grown into my teeth. I became obsessed with teeth whitening, so I actually tried different products and I landed on one that I loved. It’s perfect!
How do you find time to do all this?
Well, I have time now. Running a household was a lot. People think that housewives don’t have anything to do. I was juggling my husband, my stepson, and make sure the house was maintained, make sure I was maintained, that was a lot. So now, I’m putting all my time and energy into things that I want to do.
Is being a housewife something you enjoyed doing? Or was it a chore?
To be honest with you, the divorce has been bittersweet. It’s sweet because I got my voice back and I’ve gotten back to Porsha. But it’s bitter because I love to take care of people—cooking and cleaning and all that. It felt good for me to cook a meal and have you sit down and eat it. I love that.
Which lady on the Real Housewives do you relate to the most?
I really relate to a couple people—but especially Kandi. I just love and adore her. I’m in her upcoming play ‘A mother’s love’ which is based loosely on her relationship with Todd and then my character is loosely based around my relationship with my ex. Kandi’s from Atlanta, born and raised and she and I just have that down south personality. We’re laid back, down to earth, and we know how to just be real. Also, Nene is just super cool and supportive.
I actually gave her this advice in person. I told her what she needs to do is to of course respect her mother like she’s doing and show, but she also needs to understand she’s a grown woman and she has a life to live. She should marry Todd and do everything she wants to do and her mom will jump on the bandwagon. I feel like her mom is just a little scared right now, that’s all.
Right, she wants to protect her.
Right, and our moms are very much alike. My mom is very protective. The moms of Real Housewives of Atlanta don’t play about their children so I said just go with it, follow your heart and get married.
How did you reach this point of self-awareness?
Prayer. I was most aware of who I was and who I belonged to right before I got married when I was 25. I was very spiritual and very much into the church and for me I was just lost after the divorce. I hadn’t really been going to church that much.
We have a lot of readers who are always going through tough break-ups. What’s your advice to these ladies.
My advice would be to remember what they originally wanted to get out of the relationship. A lot of times when you get in a relationship you put on blinders and you ignore the red flags and you just move right along with it because he’s cute. If you break up with somebody, and you point your finger then that’s bad. I had to accept some of the blame and accept that I’ve swept some things under the rug
What did you sweep under the rug?
There were just different things I swept under the rug and acted like it was ok and it really wasn’t and again that’s a way that you allow yourself to be treated. So once you accept the blame for your part in the break up then you start working on you from the inside out.
Sounds like you should write a book!
I will. Absolutely. I went through a lot in that two-year marriage. It was two years but there was a child that was going be born. I feel like I don’t know it all, but I feel like I have the gift of the discernment and I can sense what people need to know. I definitely want to write a book and I don’t know what type of book it’ll be but I have a lot to say but not right now, I have a lot on my plate.
You’re very beautiful on and off the show, what are your beauty secrets?
Thank you! I’m glad you asked me that! I’m actually looking to start my own makeup line to be launched in February. People love my eyelashes. They love my shadows and I’m going to offer that to people and share it.
As for my secrets, I wash my face with Neutrogena, and sometimes I put cortisone on my face. Sometimes when you wake up and your skin is dry and you put make up it’s like an ash bomb, so on those days I put Neutrogena on and cortisone on and let it sit and then later on I’ll wash it off.
How long do you let it sit?
Just a couple of hours; while I’m cooking dinner or watching The Real Housewives of Atlanta. I’ll go back and wipe it off and I don’t put anything on my face after that. Even better than cortisone is coconut oil. It’s amazing.
If you wake up in the morning and have blemishes, take a lemon and cut it in half and just rub it on those areas and let it sit for about twenty minutes and then you come back and wipe that off and it’ll help get rid of your blemishes.
Do you have a signature fragrance?
Coco Chanel. I wear that every day. And Vera Wang. Those are two that I just love.
Do you have any other make up favorites?
I like ‘Snob’ lipstick by MAC. And a good highlighter. Once I put foundation on, I look very bland so I have to come back and highlight my nose and cheeks.