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Vixen Vent: Should You Follow Your Man On Social Media?

Remember when Facebook relationship status’ pledged it’s allegiance to the one you loved? Switching from “single” to “taken” was a celebratory moment and a progressive leap into a whole new relationship territory; it was the day you and your man stopped avoiding the dangers of the big-bad word: commitment.

Give us the public platform to pretty much say and do whatever it is we want, and we will; no filter attached. So when it comes to being in a relationship, is it wise to follow your man on Twitter and Instagram knowing that boundaries DO NOT exist?

TheGrio sat down with Love and Hip Hop‘s, Tahiry and Joe Budden, discussing, well…arguing over Budden’s hardcore social media presence; pretty much proving that following any guy you’re in a relationship with, is a recipe for diasaster. Imagine finding out the guy you’re dating is one of those cyber creeps who frequently likes the booty pics on IG, or the type to tweet about suspect late nights that you didn’t know about?

When the social media monster presented itself to me, I wasn’t prepared for it. I dating a guy for 2 years, until I found out his Facebook page was a home for the misguided, fatherless girls who’d do anything for some attention. And once I was in, I couldn’t get out. I became addicted to his responses and awaited the moment to have the inevitable “this isn’t working,” talk.

Whether the relationship is fresh or deep in, the fear of finding out about all of his weird fetishes, crazy ex’s and personal views on women, should cause any woman to hesitate over the “follow” button. Do you trust your man enough to be apart of his social media life?

Listen to what Joe and Tahiry had to say about their relationship and the affects of social media at VIBE VIXEN

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While presumably watching the highly-discussed Portland Trailblazers’ first-round series against the Oklahoma City Thunder, where Damian Lillard made an impressive, game-winning shot.

“If Portland’s coach could say the N word that was the perfect time. This N word just hit that sh*t. WOW,” he wrote in response to the shot. People who follow the actor-comedian or are just passing by are urging him to take down the tweet.

“Yeah this is why i have a problem with us letting these white folks all the way into the culture, because at the end of the day…” one Twitter user wrote under the tweet. Another responded, “Cookout invite retracted there, sir!”

Owen, who has been seen in many  predominantly black-lead films such as Think Like A Man and The Little Man, has not taken the tweet down yet.

yeah this is why i have a problem with us letting these white folks all the way into the culture, because at the end of the day...

— tiago sosa (@royce_rude) April 24, 2019

Been up too long...ain’t no deleting it now. Cookout invite retracted there, sir! pic.twitter.com/8VperfnuPW

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The rapper, born Bernard Freeman, shot a suspected robber at his home in Houston, Texas. ABC13 reports the incident happened Tuesday (April 23) afternoon when the suspect rang the doorbell. With Walls under the assumption that it was a delivery, opened to the door. The suspect then held Walls at gunpoint in an effort to demand property, with Walls directing him to the Audi in the family's garage.

Bun B reportedly heard the commotion and grabbed his gun. A shootout occurred as the robber attempted to climb into the car. He later took off on foot, leaving his weapon behind and sought medical assistance at the Houston hospital for a gunshot wound to the shoulder.

The suspect was charged on two counts of aggravated robbery with a weapon and one count of burglary.

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Merriam-Webster Dictionary To Add Eminem's Version Of "Stan"

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Putting Slim Shady's "Stan" video into literary text, Merriam-Webster defines the title as "an extremely or excessively enthusiastic and devoted fan" or "to exhibit fandom to an extreme or excessive degree: to be an extremely devoted and enthusiastic fan of someone or something." In 2017, the Oxford English Dictionary also added "stan" to its pages.

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— Merriam-Webster (@MerriamWebster) April 23, 2019

In a lyric annotation for Genius, Eminem broke down the latter part of the chorus ("And even if I could it'd all be gray/But your picture on my wall/It reminds me that it's not so bad, it's not so bad"), performed by Dido, and shared how those lines set the stage for the rest of the song.

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