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10 New Years Resolutions That Never Work

2014 New Years Resolutions

In just a few weeks, we'll say "adios" to 2013 and welcome a new year. Chances are you have the wheels turning on some New Years resolutions, both old and new. We love the idea of starting fresh, but it's easier said than done, especially when it means making a huge adjustment. Why don't resolutions work? Perhaps it's the pressure of an entire new year to face. Maybe the number of goals far exceed our ability to make them happen.

Either way, it's a vicious cycle we love to put ourselves through. Keep reading for 10 resolutions that never work.

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Getting in shape

You vow to put down the twinkies and pick up a dumbbell, but do you actually follow through? Of course, not. Twinkies are too delicious to quit anyway.

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Putting Down the Cigarettes

We wish a lot more of you would actually make this happen. Grab a patch, buy some Nicotene, flush them down the toilet. There's nothing sexy about smoking.

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Travel

If there's something hard working people are bad at, it's taking a vacation. How many times have you said, "I need a break?" Did you actually take one? Probably not.

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Drink Less

Here's how this one usually goes. You go out on New Year's Eve, get plastered and wake up the next morning feeling like a truck just hit you. Then you declare that last night's drink was your last one for at least awhile.....until happy hour the next weekend.

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Get Out of Debt

If you have Sallie Mae loans, why are you even attempting this one? In an ideal world, we'd love to save and start fresh, but this rarely happens.

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Better Balance Between Work/Personal Life

Yea, yea, yea. You promise to leave work when you're supposed to and spend more time with family and friends. Another unfulfilled promise.

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Get Organized

Perhaps it's time to go through that pile of papers on your desk? The only problem is you start a new pile in the process; and another ugly cycle of mess continues.

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Read More

The last time you read a book was in college when you were forced to and now you feel bad. However, with everything moving online, not many of us are eager to get a library card.

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Go To Church

God bless the person who makes it to church every Sunday after the New Year.

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Volunteer

Dedicating time to the less fortunate should be on everyone's resolution list, but it seldomly happens.

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