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13 Reasons Why You're Single


So, you're a  twenty something basking in the single life...and you hate it. Somehow you just can't find a keeper and when you do, you're always running into obstacles that ship you right back onto lonely island. Here are 13 reasons you're probably single!

1. It's ALL About You!

One of the perks of being a young twenty something is that you have an extended grace period to embrace being totally selfish. You may still be lingering in the phase where everything is about you while enjoying the freedom of answering to no one. Be smart, start thinking of others.


2. Every Bouncer and Party Promoter Knows Your Name

You are living it up and everything you do entails the VIP treatment. When do you have time to settle down if you make party hopping a priority? In a relationship you'll have to bid farewell to those old  single life habits.


3. Friday Nights Turn Into Stranger Hookups and One Night Stands

If your Friday nights end up anything like a Katy Perry track, then you're just not ready to graduate out of the single world yet. You're having so much fun that you've developed a lifestyle of living free, hooking up with strangers and bed hopping around town.

Don't think for a second that other guys aren't talking about you!



4. Everything You Eat Or Cook Is Microwavable

I promise it only takes mastering four main dishes  to win over a mans heart. They really aren't THAT picky about your cooking skills. Nobody is asking you to transform into Betty Crocker or Martha Stewart overnight, but whipping up your old college struggle foods like roman noodles, or TV dinners can't be a specialty of yours. Nail down two great breakfast dishes, one pasta meal and learn your way around the kitchen.


5.  You're Too Much Like One Of The Guys

You will enjoy a nice and long unsatisfied single life if you are constantly being casted into the friend zone. Does the guy of your affection see your sexy and desirable side? You have to be two types of women; the Susie homemaker and the Marilyn Monroe.


6. You're Already In a Relationship, With Your Career

Navigating through our twenties, landing a great job and the perfect career can become all we think about.  This may not be the best time for allotting and balancing time between your work and having a man. Yes, you deserve to have it all, and in due time you will—but all work and no play is a recipe for lonely nights.

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7. You Continue To Sleep With Your Asshole Ex

You can't be open to a new and healthy relationship if you're still somehow connected to your past. If a few drinks have you crawling into your ex's inbox—or even his bed—then you don't have the closure you need to move on.


8.  Your Girlfriends Run Your Life!

From what you wear, to the man you date, you're constantly seeking your friends approval. Love your friends, but be careful with letting them have influence over your personal decisions. Don't always let them steer you away from possibilities and opportunities—even if they have your best interest at heart!

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10. Defeated By Daddy Issues!

Battling issues with men can have a lot to do with your relationship with your father. You may not have been exposed to having strong male figures in your life, and for that reason it can be difficult for you to build healthy relationships in the dating world. Is all your baggage and heavy insecurities getting in the way? As tough as it is to overcome, you don't have to be defeated by being the girl with daddy issues. Learn from your past and move on!

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11. You Barely Know Yourself , How Can You Get To Know Someone Else?

Before you can give your all to someone, you should be as close to whole as possible. If you haven't learned who you are by now—you can't be emotionally prepared to invest in another.

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12. Messy, Messy Baby Daddy Drama

Your child may be the love of your life, but you are constantly in war between you and the father's child. What guy wants to walk into the ruins of a bad relationship? Clean up any drama before dragging another guy into your situation.


13. Men Are Scared of You

Nothing is worst than being a scorned, bitter, angry woman set out to attack any harmless guy that crosses your path. Listen man eater, you won't leave the playing field until you stop scaring men off by being a consistent Negative Nancy or a Bitter Betty. Reveal a softer side.

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Months of abuse led to the suicidal tweet posted by Chicago native CupcakKe, earlier this month. In a lengthy message posted to her Twitter account over the weekend, the 21-year-old rapper admitted that she’s been battling depression, brought on by an abusive ex-boyfriend.

In the post titled “my disturbing read,” CupcakKe accuses a man named, Christopher Terrell, of stealing her credit cards and terrorizing her throughout their relationship.

“This is someone I’ve been dating for the past [five] months,” she wrote in the now deleted post. “Out of the kindness of my heart I gave this man over [$30,000] during this period [of] time because I understand how it feels to be without (especially after me being homeless). He also has threatened to shoot my mom in the face [and] has threatened me on multiple occasions [and] said he can do it because he will get away with it!!!! I have screenshots, recorded calls, bank statements and all types of proof.

“Me being stupid in love I have [taken] this man back multiple times but every time I take him back the abuse gets [worse],” she added.

Further in the post, CupcakKe explains that her depression from feeling trapped in the relationship resulted in her contemplating suicide. “He [has] snatched off my wig in public, broke phones [and] continues to traumatize me every step of the way! This is what [led] to my ‘I’m committing suicide’ tweet…I have called the cops multiple times and they have yet to do anything about it,” she wrote, adding that Terrell is threatening her with revenge porn. She also admitted to posting his number on social media, and the numbers of women that he “plotted” with  to steal her money.

“Yes I am wrong for that,” she said. “But by me sending this message out it is not for harm to be sent his way, it’s for the police to make things way more serious!!!! Also this message is for every young girl or anyone in general that is struggling with abuse right now. I get u (once you see the first sign) leave!!!”

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@Chicago_Police y’all really need to do something about @CupcakKe_rapper and her situation, she’s mentioned reaching out to y’all multiple times about this and nothings happened! Please do something before it’s too late... pic.twitter.com/ZczGq1jmcK

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Kelly Rowland Says Her Highly-Anticipated Project Is "Definitely Coming"

Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

"I'm a huge fan," she said. "I love her writing and how detailed and particular she is. I always wanted to figure out how the heck she has so many different layers of harmonies when she is constructing these vocals, and it's so complex but simple. It's genius. It's the genius in her genius mind that she has in there." One of the last times the pair collaborated was on Rowland's "Simply Deep" track off her debut solo album of the same name. Solange also penned a few songs off the same project. Fast forward to 2016, and Rowland's vocals were featured on Solange's iconic A Seat at the Table.

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Teyana Taylor To Pay Homage To Ballroom Culture In "WTP" Video

Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.


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