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The Ultimate Guide To Becoming a Happier You!


Do you aim to live a happier life? With the day to day stresses of careers, relationships and the weight of the world around us, it seems becoming at peace with ourselves is a never ending battle. Follow our guide to get you living and becoming a happier you!

1. Stop worrying

Stress is a main factor that tends to spiral us into depression. Everyday, thoughts are accumulating a mile a minute and our brains never catch a break.

Try to save, set achievable goals and worry less about the things  you do not have yet.

Once you start focusing on the good in your life, you allow yourself the freedom to think positive and enter a grateful and happier space. Remember: there is power is in the tongue; start speaking greatness and abundance into your world.

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2. Develop Stress Relievers

Combat any stress that you have with stress relieving tactics. Join a local soul cycle class, boot camps, organize a weekly work out routine, dance like no one is watching and even include lots of sex into your happy diet regime. They all help release much needed endorphins!

Endorphins are brain chemicals that release a feeling of well being and happiness through exercising, excitement, pain, spicy food consumption, love and sexual activity. So get to it!

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3. Learn How To Forgive (And Let Go)

Sometimes the main component contributing to our sadness, are the situations and people we can't let go. As influential our friends and relationships are to our well being, it's vital to have a forgiving heart in order to experience the highest element of happiness.

If someone has hurt you, make it a life mission to forgive them. Sometimes life throws us curve balls and puts obstacles in our path. What determines how you survive and who you become depends on how well you train your heart to overcome each unpleasant situation. Learn to forgive and move on!

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4. Counteract Negative Thoughts With Positive Ones

If you're embarking on a spiritual journey or have ever watched the movie, The Secret, then you know there is unlimited power in your thoughts and tongue. Often times we encounter a million of useless thoughts—whether it be those of fear or doubt, manifesting our thoughts into actions. Learn how to separate what is true from what is not. Prepare yourself to put positive thoughts into the universe that will cater to your destiny.


5. Participate In Life

Hiding behind four walls, or engaging constantly on twitter, vine and IG won't lead you to an abundant and happy life. Throw all of your social gadgets away once in awhile and start participating in this thing called LIFE.

Get a karaokee team, visit an opera for the first time, travel, be silly, do something that excites you without feeling compelled to capture it for the world to see. Start living a genuine life where you're involved and enjoying it for yourself. Not for "likes."



6. Laugh More

Everyone knows how positive emotions work. First comes a happy feeling, followed by a smile or a laugh. Pretty simple right? But did you know laughter relaxes the whole body, relieving physical tension and stress. Your muscles are left relaxed for up to 45 minutes after. It also decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, which improves your resistance to diseases. Also laughing protects the heart and is another technique to releasing endorphins, that promote an overall sense of well-being!


7. Foster Strong Friendships and Relationships

Having positive people in your corner can contribute to a flowing release of good emotions. You need to develop strong relationships with other people to assist you through pivotal and tumultuous times in life. Positive human interaction is important to successful living, so if you are anti-social or surrounded by negativity then you may want to make the effort for change.

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8. Do Something Meaningful

I don't know about you, but the best part of Christmas isn't the receiving, it's giving. Spending your hard earned money on gifts that you know will make others happy. That same spirit should be applied to other facets of life. We all have a purpose here, and being valuable to someone or something is just one of them. You'll be a happier person learning the art of giving back and doing things for a good cause.


9. Pray and Meditate

Studies continue to show that those who pray or are religious lead to better health and longer life.

Prayer and meditation allows you to clear your mind, casting out your worries and endless thoughts; even if it's for the time being. Developing a strong prayer and meditation routine provides clarity and a effective way to control your negative thinking. By spending some time in personal reflection, you'll gain a greater wisdom of your mission in life, concentration and produce deeper levels of gratitude.

By spending some time in personal reflection, you’ll gain a greater wisdom of your mission in this life, and you’ll be better able to appreciate all that you’ve been given, both good and bad. - See more at: http://evagregory.com/the-benefits-of-meditation-and-prayer-in-everyday-life/#sthash.HWfSecm4.dpuf

Both peace of mind and happiness are true benefits of meditation and prayer. Everyone is seeking happiness in their lives, and when you’re able to find peace of mind through prayer and meditation, you’re also welcoming happiness into your life.

By spending some time in personal reflection, you’ll gain a greater wisdom of your mission in this life, and you’ll be better able to appreciate all that you’ve been given, both good and bad. Meditation and prayer help banish those negative thoughts that threaten your peace of mind.

- See more at: http://evagregory.com/the-benefits-of-meditation-and-prayer-in-everyday-life/#sthash.HWfSecm4.dpuf

Both peace of mind and happiness are true benefits of meditation and prayer. Everyone is seeking happiness in their lives, and when you’re able to find peace of mind through prayer and meditation, you’re also welcoming happiness into your life.

By spending some time in personal reflection, you’ll gain a greater wisdom of your mission in this life, and you’ll be better able to appreciate all that you’ve been given, both good and bad. Meditation and prayer help banish those negative thoughts that threaten your peace of mind.

- See more at: http://evagregory.com/the-benefits-of-meditation-and-prayer-in-everyday-life/#sthash.HWfSecm4.dpuf


10. Eat Healthier and Take Vitamins

On the road to happiness, maintain a healthy lifestyle that includes being cautious of what you are downloading into your body. We are not only what we eat, but certain foods tweak our brain chemistry to help us stay happy, energized and even calm.  According to Elizabeth Somner, author of Eat Your Way To Happiness, foods have the power to significantly boost your mood and alter your stress levels.

Why do we have an attraction to sweets? Because they raise levels of those brain chemicals called endorphins. Chocolates boost levels of brain chemicals that give us a euphoric or "in love" feeling, similar to the fats in fish, which can result in a feeling of happier or smart. However, bad fats in meat clog our blood vessels in the brain, which tends to muddle our thinking and overall mood. Eat smart.


11. Surround Yourself With The Color Blue

Colors play an important role in brain identity—it can ignite emotions, draw consumers to products and impact our brain recognition. Red, yellow and orange, are used to evoke feelings of happiness, optimism, energy and hunger.

According to studies, blue evokes feelings of calmness and spirituality as well as security and trust. Seeing this color causes the bod to create chemicals that are calming. Hence the connected feeling you receive when sitting by the ocean or staring into the sky.


12. Take Sleep Seriously

Who has time to sleep, these days? Well, you'd be happy to know that research shows more people would be happier, healthier and safer if they acquired the appropriate amount of sleep every night. Sleep improves memory, increases our ability to concentrate, strengthens the immune system, and decreases risk of being killed in accidents. And it's all for the price of nothing! A happier you, completely free.


13. Enjoy The Outdoors

Sometimes it's hard pulling away from the weekly sitcoms and dramas! After work, we'd like nothing more than to catch up on our favorite programs. Subconsciously and often times, we're just uprooting our stress to watching someone else's. Step away from your television more, and enjoy the outdoors, whether it's going for a nature walk, hiking, or a jog at a local park.

Remember as kids, our parents would demand for us to go outside and play—we need that same discipline to attain our childlike joy that has become so aloof from our every day reality.

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14. Say  What You  Need To Say

Have you ever swallowed yourself whole because there are words you are holding back from saying or feelings that you have yet to express? Because of fear we may not be expressing ourselves to experience that euphoric feeling of closure, or to simply feel better.

As John Mayer sang, "even if your hands are shaking, say what you need to say." It's better to say too much, then never to say what you need to say again. Be brave and stop fearing the non-existent repercussions of what could happen.

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Insert Vogue, who decided to give props to Kim Kardashian for bringing back crimped hair on Friday (March 15). The businesswoman has been on the move lately, rocking a mix of kanekalon and yaki ponytails during fashion month, Chance The Rapper's wedding and other Kardashian-related events.

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Janet Jackson

The singer's look for her comeback has been a uniform-like one, with Ms. Jackson rocking all black and her now signature ponytail.


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Ruth E. Carter

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And we cannot forget about our queen, Naomi Campbell

She's owned the look her whole career, from the runway to the red carpet, Ms. Campbell has always been on the forefront of casual beautiful looks.

Social media also got wind of Vogue's post, including actor O'Shea Jackson who like many of us, is just over it.

Maaaaaaan come on now. Come ooooon now. Bringing it back? Vogue stop this https://t.co/FEGSw3GM9V

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Shadow & Act reported Wednesday (March 12), the untitled series will also star singer-actor Leslie Odom Jr. of Hamilton fame and is based on real-life married progressive pastors Touré Roberts and Sarah Jakes-Roberts. penned by Saladin K. Patterson (The Last O.G., The Big Bang Theory), the comedy  "revolves around Omari and Hope, who are joint pastors at a young, hip, diverse church in Los Angeles. Through their services, online streams and books, they are experts at uniting people across different races, genders, orientations and opinions. But when it comes to uniting the people in their blended family, they are way out of their comfort zone, and as a result, the teachers often find themselves the pupils."

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