Jada Pinkett-Smith's Most Inspirational Facebook Posts
From A Different World to blockbuster films, Jada Pinkett Smith's evolution isn't limited to acting-- she's also grown as a wife, mother, band mate, philanthropist, business owner and motivational speaker. If you follow her on Facebook, you're also privy to her daily words of inspiration. She may not know all of her fans by name, but we're all friends in her eyes.
Check out some of our favorite Jada Facebook posts so far. If you love what you read, be sure to follow her on Facebook.
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"I woke up with a exhilarating thought this morning which was, it's okay that many of us are not in thee exact place we desire to be in life. I have been discovering along the way that life is all about making mistakes, and figuring out how to learn from them in order to enhance our lives. We continually forget that life is about discovering ourselves and our purpose. We spend so much time criticizing one another for the decisions or inevitable pitfalls along the way that we forget that making mistakes, falling, failing and getting up again is exactly what life is about. Instead we try to use criticism as a way to pretend that we don't fall, we don't make mistakes or struggle, we pretend we have it ALL together, when we don't. None of us have it all together. At some point I hope we all get to what's real and surrender to the fact that we are all in the same boat, discovering and trying to figure out this thing called life so we might as well support each other along the way.
Just remember, you're good, no matter what anyone else says. You are right where you need to be today. Keep living. The answers will come and be patient with yourself and others while we all...discover."
"Don't be afraid to be grown...
How many of us are afraid to grow up because we fear that we will no longer be attractive...desirable?
Last night I got to have some girl time with one of my favorite women. She is a gorgeous woman who has been a light in this industry for two decades. We are both now in our forties, but I found myself more mesmerized by this woman's beauty now than when we were in our twenties. During our conversation, I realized that her beauty had DEEPENED from all the wisdom she has collected from her years of experiences. It's a beauty that has been earned. A beauty that a twenty year old can't possess until she has paid the price of...evolution, of transformation, of having rose from the ashes of a thousand rebirths.
I thought to myself...this is the new phase of beauty that maturity brings. It's a beauty that has learned to build and rebuild hearts. A beauty that can sustain all that is substantial. It's a beauty that we, culturally, rarely exalt, rarely recognize or give praise to. Culturally, we hound exterior youth but... it's our deepening, our self-actualizing, that creates the beauty...that lasts...for eternity.
Don't be afraid to be GROWN. It's beautiful;)"
"A letter to a friend:
I have made irrational decisions in my life that have ended in true blessings. I have also made irrational decisions that seemed as if the ending was tragic, only to discover the blessing in that as well.
Don't be afraid to make a decision that may not make sense today but feels right. Things that are right for us don't always make sense, but if we are not willing to take a chance with them...we leave ourselves open to missing out on a lot of beauty.
Don't be afraid. Go for it."
"Half lov'n just hurts."
- Will Smith
When we say we love someone we should give all we've got, even if that means overcoming the parts of ourselves that keep us from the best parts of ourselves that deliver the promise of ecstatic love. Not only do we deserve to experience the best of who we are, but the people who we say we love deserve to experience the best of WHAT we are.
Happy Friday and Love… hard."
"I had an incident with a girlfriend yesterday who could not follow through on a task she had said she would handle for me. Needless to say, I was disappointed and soon found myself engaging in some kind of disconnect mode from her. Immediately, I had to step back to catch myself in order to remember that this woman is my friend whose love ALWAYS delivers. This thought brought me back to an "in the now" state of mind which illuminated that all this negative emotion was connected to past childhood disappointments which had absolutely NOTHING to do with the present circumstances. In that moment, I realized that our past can have too much influence on the present, and that emotional maturity must make room for disappointments from those who truly love us and are consistently looking out for us.
Being disappointed is an inevitable part of life, and I had to find my "in the now" adult mind to not take it so personally that she could not deliver on the task, and take responsibility for my own emotional immaturity.
Thank you for the lesson"
"When we make decisions for ourselves that are healthy and in our best interest we are demonstrating self-love. When we make decisions for ourselves that harm us, we can't expect to have the emotional and psychological intelligence to invite people into our lives who won't harm us as well."
"I've discovered that patience is not only a virtue but a very attractive, intriguing quality. Those that display eagerness, impatience or control tend to come off as incapable and insecure. These qualities have a tendency to turn people off. But...to be patient, one must be secure, trusting and extremely flexible. In my opinion...those qualities are just down right sexy.
Get sexy today through your patience."
"Are we giving to others what we expect others to give to us?
If we want more love, we have to remember to be more loving.
If we want more honesty, we have to remember to be more honest.
If we want more respect, we have to remember to be more respectful.
And so on…"
"One of my primary missions in life is to understand the dynamics of love. I have observed a big difference between really liking and caring for someone vs. loving them. I have observed people say,"I love you" when they actually may mean, "I like you". An "I like you" relationship may only inspire a person to spend time and offer themselves to us in ways that are effortless, that don't create discomfort nor require much psychic, emotional or physical effort. People in these types of relationships often keep up emotional walls that prevent the emotional intimacy that is required for the making of…love. When love is involved, one is inspired to dissolve those walls and make space for the psychic, emotional and physical efforts needed to build the relationship; therefore, forging the capacity required for vulnerability, receptivity and emotional intimacy necessary for establishing fulfilling bonds of love. It's great to be liked or loved, but it's our responsibility to know the difference.
Simply…my humble thoughts."
"A letter to a friend:
Our conversation last night made it clear that most of us wear adult faces, but we are actually stuck in our childhood traumas. Some of us demand that our needs be met as if every encounter with the world is a reenactment of encountering the childhood peers who terrorized us or parents who didn't give us enough. The sad part is that most of us don't know that we are operating from these hungry, angry and very demanding emotional wells which create drama in our adult lives. Many have claimed this stage of reckoning with our youthful beliefs and traumas in our late 30s, early 40s as a midlife crisis. It's called a crisis, I suppose, because our youthful beliefs are no longer servicing nor creating the lives we want, and now we are forced to decide whether we want to acquire an adult mind and it skills to lead us, or remain…"youthful". I'd rather not call this particular stage a crisis but rather an opportunity for the ultimate liberation which possibly…either choice could deliver. The beauty is… this is your life to create however you choose.
"We are not entitled to anyone's love.
We are not entitled to anyone's friendship.
We are not entitled to anyone's professionalism, courtesy, consideration or admiration.
We are not even entitled to life.
Receive it all in gratitude.
Tomorrow is not promised."
"Has anyone ever told you that without you this world would be less? That without you there would be a hole, a void that could never be filled? Has anyone ever told you that you are irreplaceable and that there is no replica? That without you this world would lack your preciousness that only YOU hold? Has anyone ever made it crystal clear to you that YOU MATTER?
If no one has never told you...I just did."
"Is true love real?
I believe true love is very real. The question is, are we prepared to CREATE it? Most of us are conditioned to believe that true love HAPPENS to us...effortlessly. My experience has been that romantic love happens effortlessly. The meeting of the eyes that lights you afire inside can happen without our consent, which could be the ENTRY point to true love or to a grand love affair that prepares you for the true love waiting in the wings. Many of us have equated that intoxicating, romantic feeling to true love. But true love is not created only in the intoxicating romance. True love is mostly created in the troubles, storms, misunderstandings, and deceptions where love is no longer romantic but excruciating. Love is created in forgiveness and in the maturity of accepting the human nature of ourselves and our partner. If you can survive these stages through your fight and growth for love...then TRUE LOVE will reveal itself because it becomes the stuff that CREATES long lasting...true love.
Remember this... When we engage in the dance of love...we are all dancing blindly. We are ALL students of love, learning ON one another. Be patient with the inevitable pains our ignorance delivers."
"I have always loved these words in this song because I believe it is indicative of emotional murder that I see too often.
What is emotional murder? How we objectify people in relationships is emotional murder. How we USE people for a FUNCTION in relationships is emotional murder. How we can claim an individual to be the love of our lives but yet replace them within a day or two with a new life-love is…emotional murder. Can true love dispose of love in that way? My opinion is no. My opinion is that we can only dispose of people in that way when we have objectified them. I believe this is very closely related to the objectification of actual murders.
I don’t think we recognize how much, in how many ways, or all the justifications we give ourselves to USE people in the name of love. It’s one of the worst crimes. I don’t think we realize how easily we are willing to dispose of a person after the feelings are all used up.
But is it possible to use a person up… if we are actually in a relationship with the person themselves and relating to what we value within them as a human being, as a lover, a wife, a husband, a friend, a mother, afather and so on? Can we dispose of people when we relate to them beyond how they make us feel? With that in mind, if a relationship has changed or altered could it merit disposal? You tell me.
Lack of acknowledgment – murders the heart
Lack of gratitude and appreciation – murders the heart
Dishonesty – murders the heart
Domination – murders the heart
Passivity – murders the heart
If you like…continue the list."