Tahiry Digital Dish8 Tahiry Digital Dish8

Digital Dish: Tahiry Jose Talks Ex Boyfriends and Being Naked

Tahiry Digital Dish 4

Love & Hip Hop vet Tahiry Jose is popping up everywhere these days—from our Twitter timeline to our TV. The curvy multimedia mogul is taking over the social stratosphere, building an empire of her own and investing in more important things—her dreams.

Dabbling in all things sexy, the famed model talks about taking her talents to the next level by promising more "ratchetness" on the next Love & Hip Hop season, the launch of her nail polish line with Color Club, the success of her 2014 calendar Intimacy and how much Team Tahiry means to her. 

The fearless reality star got up with Vixen for some girl talk and paw pampering. For our latest edition of Digital Dish, Budden's ex explicitly shares her personal issues and reveals how her mistakes have only made her stronger, proving how helpful a thick skin can be in the entertainment industry. She certainly exudes strength and perseverance—and an admirable ability to dodge drama.


Tahiry Digital Dish10

Vixen: What made you want to do the calendar? 

Tahiry: My fans. My supporters. "Team Tahiry" is what I like to call them. I had my first calendar released in 2011. It was called “The Wet Edition," shot out in St. Lucia. The plan wasn’t to be on TV, but it kind of was, maybe subconsciously. Once all this started, I always dreamt of having my own calendar, being seen on covers, even doing playboy. So in 2011, I took it upon myself to give my fans something else. Calendar’s have been done before, but when I first got started I got pretty hot really quickly.On the internet, social media was just starting to really take over, so I figured why not sell my images.

To keep it real, these magazines say that it’s a platform for us or a way of branding, but they’re really pimping us. You get on a cover—not even on a cover—sometimes you just get a spread. Back then they would pay you, but now-a-days you have a lot of people wanting to be famous and doing it for pennies, so the industry has gotten saturated. I realized really quickly that as much as it was kind of helping me, they were pretty much selling my images and I wasn’t seeing any money. So I’m always thinking about how to make a dollar and I was like “shit, I can pimp myself.” I decided to invest. I took my savings at the time and I decided to come out with the calendar in 2011. It had a great response. I was still behind the bar, so I would sell it outside at like 5 o’clock in the morning out the trunk of my car or behind the bar and after a while I was running around with them in boxes…like straight like I was selling a mixtape. Doing that, I got great responses and I learned a lot, so I said why not do another one?


Vixen: Why did you skip a year?

Tahiry: When 2013 came, I was in higher demand and my schedule also did not allow me to do it. I skipped 2013 and a lot of people were disappointed, so even me being busier this time, I was looking forward to giving my fans what they wanted. It took longer than expected, but I’m a perfectionist. I love showing off my body, I don’t care if I’m fifty, if I look good and it’s mine why not? I still run around the house naked. It took long because I was trying to get it right.

I did it in New York and it was an amazing experience. It’s the more mature me, it’s kind of artsy. Art is in now and everybody is jumping on the bandwagon. To me, it wasn’t about jumping on the bandwagon. To me, it was about telling a story and how I'm growing as a woman. Cheeks are cool, but how many times am I going to wear a thong and turn around. So I decided to add something deep and romantic and personal. That’s why we brought intimacy. It's pretty special because I realized that I’m in every jail cell.


Vixen: How many have you sold?

Tahiry: We’re still counting. The pre orders have done really well, but I haven’t checked the numbers yet. I’m not pressed because I know I always do well.

Tahiry Digital Dish4

Vixen: How do you deal with being naked in front of the camera?

Tahiry: This calendar took me nine hours; my first calendar took me three days. You get better with time. I work better with a photographer that gives me direction. A good photographer will take 300 snaps, but they’ll tell you when to move. A good photographer is not going to put out something that’s going to make them look bad. They know that you’re a reflection of each other. I’m usually surprised when I see my face, but sometimes it just clicks.


Vixen: Which avenue that you have partaken in has been the most challenging? Which is the most rewarding?

Tahiry: The most challenging would be me being part owner of the nightclub "Suite 135" in Harlem. I’m going through 90-day boot camp of being an owner. I’ve been in the industry for 10 years as a waitress, hostess and bartender; I did almost every part except for owning an actual establishment. That opportunity presented itself like nine months ago and I was scared as shit. The responsibilities are different. Before, you’d walk in, you’d work and you’d leave with money regardless of the circumstances. As an owner, now that becomes your responsibility. I’m glad I have a partner who’s a great general manager. Now it’s just getting the venue up and running, making sure the bills get paid and making sure everybody’s doing what they got to do. When you attach a figure or someone who’s in the public eye to a venue, it’s harder. They don’t see the hard work you put into it. I get up every day to make sure things are going right. None the less, it’s a blessing and I’d do it again.

The most rewarding is the fact that I have a huge support system. I love my fans. I get to show every kid in Harlem that I’m a product of my environment and I made it out the hood. Every day I wake up and strive to do better and be some kind of a role model. It’s good and bad because it weighs heavy, we all make mistakes.

Tahiry Digital Dish3

Vixen: How do you deal with social media negativity?

Tahiry: I don’t have a Google alert. I’m not trying to go through central booking. I’m fully aware of what happens online. I’ve had really nasty things said about me. I see things differently now that I have experienced reality TV and my fan base is growing. The industry forces you to grow this thick skin really quickly. I’ve been pretty blessed. Most of the women in this industry will be lucky if they’re around for two years before there's a new chick coming out with bionic booty. I also come from Joe Budden school. He taught me a lot and we’ve been through a lot. He taught me that you have to not care and that this shit is going to come with it.

In the beginning, I remember being in bed for weeks straight, depressed and not understanding. Now, when I’m having a bad day, I’ll just answer. I’ll hit hit up whoever like, “ya mother” or curse them out really quick. Sometimes when I’m bored, I’ll delete some comments. I try not to entertain because why would you feed a monster. The fan wanted your attention and once you pay attention, it just gets worse. At the end of the day I really have to remember that they don’t know me. People have this preconceived notion of who you are before they shake your hand, so you’re already losing from the beginning. I just surround myself with my team.


Vixen: What’s the craziest rumor you’ve ever heard about yourself?

Tahiry: From my body parts being fake to me being sick to me living in other peoples’ houses to Joey spending the night, but I’m on a date.

Tahiry Digital Dish

Vixen: What’s the biggest misconception that people have of you?

Tahiry: That I’m uneducated. That I only date rappers. I’m in the industry and I’m getting to know other people in the industry, so it’s kind of hard to date regular guys because either they get intimidated, they don’t understand the lifestyle or he’s your fan; he loves you for the first two months then he becomes insecure. When I first started dating Joe, he was really not throwing anything. I was paying for a lot. People talk, but they don’t know. I dated him when there was lent on his fan and a blanket on his window. Who knew he was going to be this big?


Vixen: Can we look forward to a Tahiry show?

Tahiry: Hopefully. There’s certain things I wouldn’t do for a check, but that’s just me. My life is exciting I guess, I don’t think so, but everybody else thinks so. Ultimately, producers and what not, sit and talk about what’s going on. I didn’t know I was going to get proposed to on TV; my life is just drama. I’m the oldest of 14, my father just had another baby, I have a lot of responsibility that my family has left me with. From having sisters, work, and the man situation—that I can’t seem to get right. I wake up with 100 texts a day.


Vixen: What’s next for you?

Tahiry: Right now, I’m dealing with the club. I have nail polish coming out with Color Club. My nail polish is kind of cute because it’s scratch and sniff. I took a lot of my favorite colors and tweaked them a bit. I’m in love with whiteout white, so I did that and added a little pink. I played with my hot pinks. It comes out 2015 in February for Valentine’s Day. It’s called “Love Tahiry” and when you polish it, it will smell like a scent. I have one called “champagne” that smells like champagne. It will be sold in stores like urbanoutfitters, nail supplies stores and discount stores. I have two independent films coming out. I’m working on jewelry—not costume jewelry—like rings and earrings and some chains that I like.

I’m really interested in opening a gym. That’s very premature, but I woke up one morning and I was on my way to the gym and I just thought of it. I’m thinking about something cozy with personal training and yoga classes somewhere the average girl can feel comfortable. Kind of like a spa vibe. We’re working on Tahiryonline.com, we want to make it more interactive. I plan to do some charity work. I like to give back. I'm dipping my feet in everything I love.

Tahiry Digital Dish 9

Vixen: What’s an ungoogleable fact about you?

 Tahiry: I sleep with Vix every night. My mom used to do it to us when we were kids. My mom would do it when she was sick and it’s something I do now. My sister does it. Joey would say, “nobody wants to sleep with a grandma.” Now he walks around with Vix in his pocket. I don’t know. I can’t think of anything else. I really just don’t care. I am who I am.


Vixen: Do you wish that your relationship with Joe wasn’t as public?

Tahiry: No, Joey and I were supposed to be public. He raps about it, he tweets about it. It is what it is when it comes to Joe. It didn’t damage what we had, Joey damaged what we had. Do I in the future plan on keeping my relationships private? I would love to find someone that would love to be public with me, but not a lot of men enjoy that hype or they’re  not secure enough. Even within celebrities. Not a lot of men can deal with the slack that comes with it. Today, it has to be a thirsty guy who wants attention or someone that you have history with. Just because you went to dinner or hung out with someone a few times doesn’t mean you’re sleeping with them. I’d rather get to know someone and take my time so I know it’s real. If it’s worth it, I’m cuffing on that red carpet!


Vixen: What are five ways to get over a break up?

Tahiry: You have to pray because it feels like the end of the world. You surround yourself with family. Don’t go jumping into another relationship because you're trying to get over him. Surround yourself with real love, the unconditional kind: your mom, your dad, your sisters, your cousins. I went back to my grandma’s house in the projects. I’ve done that a few times. You stay busy. You work out. I get really skinny when I’m going through it. I lose cheeks and all.


Vixen: Would you recommend going back and fourth with a guy like you did with Joe?

Tahiry: I call that recycling—going green. I’ve always went back to an ex that’s something I absorbed from my dad. I notice that pattern now that I’m older. I say, do what your heart tells you to do because only you know when you’ve had enough. If you want to do it 20 times, I just suggest that you don’t tell your friends and your family everything because then you’re going to have to hear it every time from them. I don’t care how many times people told me. I saw Joey on Twitter and Instagram, I saw all of it, but I’m glad I took that chance.


Vixen: When you date, is it hard for guys to grasp that you’re always going to be there for Joe?

Tahiry: I’ll be there for him by far, I’m ready to go. I got these nike’s on, I’m running. Joey was very strategic even when I was just giving him my friendship. For him, it was easier to get some little bird to be on a TV show and hang around him. No man wants their girl to still be around their ex. Joey would hit me up like “you home” and two seconds later he’s knocking on my door. I allowed it though.

tahiry nails done

Vixen: Does it bother you that you always get asked questions about Joe?

Tahiry: No, I can never get mad at my past. As much as he tries to say he made me, I can say that I gave him another life. He was dead before me. I think we did a lot for each other. I was already playing with the idea to be on TV, but I was too shy. When I met Joey I told him that Juelz wanted me to be in a video. There were definitely times where I played with it.

I can’t be mad about my past though. Joey and I were magical. It just worked. I never knew, until we broke up, that people would actually sit and wait for the next episode to watch us. I just wish he would’ve gotten it together in time because we definitely would have rocked out together.


Vixen: If you guys would have been in the prime of your relationship when he proposed would it have been different?

Tahiry: What? I would have definitely married that man. Y’all would’ve seen me on TV getting dresses and planning baby showers. We would’ve did everything. That was the plan; at least that was my plan. I mean we were magical. From the realness of the industry to what he really went through to what I went through. I wanted the world to see it all; when I was wearing poom-poom shorts and fish net stockings with the ten dollar pony tail.


Vixen: Do you think that girls shouldn’t get tattoos of a man’s name on them?

 Tahiry: I tried rubbing mine off, it didn't work. I’m impulsive like that. When I love; I love hard. Am I ever going to get another tattoo? I would say no. I’m so expressive and I love hard, so I would say do what you want to do. Just get it somewhere you can add something or cover it if a guy plays himself. Do whatever you feel. I got the tattoo and two days later we broke up, but we were crazy like that.


From the Web

More on Vibe

Matt Winkelmeyer/Getty Images

Vivica A. Fox Explains Past Hesitance Behind 'Two Can Play That Game' Script

In a new interview with Essence, actress Vivica A. Fox discussed how she initially turned down her role in Two Can Play That Game based on the script. The established entertainer said it's her mission to ensure that black people are positively portrayed onscreen, and noticed the aforementioned film's prose didn't live up to those standards.

"I think the reason why—no I know the reason why—I've been doing this for such a long time is that I fight," Fox said. "When we did Two Can Play That Game, I fought for the way we talked, walked, the way we loved each other." The Set It Off actress continued to state that she consistently declined Two Can Play That Game before signing on to play the lead role. "Because the script, when I first got it, I turned it down three times because it just wasn't a good representation of African-Americans, so I fought them on everything," she noted. "I want to make sure that the images of African-Americans are as positive and as true as they can possibly be."

In 2001, the romantic comedy debuted to fanfare, boasting an all-star cast of Morris Chestnut, Mo'Nique, Anthony Anderson, Bobby Brown, Gabrielle Union, Wendy Raquel Robinson, and more. Directed by Mark Brown (Barbershop, Iverson, How To Be A Player), Fox plays a career driven person named Shante Smith who navigates a curveball when her boyfriend Keith Fenton (Chestnut) cheats on her with a co-worker.

After its release, Two Can Play That Game raked in over $22 million at the box office.

Continue Reading
Actress Gabrielle Union attends the Being Mary Jane premiere, screening, and party on January 9, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Bennett Raglin/Getty Images for BET)
Getty Images

BET To Unveil Edible Billboard For 'Being Mary Jane' Wedding Finale

As Being Mary Jane comes to an end, BET is willing to offer fans a taste of what's to come in the series finale.

The network has enlisted the help of Ayesha Curry, celebrity cook and cookbook author, to create an edible billboard that also doubles as a wedding cake. The sweet treat will commemorate Mary Jane's (played by Gabrielle Union) nuptials in the two-hour series finale.

On April 20 from 1:00 P.M. to 7:00 P.M. at Brooklyn's Atlantic Terminal in New York, fans will be presented with the edible billboard. At the intersection of Ashland Place and Hanson Place, the closer Being Mary Jane enthusiasts get to the billboard the quicker they'll notice that the four-tiered wedding cake is created from individual boxes, each containing a slice of Curry's prized wedding cake.

All fans have to do is pull a box from the billboard, snap a picture for the 'Gram, take a bite and enjoy. Although lovers of the show won't be able to celebrate with Mary Jane herself, biting into a slice of her wedding cake, for free, is the next best thing.

Don't forget to tune into the series finale of Being Mary Jane on Tues. (April 23) at 8/7 c.

Also, check out what's to come on the series of Being Mary Jane below.

Save the date! 👰🏾It'll be worth the wait. Join us for the series finale of #BeingMaryJane TUES APR 23 8/7c only on @BET! pic.twitter.com/jEwkbC71OW

— #BeingMaryJane (@beingmaryjane) March 29, 2019

Continue Reading
The North Face

Ella Mai On The North Face's 'Explore Mode' Campaign, New Music And Living In The Moment

Ella Mai is in her own age of exploration. Her eponymous debut album scored her a platinum plaque with her breakout hit, "Boo'd Up" earning her a Grammy for Best R&B Song. But the accolades aren't driving her creative path. The arc in her compass is all about the places she's traveled, the people she's met and the lessons learned along the way.

"To be honest, personally, exploration is like growth. I feel like if you don't explore new things, whether it's going outside, meeting people or trying new food, you won't ever grow because you're just stuck in your little comfort zone which can be super scary to come out of," she tells VIBE at The North Face's Explore Mode event in New York on Monday (April 15). The singer is one of three women (including model-activist Gabrielle Richardson and chef Angela Dimayuga) who teamed up with the brand to share a message of enjoying the outside world without digital confinement and the global initiative to make Earth Day a national holiday.

The London native's urge to explore came in handy over the weekend when she performed in the brisk desert of Coachella. Inspired by artists like Rihanna and Ms. Lauryn Hill, Mai helped fans enjoy the hazy sunset as she performed hits like "Trip" and her latest No. 1 song, "Shot Clock."

"It's such a good feeling, especially when it comes to radio," she shared about her track reaching No. 1 on the airplay chart. "I wasn't even sure if people listened to the radio because people have so much access to streaming platforms, but obviously having all three of my singles from my debut album, go number one on urban radio is incredible."

That energy was brought to the Coachella stage with the festival being her biggest artistic exploration so far.

"My favorite part of the performance would have to be when I performed "Naked" and because it was dark, and I performed when the sun went down, I couldn't see how far the crowd actually went back. But during "Naked," it was such an intimate moment I asked everyone to put their lights up (phones) and when I saw how far it went back I was like, "Woah." That moment sealed it for me."

"Even there were two people in the audience, I still would've done my best," she added. "But just to see the crowd be so engaged, even if they didn't know the music, was a really good feeling. I had so much fun."

As the festival energy in Indio, Calif. continued to thrive, another rested on the streets of Los Angeles following the loss of Nipsey Hussle. With the singer having ties to those close to the rapper like DJ Mustard, she says the shift in the city was hard to ignore.

"As weird as it sounds, you felt it," she said. "Even in the weather, it was super hot and then everyone got the news and it started raining. Just a weird energy shift." As a new L.A. resident, the singer says Nipsey's influence cannot be denied.

"I feel like the energy shift went both ways; everyone was really sad, grieving and mourning but everyone feels more inspired by what he was doing that they want to go out and do something and change in their community. It's still a very touchy subject in L.A., especially the people that I'm around since they were very close to him. I think everyone is super inspired to do better and try to be more like him, which is great to see. YG's whole set at Coachella was dedicated to him, I know Khalid had a dedication to Mac Miller. Everyone is super aware of what Nipsey was trying to do and how he wanted to change the world."

Engaging in The North Face's mission to explore seemed to be in the cards for Mai. Like many of us, Mai was familiar with the brand's effective coolness factor. "I remember running home and telling my mom that I needed a Jester Backpack because my cousin had one as well, and it's similar to the other stories, I wanted to be like my older cousin (laughs) so my mom ended up getting me one." But there's also the incentive to showcase the importance of stepping away from the phone screens and into leafy green forests.

"I'm such a live-in-the-moment person," she says of her lack of identity on social media. While she might share a thought or two on social media, Mai is interested in appreciating the world around her. "I feel like everyone is so consumed about documenting the day, you don't really get to live the day. You just watch it back but I like to have the memories in my head. Of course, sometimes, I'll take out my phone but I try to live in the moment as much as possible."

Part of that mission is ensuring Earth Day is celebrated the right way. With the support of Mai, Richardson, and Dimayuga, The North Face officially launched a petition to make Earth Day a national holiday.

“The North Face is no stranger to exploration and this Earth Day we are proud to join our partners and fellow explorers in a global effort to make Earth Day a national holiday,” said Global General Manager of Lifestyle at The North Face, Tim Bantle. “We believe that when people take time to appreciate the Earth, they feel more connected to it and are more likely to protect it. Explore Mode urges us to unplug from our digital lives to connect in real life to the world, each other, and ourselves in the effort to move the world forward.”

Mai hasn't hit her all of her exploration goals just yet. "I really want to go to Indonesia or Bali," she said. "That's one of my Bucket List places I really, really, really wanna go." For her essentials, the singer knows she has to bring along a windbreaker set and of course, a jester backpack. "I think the backpack is the most important thing."

In addition to a few trips around the globe, one destination includes the studio for new music. While she hasn't had time to lock down a moment to record, the inspiration is sizzling.

"When I work in the studio, I like to be like there for a good amount of time," she explains. "I like to block off two to three weeks at a time, I don't like to go to different studios and different places, it's just a comfort thing but I'm very excited to get back cause I have a lot of talk about. I've seen so many different places and met so many new people and a lot that I didn't get to experience last year."

Learn more about The North Face's petition for Earth Day here.

Continue Reading

Top Stories