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10 Relationship Worries Every Cuffed Vixen Has

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Relationships can be pretty tough, especially on a woman. We worry about the smallest things already—like, "is this dress too frumpy" or "are my eyebrows arched enough?" So of course when it comes to dating, our minds go into overdrive. We can’t help it. It’s in our nature to be thoughtful, sometimes to the point of overthinking. Let’s try something new.

Here’s a list of 10 universal relationship worries every cuffed vixen has had at some point in their relationship. Perhaps seeing all of your anxieties will help you worry less.

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 relationship worries bored

He’s getting bored with me.

Everything’s going so great with bae that you fall into a routine with each other. You don’t even think about it-- you just wake up and realize that you’re doing the same things over and over. And that’s okay! A sense of normalcy is great in a relationship. But if he’s actually showing signs of boredom, then there’s a simple solution to that. Spontaneity! Try something new and exciting with him every once in a while to ensure that spark never dies.

relationship worries cheating

He’s seeing someone else.

Unless he is giving you clear signs and evidence that he’s cheating on you, DO NOT stress yourself out worrying what he’s doing and who he’s doing it with. You can ruin your relationship before it even begins by assuming he’s seeing someone else. Trust your man until he gives you reason not to.

relationship worries sex

The sex isn’t quite right.

The most intimate connection you can make with someone is during sex. So of course it’s one of the biggest worries a woman may have about her relationship. Whether you’re agreeing to abstain or having sex every day, you may be wondering if your man is satisfied. Don’t! If he’s not complaining, then keep doing what you're doing.

relationship worries compatible

We’re not actually compatible.

Maybe you rushed into a relationship before actually getting to know each other. Or maybe all those things you used to love about him are becoming everything you hate. Don’t worry too much about compatibility. He may not be every single thing you’ve ever wanted in a guy, but time will tell if he’s really everything you actually need.

relationship worries into me

He’s not as into me as I’m into him.

Are you dating one of those quiet brooding types who doesn’t express his feelings verbally, leaving you clueless? Well isn’t everyone—besides whomever Drake is dating this month. Chances are your man isn’t going to write out a 50-line sonnet about how much he loves you. But he’s with you for a reason, and that alone should tell you that the feelings are mutual.


relationship worries breakup 

He’s going to breakup with me.

You see your man withdrawing from you a little at a time and you're worried that he’s going to end your relationship soon. Instead of stressing over what’s going on in his head, just ask him. Maybe he’s just going through something that he’s been keeping to himself. Or maybe he really is contemplating breaking up. Either way, it’s better to know than to assume.

relationship worries good enough

I’m not good enough for him/He’s not good enough for me.

If you’re worried about either of these two, your bigger concern should be your confidence and self esteem. Too much or too little of anything can be detrimental to your relationship. You’re with him for a reason. Keep that reason at the forefront of your mind and you’ll have nothing to worry about.


relationship worries attracted 

He’s not attracted to me anymore.

The best way to seem attractive to your man is to always be attractive to yourself. As long as you know you look good, you’ll exude confidence to everyone around you—especially your man.


relationship worries friends 

His friends or family don’t like me.

So what if they don’t? Are you going to break up with him and start over with a new guy, hoping his people are more understanding? The only people in your relationship are you and your man. Try to make them like you, but remember, if they don’t he still does.


relationship worries last 

Is this going to really last?

Your long-term goal may be to get married, have babies, and live happily ever after, but understand that you’re not there yet. Continue to enjoy your relationship wherever it is now and if the two of you are meant to have a couple of forevers, then it’ll happen when it’s supposed to.

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