20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014 20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

As 2014 is officially coming to a close, we can now look back on what an amazing year it has been. While we hate to see such a great year end—if you worked hard this year—expect an even greater 2015.

And as they say out with the old and in with the new—which means some trends shouldn't live past the ball dropping. As you prepare to ring in the new year, check out the 20 trends that should stay in 2014.

Photo Credit: Getty Images, Instagram

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

1. Social Media Subs

Have a conflict with someone? Discuss it with the person—not with your followers. Trash this in 2014 and learn to speak up and solve your problems face to face with the person.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

2. Words Not Found In The Dictionary

"Bae," "thot," "fleek," "lit," "bruh" and any word that is not part of the English dictionary, should live only in 2014.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

3. People Who Don't Support Your Dreams

Why carry people who don't support you or your dreams into another year? Why start off fresh with a burden to carry? Go after those dreams and leave the naysayers in 2014.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

4. Procrastination

You actually were supposed to leave this in 2012 and you waited. You still partook in 2013, but now that 2014 is coming to a close, you must leave procrastination behind. Time is of the essence and it's time to complete projects and achieve goals. Stop procrastinating.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

5. Unnecessary Drama

Every argument that you are invited to, you don't have to attend. Concern yourself with your life, dreams, goals and aspirations, only.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

6. Group Chats

While you may feel like you're killing two birds with one stone by including all your friends in a group chat, many of them don't want to be a part of it. Especially when they don't know one another. There are many downsides to group chats so let's do a group text and say, no more of this in 2015.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

7. Excessive Personal Life On Social Media

A photo of what your eating at a restaurant with friends, great. But everything that you and your friends are talking about, what problems you are having with your family, boyfriend drama, all of that should be left off of social media. Everyone doesn't need to know everything. Let's leave excessive personal information off your social platforms.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

8. Complaining

If there is anything at this point that you are not happy about in your life, change it. You have full control over your life. Don't waste time complaining about what you don't have or what level you're not on.  Leave all the complaining in 2014.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

9. Lazy Friends

Friends are people who should be there for you. Maybe not every time you need them but definitely during the most important times. If you have "friends" that never support you, help you with anything and never want to spend time with you, it's time to leave them in 2014. It's perfectly okay to love people from a distance.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

10. Exes

New year, new you, new love! Don't bring the baggage of an ex into the new year. Holding onto an ex is closing you off to new relationships.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

11. Bragging About What You Have

Everything you are blessed with is a gift that at any moment can be taken away. Be humble and grateful for all you have, but when you reach the point of bragging, it's time to take a chill pill. Many are not as fortunate as you might be, take that into consideration the next time you're bragging about that superficial item on the 'gram. Leave the bragging in 2014.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

12. Dating Apps

The problem today is that we are getting to know people through the images they portray in the cyber world and when we finally do meet them we have no idea how to interact with each other. Delete the apps and patiently wait for that guy.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

13. #RelationshipGoals

This might be the most over used hashtag of the year. Your relationship goal should never be based off of what you think other relationships have or even worse a picture that someone is portraying. A relationship goal should be more than a visual image but yet learning how to love and be loved in return. Lets leave all the #RelationshipGoals hashtags in 2014.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

14. Frozen's "Let It Go"

Let It Go, Let It GOOOO, Let this song go. The lines of this song are so over used in everything from status updates to Instagram captions and friendly conversations. It's time to bury this song and all the lyrics in 2014.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

15. Group Selfies

We can all thank Ellen DeGeneres for her amazing idea but trying to fit 20 or more people into one group selfie is time consuming and can get pretty tricky. Selfies of yourself are good enough and if you must have a group shot, ask someone to take the photo for you. I'm sure someone would be happy to help. Let's stash the group selfies in 2014.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

16. Facebook Hashtags

Why does Facebook have hashtags anyway? Facebook hashtags serve no real purpose. If you do figure it out, let us know and then their might be a greater debate on why these should roll over into 2015. Hashtags should stay strictly to Instagram and Twitter.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

17. Instagram Name vs. Number

In 2014 we went from exchanging numbers to Instagram names. Why stalk their many pictures before you talk to them again? Asking for his/her phone number is the cool thing again. Leave IG names solely in 2014.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

18. Cronuts

Who came up with the merged croissant donut craze anyway? While both breakfast pastries are probably not the healthiest options to start your day, putting them together might be even worse. Let J Lo's new Self magazine cover and Jada P Smith's Shape-shaming help you avoid that cronut in 2015.

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

19. Instagram Challenges

The Ice Bucket challenge brought great awareness towards ALS but all other challenges on Instagram went down hill from there. The pretty face challenge, the no-makeup selfie challenge, Chris Brown's Christmas challenge were all just too much. How about we challenge you to leave this in 2014!

20 Things We All Really Need To Leave In 2014

20. Worrying About The Future

Can I tell you a secret? Nobody knows what the future holds. So why worry about something no one has any knowledge about. Be in the here and now. Prepare for your future, plan for your future but leave the worrying about your future in 2014.

From the Web

More on Vibe

Yvette Nicole Brown and Gabourey Sidibe were some of the actresses who were vocal about the treatment of actors of color when faced with beauticians in Hollywood.
Getty Images

Celebrities Use #ActingWhileBlack Hashtag To Point Out Pitfalls Of Hollywood's Beauty Scene

While being a working person of color in Hollywood is something to admire, those fortunate enough to be working in these spaces often have difficulties finding the right person to do their hair and makeup with the right amount of diligent care.

Model Olivia Anakwe took to Instagram earlier this month to detail the issues she faced before a runway show, when she was disrespected by haircare professionals who refused to work on her textured hair.

"Black hairstylists are required to know how to do everyone’s hair, why does the same not apply to others?” she wrote. “It does not matter if you don’t specialize in afro hair, as a continuous learner in your field you should be open to what you have yet to accomplish; take a class."

The hashtag #ActingWhileBlack began to spread on social media over the weekend, and people of color chimed in to share their stories.

Actress Yvette Nicole Brown shared that she often carries her own hair extensions and clothes for shoots, and that having stylists who are untrained in black beauty often runs the risk of them looking bad later on. Oscar-nominee Gabourey Sidibe shared a similar sentiment.

Insecure’s Natasha Rothwell hit the nail on the head in her tweet about the issue with not hiring the right people to work with ethnic hair.

“If you cast a POC— And thank you for doing so!—you also have to hire someone who knows how to do ethnic hair,” she wrote on Mar. 11. “Not someone who's "comfortable with it" but someone who actually knows how to style ethnic hair types.”

Check out some tweets from celebs on this issue below.

 

View this post on Instagram

 

This message is to spread awareness & hopefully reach anyone in the hair field to expand their range of skills. Black models are still asking for just one hairstylist on every team no matter where your team is from to care for afro hair. I was asked to get out of an empty chair followed by having hairstylists blatantly turning their backs to me when I would walk up to them, to get my hair done. If I am asked to wear my natural hair to a show, the team should prepare the style just as they practice the look and demo for non-afro hair. I arrived backstage where they planned to do cornrows, but not one person on the team knew how to do them without admitting so. After one lady attempted and pulled my edges relentlessly, I stood up to find a model who could possibly do it. After asking two models and then the lead/only nail stylist, she was then taken away from her job to do my hair. This is not okay. This will never be okay. This needs to change. No matter how small your team is, make sure you have one person that is competent at doing afro texture hair care OR just hire a black hairstylist! Black hairstylists are required to know how to do everyone’s hair, why does the same not apply to others? It does not matter if you don’t specialize in afro hair, as a continuous learner in your field you should be open to what you have yet to accomplish; take a class. I was ignored, I was forgotten, and I felt that. Unfortunately I’m not alone, black models with afro texture hair continuously face these similar unfair and disheartening circumstances. It’s 2019, it’s time to do better. || #NaturalHair #ModelsofColor #BlackHairCare #HairCare #Message #Hair #Hairstyling #Backstage #BTS #AfroTexturedHair #Afro #POC #Braids #Message #Spreadtheword #Speak #Awareness #Growth #WorkingTogether #BlackGirlMagic #Melanin

A post shared by Olivia Anakwe (@olivia_anakwe) on Mar 7, 2019 at 9:07am PST

#ActingWhileBlack Makeup & Hair in one bag. The other bags are filled with clothes because some wardrobe stylists don’t know that cute clothes exist in sizes larger than size 10. “Here try on this mumu, I know it’s a little big, we’ll just belt it!” #ActingWhileBlackAndChubby https://t.co/gl3b64Omtj

— yvette nicole brown (@YNB) March 11, 2019

Most black actresses come to a new set w/ their hair done (me) or bring their wigs & clip-ins w/them. It’s either that or take a chance that you will look crazy on screen. Many of us also bring our own foundation. One too many times seeing no shade that matches you will learn ya! https://t.co/mGAzpuoKtb

— yvette nicole brown (@YNB) March 11, 2019

Most black actresses come to a new set w/ their hair done (me) or bring their wigs & clip-ins w/them. It’s either that or take a chance that you will look crazy on screen. Many of us also bring our own foundation. One too many times seeing no shade that matches you will learn ya! https://t.co/mGAzpuoKtb

— yvette nicole brown (@YNB) March 11, 2019

If they don’t have the budget to hire a black hairstylist for me, or won’t, I just get the director to agree that my character should have box braids or senegalese twist.

— Gabby Sidibe (@GabbySidibe) March 11, 2019

PSA: If you cast a POC— And thank you for doing so!—you also have to hire someone who knows how to do ethnic hair. Not someone who's "comfortable with it" but someone who actually knows how to style ethnic hair types.

Congratulations on advancing to the next level of inclusion! https://t.co/A1Q9ZpvXmH

— Natasha Rothwell (@natasharothwell) March 11, 2019

Continue Reading
Kim Kardashian is seen on February 7, 2019 in New York City. (Photo by Gotham/GC Images)

Kim Kardashian Credited For Making Crimped Hair Cool Like Beyonce, Janet Jackson And Naomi Campbell Don't Exist

Spring is nothing without doses of cultural appropriation from those out of touch with black culture.

Insert Vogue, who decided to give props to Kim Kardashian for bringing back crimped hair on Friday (March 15). The businesswoman has been on the move lately, rocking a mix of kanekalon and yaki ponytails during fashion month, Chance The Rapper's wedding and other Kardashian-related events.

“What makes this look so modern is that the front is sleek,” explained her stylist Justine Marjan. “This gives a cool contrast to the texture.”

The texture? 

With many trends from the aughts coming back to the mainstream, this is one that hasn't really gone anywhere. But black beauty markers (layered gold chains, perfect baby hairs, name chains) paired with media ignorance and the Kardashian's own fascination with black culture has made it okay for her to receive all the props.

But we can't forget those who have slayed kanekalon, yaki and crimped styles like...

Janet Jackson

The singer's look for her comeback has been a uniform-like one, with Ms. Jackson rocking all black and her now signature ponytail.

Beyoncé

This. was. last. year. How could anyone forget this? The entertainer rocked various styles of kanekalon hair for Beychella.

There was also this amazing look at Serena Williams' wedding.

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by Beyoncé (@beyonce) on Nov 19, 2017 at 9:01am PST

Ruth E. Carter

The Oscar-winning designer made the look all her own while on the red carpet for Black Panther. 

Nicki Minaj

Fans of the rapper are aware her early looks included fun crimped and wavy styles. When she made to move to ditch her color wigs in 2014, she's kept the crimped styles close to her heart.

And we cannot forget about our queen, Naomi Campbell

She's owned the look her whole career, from the runway to the red carpet, Ms. Campbell has always been on the forefront of casual beautiful looks.

Social media also got wind of Vogue's post, including actor O'Shea Jackson who like many of us, is just over it.

Maaaaaaan come on now. Come ooooon now. Bringing it back? Vogue stop this https://t.co/FEGSw3GM9V

— Stone Cold Shea Jackson (@OsheaJacksonJr) March 15, 2019

https://twitter.com/SassySouthpaw20/status/1106642402448732160

https://twitter.com/riridotxo/status/1106924628851728384

Perhaps there's a bit of truth of the theories of fashion outlets trolling readers but this just deserves a permanent eye roll.

Continue Reading
Video Screenshot

'Boomerang' Episode 6 Recap: Homecoming

On this episode of BET’s Boomerang, the love story between Bryson and Simone begins with a flashback to their freshman year of college. After several years of not seeing one another since their childhood, Bryson is shocked to see a slick-back pony-tail wearing Simone insert herself into his class during a presentation. Nothing has changed with her. Even pre-bob and with Bryson rocking a sharp Steve Harvey-like hairline, even from their younger days, they have always been the dynamic duo of marketing strategy. The product featured this week: Pro-Black T-Shirts.

The devastation of not having his secret love in his life spills over into their sophomore year when a beanie-wearing David and Crystal are happy in their fake hood love. By this time, a rapper named Prisoner has all of Simone’s attention and this makes Bryson big mad. The man can’t even hide it. In an apparent fit of jealousy, he calls Simone out for living under her father’s shadow, in front of everyone. It’s safe to say that sophomore Bry struck out badly.

This isn’t just about Simone and Bryson; they’re not the only ones who’ve made transformations over the years (and I’m not just talking about their hair ‘dos). In his earlier life, Ari was less eccentric and more focused on making his family proud as a young black man in college who isn’t running on BPT for class. Ari was as straight as 180 when he’s first put into a situation where he’s forced to confront his sexual identity. As big and bad as he looked while working as a “rough & tough” bouncer at a nightclub, a flirtatious patron sees right through that persona.  After being charmed by the man who helps him realize self, the rainy night sets the tone for a steamy kiss between the two in the front seat of Ari’s car. The look on Ari’s face is a blend of fear, then relief, then ultimately bliss as he seemingly reminisces on his random but welcomed encounter. Although he enjoyed it, Ari didn’t seem to embrace his identity totally. That same year, we see a less hood-David changing more into the Christian we now know and Ari isn’t buying it. Something about this “we can do all things in Christ mentality” rubs him the wrong way. Facing one’s true self is tough.

Junior year, Bryson has a much better barber but things haven’t changed; he’s still checking for Simone. She and Prisoner are still dating if you want to call it that. Prisoner is the type of dude you’d expect to see Simone date in college. He’s flashy, has money, probably doesn’t even go to the school, and he’s rude AF. As Simone and Bryson reconnect for the two millionth time, Prisoner’s pimp tone telling Simone to hurry up is a strong indication he’s not here for their friendship. In analyzing the hair, it’s clear that Simone is not herself. Seriously, at this point, she’s rocking a glueless lace wig.

With her new hairstyle, she realizes that she made the mistake of loving a man more than herself. Prisoner is officially a dub. To celebrate her revelation, she finds herself drunkenly wining and grinding on her childhood bae, Bryson. Does this look familiar? Well, think back to last week when they were doing the same in the parking lot before 5-0 arrived. Because she couldn’t hold it, Simone ends up using Bryson’s bathroom which leads to a very sober thoughts-type of conversation in the bedroom. It is recognized that Bryson has always had a thing for the kid and Simone regrets that she never said anything about her feelings. His commandeering attitude (like the day she walked into his class freshman year) reminded her of the Different World “Strangers on a Plane” episode. It was an iconic one because it’s where Dwayne and Whitley’s love story began. That’s a telling comparison.

With that being said, Simone always felt Bryson was the Dwane to her Whitley. Unfortunately, the timing was always off and just when we think the two finally catch up to one another, cue: the vomit. Poor Bryson. Did someone do brujeria on this kid? He has the worst luck. But, like the gentleman he is, he takes care of his queen to make sure she’s all comfy in her drunken slumber. He whispers, “I love you Simone Graham,” but on the wake up it looks like sis suffers from sudden amnesia. She pulls the “best friend” card, making it clear that it’s friend zone from here on out. Prisoner’s trifling friend calls to offer to take Simone out to eat and in an act of “let me solidify that Bryson knows this is going nowhere,” Simone agrees to go out with her ex's friend. Once again, a blue-balled Bryson is left sorting out his feelings that Simone continues to perpetually confuse.

It’s important to note that the story of Brymone is not a new one. We’ve seen it in many action movies, comic book flicks, and on “Strangers on a Plane” where the geeky male character is overlooked by the badass female, only to win her affection in the end. Nice guys don’t always finish last, but in Bryson’s case, could it possibly be heading in that direction and is Simone even the heroine worth winning? In browsing through what is essentially the best years of any young adult’s life, Simone had many times to figure out if Bryson was the one for her and yet she chose to ignore her feelings. Unlike David, it’s not like she found Jesus; she hasn’t yet found herself.

One thing she does know is that she cannot lose Bryson because it’s possible she may love and need him more than she’d like to verbally admit. He’s no Prisoner or no flashy member of the entourage. He’s the “gentleman who wears tuxedos and makes sure his homegirl is safe” type of dude and unfortunately, that isn’t one Simone is interested in, for now.

Continue Reading

Top Stories