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Vixen Vent: 'Sorority Sisters' Disrespects More Than Just the Castmate's Image

They say be careful what you wish for and that notion is constantly coming into full fruition. As a woman that grew up on quality television, I’m always wishing, hoping, and praying that I’ll continue to see men and women that look like me on TV. Somehow when asking for that, I’m given countless reality shows that leave the worst taste in my mouth. It’s starting to get annoying and ridiculous as these women sell their souls for a little bit of money and TV time.

Unlike my friends, I don’t support reality TV shows—any of them. I did at one point, but that was when TRL was still a show, 106 and Park was hosted by AJ and Free, and the Real World wasn’t past season 25. Now I steer clear of anything that seems like a half-hour to an hour of fake story lines, bad acting and self-entitled nobodies. But even with that said, I sucked up my pride and held on to my self-respect as I watched Sorority Sisters for the first time. Bad move.

I’m not a Greek affiliate and being that I’m not, I watched this show from a bystander's point of view. That means I became ignorant to those I do know have pledged—like my grandmother, sister and countless college friends—because these women were representing their sororities. By the looks of it, they were showing America what it allegedly means to pledge a Divine Nine sorority and what the sisterhood was "really" about—ignorance, disrespect, and cattiness—not education, community service, scholarship and activism.

Luckily I know better.

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It’s obvious that the Greek letters that they pledge, the founders' legacy they vowed to continue, and the lifetime sisterhood holds no value, because they easily traded it all for the social media followers and to have their faces on a party flier. You don’t diminish the hard work and reputation because money hungry corporations are seeking to suck the blood from any idiot looking for a junky fix.

There are only nine out of (too many to count) Greek-letter organizations in the country that were founded by blacks. Out of all the sororities that could’ve misrepresented themselves, these women decided they were going to represent the ONLY four sororities founded by blacks. Out of all the schools to represent, these women represent the legacy of an HBCU. And most of all, out of all the ratchet reality shows that give women 15 minutes to make complete fools of themselves, these women decide to take the plunge.

Unlike other reality shows I’m holding this one to another level because not only are these women degrading themselves, their founders’ legacy and what their sorority currently stands for, but they are also disrespecting HBCUs. You would think to be college-educated, you'd understand your history—your real history, not that manmade textbook crap you're taught. You would be fully aware that you stem from kings and queens and in doing so, degrading yourself on TV would’ve never crossed your mind. You would have the knowledge to understand the value of your image.


Why is it so hard for people to grasp that when you do things for TV and play the fool they want you to be, you aren’t just representing yourself? In this case it’s yourself, family, sisterhood and Historically Black College and University. When did it get so hard to understand? Especially with everything going on, the last thing you should do as a black woman is further perpetuate the negative stereotype of our race.

If there weren’t enough examples of the exploitation that is reality TV—especially those on VH1 and under the tutelage of Mona Scott-Young—I might understand why these women exploited themselves and their sororities. But we have enough examples. These shows are for pure entertainment and unfortunately in our society right now, "good entertainment" is women bringing each other down and self-disrespect for the world to see.

If you want to see more of yourself on TV and the perks that come with it, work for it. Don’t misuse yourself and your affiliations for the quick route to success. Stop perpetuating the stigma that black women that are supposed to be on the upper echelon have no class, education, dignity nor respect for other women. Stop thinking it doesn’t matter because it does. Don’t be so quick to sign your reputation and self-respect away because it seems like the cool thing to do.

But for the Vixens looking to join undergraduate or graduate chapters of these prestigious organizations. These that built on the premise of scholarship, sisterhood and public service, ignore the characters you saw on Sorority Sisters and flip the page to check out the women that are a part of these Divine Nine orgs.

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Vivica A. Fox Explains Past Hesitance Behind 'Two Can Play That Game' Script

In a new interview with Essence, actress Vivica A. Fox discussed how she initially turned down her role in Two Can Play That Game based on the script. The established entertainer said it's her mission to ensure that black people are positively portrayed onscreen, and noticed the aforementioned film's prose didn't live up to those standards.

"I think the reason why—no I know the reason why—I've been doing this for such a long time is that I fight," Fox said. "When we did Two Can Play That Game, I fought for the way we talked, walked, the way we loved each other." The Set It Off actress continued to state that she consistently declined Two Can Play That Game before signing on to play the lead role. "Because the script, when I first got it, I turned it down three times because it just wasn't a good representation of African-Americans, so I fought them on everything," she noted. "I want to make sure that the images of African-Americans are as positive and as true as they can possibly be."

In 2001, the romantic comedy debuted to fanfare, boasting an all-star cast of Morris Chestnut, Mo'Nique, Anthony Anderson, Bobby Brown, Gabrielle Union, Wendy Raquel Robinson, and more. Directed by Mark Brown (Barbershop, Iverson, How To Be A Player), Fox plays a career driven person named Shante Smith who navigates a curveball when her boyfriend Keith Fenton (Chestnut) cheats on her with a co-worker.

After its release, Two Can Play That Game raked in over $22 million at the box office.

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Actress Gabrielle Union attends the Being Mary Jane premiere, screening, and party on January 9, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Bennett Raglin/Getty Images for BET)
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BET To Unveil Edible Billboard For 'Being Mary Jane' Wedding Finale

As Being Mary Jane comes to an end, BET is willing to offer fans a taste of what's to come in the series finale.

The network has enlisted the help of Ayesha Curry, celebrity cook and cookbook author, to create an edible billboard that also doubles as a wedding cake. The sweet treat will commemorate Mary Jane's (played by Gabrielle Union) nuptials in the two-hour series finale.

On April 20 from 1:00 P.M. to 7:00 P.M. at Brooklyn's Atlantic Terminal in New York, fans will be presented with the edible billboard. At the intersection of Ashland Place and Hanson Place, the closer Being Mary Jane enthusiasts get to the billboard the quicker they'll notice that the four-tiered wedding cake is created from individual boxes, each containing a slice of Curry's prized wedding cake.

All fans have to do is pull a box from the billboard, snap a picture for the 'Gram, take a bite and enjoy. Although lovers of the show won't be able to celebrate with Mary Jane herself, biting into a slice of her wedding cake, for free, is the next best thing.

Don't forget to tune into the series finale of Being Mary Jane on Tues. (April 23) at 8/7 c.

Also, check out what's to come on the series of Being Mary Jane below.

Save the date! 👰🏾It'll be worth the wait. Join us for the series finale of #BeingMaryJane TUES APR 23 8/7c only on @BET!

— #BeingMaryJane (@beingmaryjane) March 29, 2019

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Ella Mai On The North Face's 'Explore Mode' Campaign, New Music And Living In The Moment

Ella Mai is in her own age of exploration. Her eponymous debut album scored her a platinum plaque with her breakout hit, "Boo'd Up" earning her a Grammy for Best R&B Song. But the accolades aren't driving her creative path. The arc in her compass is all about the places she's traveled, the people she's met and the lessons learned along the way.

"To be honest, personally, exploration is like growth. I feel like if you don't explore new things, whether it's going outside, meeting people or trying new food, you won't ever grow because you're just stuck in your little comfort zone which can be super scary to come out of," she tells VIBE at The North Face's Explore Mode event in New York on Monday (April 15). The singer is one of three women (including model-activist Gabrielle Richardson and chef Angela Dimayuga) who teamed up with the brand to share a message of enjoying the outside world without digital confinement and the global initiative to make Earth Day a national holiday.

The London native's urge to explore came in handy over the weekend when she performed in the brisk desert of Coachella. Inspired by artists like Rihanna and Ms. Lauryn Hill, Mai helped fans enjoy the hazy sunset as she performed hits like "Trip" and her latest No. 1 song, "Shot Clock."

"It's such a good feeling, especially when it comes to radio," she shared about her track reaching No. 1 on the airplay chart. "I wasn't even sure if people listened to the radio because people have so much access to streaming platforms, but obviously having all three of my singles from my debut album, go number one on urban radio is incredible."

That energy was brought to the Coachella stage with the festival being her biggest artistic exploration so far.

"My favorite part of the performance would have to be when I performed "Naked" and because it was dark, and I performed when the sun went down, I couldn't see how far the crowd actually went back. But during "Naked," it was such an intimate moment I asked everyone to put their lights up (phones) and when I saw how far it went back I was like, "Woah." That moment sealed it for me."

"Even there were two people in the audience, I still would've done my best," she added. "But just to see the crowd be so engaged, even if they didn't know the music, was a really good feeling. I had so much fun."

As the festival energy in Indio, Calif. continued to thrive, another rested on the streets of Los Angeles following the loss of Nipsey Hussle. With the singer having ties to those close to the rapper like DJ Mustard, she says the shift in the city was hard to ignore.

"As weird as it sounds, you felt it," she said. "Even in the weather, it was super hot and then everyone got the news and it started raining. Just a weird energy shift." As a new L.A. resident, the singer says Nipsey's influence cannot be denied.

"I feel like the energy shift went both ways; everyone was really sad, grieving and mourning but everyone feels more inspired by what he was doing that they want to go out and do something and change in their community. It's still a very touchy subject in L.A., especially the people that I'm around since they were very close to him. I think everyone is super inspired to do better and try to be more like him, which is great to see. YG's whole set at Coachella was dedicated to him, I know Khalid had a dedication to Mac Miller. Everyone is super aware of what Nipsey was trying to do and how he wanted to change the world."

Engaging in The North Face's mission to explore seemed to be in the cards for Mai. Like many of us, Mai was familiar with the brand's effective coolness factor. "I remember running home and telling my mom that I needed a Jester Backpack because my cousin had one as well, and it's similar to the other stories, I wanted to be like my older cousin (laughs) so my mom ended up getting me one." But there's also the incentive to showcase the importance of stepping away from the phone screens and into leafy green forests.

"I'm such a live-in-the-moment person," she says of her lack of identity on social media. While she might share a thought or two on social media, Mai is interested in appreciating the world around her. "I feel like everyone is so consumed about documenting the day, you don't really get to live the day. You just watch it back but I like to have the memories in my head. Of course, sometimes, I'll take out my phone but I try to live in the moment as much as possible."

Part of that mission is ensuring Earth Day is celebrated the right way. With the support of Mai, Richardson, and Dimayuga, The North Face officially launched a petition to make Earth Day a national holiday.

“The North Face is no stranger to exploration and this Earth Day we are proud to join our partners and fellow explorers in a global effort to make Earth Day a national holiday,” said Global General Manager of Lifestyle at The North Face, Tim Bantle. “We believe that when people take time to appreciate the Earth, they feel more connected to it and are more likely to protect it. Explore Mode urges us to unplug from our digital lives to connect in real life to the world, each other, and ourselves in the effort to move the world forward.”

Mai hasn't hit her all of her exploration goals just yet. "I really want to go to Indonesia or Bali," she said. "That's one of my Bucket List places I really, really, really wanna go." For her essentials, the singer knows she has to bring along a windbreaker set and of course, a jester backpack. "I think the backpack is the most important thing."

In addition to a few trips around the globe, one destination includes the studio for new music. While she hasn't had time to lock down a moment to record, the inspiration is sizzling.

"When I work in the studio, I like to be like there for a good amount of time," she explains. "I like to block off two to three weeks at a time, I don't like to go to different studios and different places, it's just a comfort thing but I'm very excited to get back cause I have a lot of talk about. I've seen so many different places and met so many new people and a lot that I didn't get to experience last year."

Learn more about The North Face's petition for Earth Day here.

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