Vixen Vent: Why I'm Unbothered By The Backlash Of #BlackGirlsRock

For Black girls who don't seem to care about your uproar.

I've grown tired of being sick and tired. For every person that changes the word 'Black' to 'all,' I roll my eyes and continue to play with my thick, natural hair in the mirror. Ive grown to love who's staring back at me in the mirror and in all honesty, it took years to get here.

My mother gave me The Bluest Eye to read at a young age because I'm certain she believed Pecola Breedlove came in the form of her eldest daughter. When I opted for gray contacts that looked blue against the irises of my eyes, I know she died a little bit inside. I never said it openly, but playing with white Barbies did something to me. Flipping through special editions of Vogue and Harper's BAZAAR, and soaking in images of white beauty into my psyche, played a part in me wanting to be something that I never would be.

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I prayed to God in church for lighter skin because I thought the best lipsticks were more fitting to the caramel complexion, and I did go to the altar once to ask God for straighter hair because there was but so much a hot comb could do for my crown. I had Black Cabbage Patch babies, but they were nothing in comparison to the Mattel dolls I owned that had the luxury of coming in collectible boxes, worth a fortune in the future. I drew on the faces of the Cabbage Patch Kids, but those holiday Barbies? I knew not to touch them, much less, remove them from their homes. They were special. They were white. Those toys that looked like me; what were they worth, really?

Fast forward to my collegiate life – a colored girl at a PWI – and it was then that I finally realized the importance of my skin color. I was the only Black girl in an English class; the only person in a public speaking course who "talked a little different,"; the sole member in a club that could finally say they were a 'diversity group.' I went from "speaking like a white girl" in high school, to fitting in with the small percentage of people of color at a university. I didn't dare to be different, I just was, and I loved it.

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In a world where people are undergoing lip augmentations or drawing on their mouths to achieve the thickness that I now love, I wonder why was it that I wanted to be someone else. Black culture is now, for most, the 'it' culture; the wave; the trend; the thing to emulate and embrace. From gelled down baby hairs (with the toothbrush), to the curves in my hips and the color of my skin that doesn't require a tanning salon, I cackle at the people who bash necessary movements like Black Girls Rock and yet, pick and choose what part of me and my heritage they want to pass as their own.

I rock. I rocked when I didn't know I did. I rock because of that 'fro I still wear around my house from my early years – a staple piece for Black girls in hoods, now a hairstyle to rock for models on the runway. Sure, all lives matter, and as a person who identifies as a feminist, all girls rock, but for twenty-something years, I saw that I've been placed on the back burner because of my skin. Black girls get put in the back of the magazines far too often, and so when one of mine makes the front cover of some of your favorites, I buy it for just that reason alone. We're finally in the front – where we belong.

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I rock because somehow, this world says there is no place for women that look like me, and yet, in the words of Cicely Tyson, "no one is going to bother to put you down, if you were not a threat to them." My skin color is a threat. My happiness and my need to applaud my fellow sisters is a sin. My womanhood and my ways are a crime. And still I rise.

We rise. We rock.

The #whitegirlsrock hashtag isn't anything new – it trends every time #BlackGirlsRock airs – but so does my culture. It trends in magazines, in the news, in your neighborhood, in your face. Even when you don't want to see it.

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Trina To Address A&R's Comments About Nicki Minaj On Instagram Live

Trina is ready to address the public about comments from her camp about Nicki Minaj.

Earlier this week, Reginald Saunders, the head of A&R at Trina's label and cousin Bobby Lytes slammed Nicki for not promoting their collaborative single, "BAPS." The song was apart of Trina's album The One released on June 21, which was also the same day as the release for "Megatron."

In Saunders' post about Nicki, he also called out the rapper for heavily promoting her guest feature on Megan Thee Stallion's "Hot Girl Summer" but only sharing "BAPS" for a short amount of time on social media.

"This isn’t the first time @nickiminaj has pulled this stunt and trust me it’s cool," he said. "I can’t get over how fake people can be for a Lil fame, likes and followers. when everyone tried to warn me I still gave her the benefit of the doubt."

On Tuesday (Aug. 14), Trina took to Instagram to let her fans know her plans to address how "BAPS" came about and why a video hasn't been shot.

"First of all, everybody that knows me knows anything I gotta say, I will say it and address it," she said. "I don't need anybody to speak for me. Second of all, everything that I have to say, I will address it tomorrow. So catch me live and I will say it one time and one time only. I will not repeat myself."

During her Queen Radio session on Monday (Aug. 13), Nicki addressed Saunders and said she was prepared to shoot a video to "BAPS" when the song was recorded in 2017. She also had Trina as a guest for Queen Radio at the time of the song's release, making it the most-streamed track on the project.

"I have my own schedule and I also have to worry about what makes not only sense/cents but dollars," she said. "And it's not fair that people don’t understand that. I would never have someone from my team disrespect somebody that has been nothing but real to me.”


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A little overwhelmed right now but tomorrow 💙💙

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Amber Rose Cancels 2019 SlutWalk

Amber Rose is in protective mode when it comes to her “energy and peace.” The pregnant mom-to-be announced on Instagram Tuesday (Aug. 13) that she’s making some personal and professional changes, including canceling this year’s SlutWalk.

In the lengthy social media post, Rose vented about cutting off a bunch of friends whom she called “abusive” with some having “toxic personalities,” and drug and alcohol addictions. She also called out her “male friends” for “lying and telling people were were sleeping together,” and put another friend on blast for calling social services on her, twice.

“People may not know this but I’m extremely unproblematic. I don’t start fights. I don’t do drugs. I’m as sweet as pie and constantly get walked all over,” Rose wrote before noting that she’s blessed with a baby on the way and an “amazing man,” in reference to current boyfriend, Alexander “AE” Edwards.

“That’s why I’ve been laying so low during this pregnancy.... no toxicity will be tolerated over here only positive vibes. F**k fake friends and their weirdo s**t. I’d rather just have my family and my team.

“P.S. This is also why I’m not having my SlutWalk this year,” she added. “Sorry I just have to protect my energy and peace.”

The Philly native launched her SlutWalk in Los Angeles in 2015 to honor and celebrate women who have been slut shamed, judged and demeaned for being sexual. In a 2017 interview with VIBE Vixen, Rose described the SlutWalk as her “life’s work.”

“All the money that we ever got for donations [to the Amber Rose Foundation] goes to the actual SlutWalk. We don't have any money left over for the next year. We basically have to start over every year, and it takes a year to put on. That's a misconception, I make no money from the SlutWalks ever! I just put in all my work. It makes me happy, babe, it's my life's work.”

Read Rose’s full Instagram post below.


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So me. I stopped being friends with about 20 ppl last year. I’ve had friends steal jewelry and money from me, Sleep with my BF’s behind my back, Male friends lying and telling people we were sleeping together, Alcoholic drug addict friends, Abusive Friends, Toxic Personality friends and I even had a Friend call Social Services on me twice ( For no fucking reason) only to Sue me for calling her and Cursing her out (When I found out it was her) smh That Phone call cost me $168,000... Man, the list goes on you have no idea. The funny thing is I never snitched publicly on anyone. Ain’t that some shit? People may not know this but I’m extremely unproblematic. I don’t start fights. I don’t do drugs. I’m as sweet as pie and constantly get walked all over. I’m so happy God has blessed me with a New Baby and an Amazing Man to help me through all the turmoil. That’s why I’ve been laying so low during this pregnancy.... no Toxicity will be tolerated over here only Positive vibes. Fuck fake friends and their weirdo shit. I’d rather just have my family and my team. P.S This is also why I’m not having my Slutwalk this year.... Sorry I just have to protect my energy and peace - Muva

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Fashion Roundup: Beyoncé Drops Nostalgic Merch And H&M To Collab With South African Label Mantsho

August just got a little hotter with two new fashion collections dropping this month.

Beyoncé unveiled her '90s-inspired "BeySearch" Friday (Aug. 9) while H&M is set to unveil their South African collaboration on Thursday (Aug. 15).

Queen Bey surprised fans with new a merch capsule on her official website on Friday afternoon. Fanny packs, bodycon dresses, bucket hats, crop tops, windbreakers, and more are designed with Google searched images that highlight every monumental step her in career.

The aesthetic is to appeal to a "90s teenager's bedroom walls combined with the tidal wave of today's meme culture," as said in a press release.

H&M is to release a legendary collection with the South African brand, Mantsho. Essence reports that the collection will feature edgy African-inspired prints that celebrate the elegance and vibrancy of Africa. Mantsho translates to "black is beautiful" from the native Sesotho language.

Established in 2004, the label has appeared on fashion runways in the U.S., Greece, India, Jamaica, Nigeria, Botswana, and Senegal. This will make H&M's first collaboration with a South African brand.

"This is my love letter to the world from Africa," said Mantsho's head of design, Palesa Mokubung. "I hope customers around the world will enjoy this ensemble of my stand-out pieces from my last three collections."

You can shop "BeySearch" here. The latest H&M collection will be available next Thursday (Aug. 15).

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