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Vixen Chat: Malaysia Pargo Opens Up About 'BBWLA' Season Four Drama, Divorce And Dating Again

Vixen caught up with the VH1 diva, Malaysia Pargo, as talks adjusting to the dating scene, the upcoming season of Basketball Wives LA that premieres July 12th and more.

Basketball Wives LA starlet Malaysia Pargo is the epitome of perseverance. In a short period of time, the brown skinned beauty has endured both death and divorce, all while taping the highly anticipated fourth season of the Los Angeles franchise.

"I'm not holding anything back. I'm letting you guys experience exactly what I'm experiencing as I go through it," she told Vixen. A season complete with fresh faces, series veterans and drama, the Compton native holds her own. Amidst the usual drama, Pargo is adding business woman to her resume these days with the launch of her own luxury bedding collection with Hedgecock Creed.  Affectionately known as the series peacekeeper with the utmost poise, the self-professed "old soul," promises fans a new side of her this go round, revealing her tougher side to the cast.

Vixen caught up with the VH1 diva as she got candid about adjusting to the dating scene, what she considers her biggest flaw and the upcoming season of Basketball Wives LA that premieres July 12th. –Angela Wilson

VIBE Vixen: What can fans expect from you this season of Basketball Wives LA?

Malaysia Pargo: My fans can definitely expect my raw emotions. I'm going through a divorce and during the time of taping I was literally still going through the process. I was going through the motions with my ex, going through the healing process of losing a brother, and still having to help out my mom and help her heal. Now, I'm just trying to figure out who I am as a single woman. I haven't been single since I was 19-years-old and I'm 32 now. I'm making sure I'm a whole person for my kids first so they can be happy. I want to say that I'm older but still I feel every year you mature a little more and learn a bit more about yourself. You critique and change things about yourself. It's just me going through the growing pains with myself and the cast.

Is there any drama?

Yes, it wouldn't be Basketball Wives without drama (laughs). You know that there's drama. When your life situation changes you learn how to communicate differently. You learn how to change your emotions with people, how to talk to them. You learn who's for you and who's against you. That's a big thing right now for me, especially with the taping of the show. So there's going to be a lot of conflict between myself and many of the girls because they really didn't know where I was coming from. They didn't know how to gauge me or what place to put me in because I was always one way every time they saw me–I was happy.

Watching the show you come across as such a loyal friend and viewers tweet how they want a friend like you. Have you noticed that?

Yes. I get either auntie or friend and I'm like, "Hold on girl I'm young!" (Laughs) But I get it. I have an old soul so people do think I'm older than what I am. I was raised by my granny and her down south teachings. I do get it a lot, but I don't mind. It's just so hard finding good friends because you have to see if they want to be your friend for the show or do they really want to be a real friend. I'm a die hard friend–if I say I'm your friend, I'm your friend. You won't have to ever worry about me.

Do you have any regrets from past seasons?

I don't. I live my life without regrets. I feel if I say something I meant it and I'm going to own up to it and stand by it. So, no, I don't have any regrets at all. I did what I wanted to do at the time and that's what it is.

How are you handling the transition into the single life?

[Being] single is hard! I thought it would be easy but it's hard; talking to players, figuring out who's good for you, knowing who just wants the cookies and who doesn't. Being single isn't as easy as I thought it would be.

You're dating their representative at first...

Yes and they play the representative really well! When I meet some guys and we talk over the phone and I see their mannerisms, I'm like, "Wait, he's a little too advanced for me so bye."

What advice would you give to someone who's going through a divorce or heartbreak right now?

I would tell them to make sure they keep God first. If you keep God first it saves you from being in the line of fire. He will open your eyes to a lot of situations where the blind eye can't see. A lot of times–not saying all guys are creeps–but many have hidden agendas. They have this thing were they're really good at making you feel special when you're really not, you're just special at that moment. We women want to feel appreciated and loved and like we're the one. In all actuality, you're just the one for right now. Not saying I'm an expert but if you keep God first he will help you know yourself first, keep you humble, and give you a certain sense so you're not so gullible and won't fall for anything.

Aside from the show, you're also an entrepreneur with your own luxury bedding collection with Hedgecock Creed. How did that come about?

My bedding line came about because as a basketball wife, we moved a lot and finding the perfect bedding set was hard to do. When I moved into my new house in LA, I couldn't find a bedspread to save my life. I was talking to my manger and she heard what I was saying and said, "Why don't you just do it then?" I was like, "Yeah, why don't I?!" And that's how it all came about. Fans can go online to Hedgecock Creed or go to the store in Buckhead, Georgia and buy from there.

Congratulations, that's a really big deal!

Thank you! I'm so happy that my partners and I just sat down, planned it out and made my dreams come true. Everything that I wanted came into fruition.

You're working on additional products to go with the bedding line, too.

I am. I'm going to start from the bedding line and work my way out to other things.

Your hair is always flawless. What are your top 3 must-have products?

Number one is Mizani Hair Serum. I love it, I have to have it! I have it in my bag. I bought the travel size and keep it in mu bag because it lays your hair down so nice. I like Keratin Hair Mask because I'm all about protecting my own hair first. I have a lot of hair underneath these weaves and wigs so I put a mask on my hair to keep it healthy. Mizani Shampoo and Conditioner is my favorite, too. So when the weaves and wigs go out of style, I'll still have a little something of my own.  

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What would you consider your biggest flaw and how are you changing it?

My biggest flaw is that I am too nice. Because people know that I'm so nice and nothing really bothers me, they forget about the respect factor in the situation. So yes, nothing bothers me and I go with the flow, but you still have to be respectful in the matter you do things. For example, I don't mind when my family wants to have a gathering at my house. They all know I don't mind and they'll just automatically assume its okay to do it instead of asking if I mind. That bothers me. A lot of people feel like because I don't mind and I don't like conflict they just go for it. I know I'm on a reality show and saying I don't like conflict sounds crazy, but I don't like conflict so a lot of the times I'll try to avoid conflict by just saying whatever. If it doesn't bother me, I'll just go with the flow at that moment so it'll be over soon.

People often mistake kindness for weakness...

Yes and you'll see a lot of that on the show because some of the girls are like, "Oh, she doesn't mind. She's not going to say anything."  That's because they know me so well, but this time I'm like, "Hold on, that's not going to happen!"

What else can fans expect from you in 2015?

You can expect more products from my bedding line, and I'm working on my acting career in movies and sitcoms.

Basketball Wives LA premieres on Sunday, July 12 at 9/8C on VH1.

Photo Credit: Instagram/@malaysiainthecity

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'Boomerang' Episode 7 Recap: Family Matters And Pride

Bryson and Simone are a thing, like for real for real. They can’t keep their hands (or tongues) off of one another. As the two of them get steamy in the jacuzzi, a sexually riled up Simone tells her new beau that she wants to treat his face like a bean bag. They are in it, y’all. There’s just one problem — they may be half-brother and sister (insert vomit emoji here). The excitement of finally landing the girl of his dreams is shut down when he reveals that his mother, Jacqueline, informed him that Marcus Graham may be his papa. (Wait. Does that mean Marcus cheated on Angela back in the day? Regardless, what a way to ruin a mood.)

As they wait for the DNA test results, Simone and Bryson still try to be business as usual, you know, chillin’ like they used to. Speaking of business, Bryson is all that. Ari may be his boy and all, but when it comes to directing Tia’s music video, Bryson wants an Italian dude to shoot it instead. He just doesn’t believe Ari can execute. All great directors have vision and through Bryson’s eyes, Ari has none. Simone can’t help but agree. It’s obvious that Tia and her bae are not at all pleased with the video production of her single. Bro gotsta go. Tia has never been one to hold back and in a fit of frustration, she does what Simone couldn’t verbalize; she fires Ari.

Like the “big bad boss” he is, Bryson harshly tells Ari that not only will he basically fail at being a producer, but people will notice that he doesn’t belong here. Hold up. Are we sure Bryson and Ari are friends? Tough love is understandable but to completely obliterate the dreams of someone you’ve been rocking with? That’s foul. Unlike Ari, Bryson knows that he was brought up with the keys and basically helped himself to whatever role he wanted in the industry, a luxury he can afford to extend. Why not help your friend out now even with a little guidance knowing his career aspirations?

Bryson may be able to but Simone is not willing to give up on Ari just yet. She lets Ari collaborate Bryson’s pick, Shayan, who is also seemingly having a hard time capturing dope shots. A conversation with Simone about perfecting his craft leaves Ari somewhat disappointed but open to the constructive criticism.

While enjoying the Atlanta Black Pride festivities, an old filing recognizes Ari and waves him down. In catching up, the discussion quickly takes a turn to sexual orientation labels with a judgemental tone and Ari is not having it. Sure, while he was with her, he liked women but sometimes he’d rather be with a man. “Bisexual,” “Gay,” call it whatever, he just likes who he likes, refuses to be put in a box, and there’s nothing wrong with that. What is not about to happen is him being judged by a woman with five kids and three baby favas. Yikes.

That frustration instantly births inspiration. Instead of dryly shooting Tia performing with Pride weekend just happening around her, Ari points out how the world needs to see all black people not caring about what anyone has to say about them, especially when the world includes women rocking $12 jewelry. Sashayers, milly-rockers, and twerkers galore, the video shines on the culture, highlighting Kings and Queens of all shades, ages, genders, and sexualities. It’s a good time. Even Bryson can give up his props and that lead director credit to Ari. You see, Bryson? You gotta have a little faith like David always has.

Speaking of our fave pastor, unlike many Baptist churches, it’s amazing to see that David embraces and participates in the Atlanta Black Pride weekend. With the help of Crystal, David is preaching a message of loving who you are and loving others. His sermon last week no doubt spoke to the soul but if you recall, Crystal did notice that a lovely lady attended the service moreso for David and less so for Jesus. That obviously triggered something. Crystal and David may not have been able to work out their marriage but the attraction is absolutely still there. Could it be one-sided though?

You didn’t think we forgot about Bryson and Simone, did you? It should be noted that for his entire life, all Bryson ever wanted was to be like Marcus Graham, but not like this. David is right: be careful what you pray for. No matter the outcome of the paternity test, Simone and Bryson will undoubtedly be in one another’s life (maybe less like Whitley and Dwayne and more like Denise and Theo).

Well, folks, the results are in (insert Maury voice). In the case of Bryson J. Broyer, Marcus, you are NOT the father! But, you may still have some ‘splaining to do. Now that they are officially not related, Simone can finally go ahead and have that seat. We know, sis has been tired all day. Ow!

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Yvette Nicole Brown and Gabourey Sidibe were some of the actresses who were vocal about the treatment of actors of color when faced with beauticians in Hollywood.
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Celebrities Use #ActingWhileBlack Hashtag To Point Out Pitfalls Of Hollywood's Beauty Scene

While being a working person of color in Hollywood is something to admire, those fortunate enough to be working in these spaces often have difficulties finding the right person to do their hair and makeup with the right amount of diligent care.

Model Olivia Anakwe took to Instagram earlier this month to detail the issues she faced before a runway show, when she was disrespected by haircare professionals who refused to work on her textured hair.

"Black hairstylists are required to know how to do everyone’s hair, why does the same not apply to others?” she wrote. “It does not matter if you don’t specialize in afro hair, as a continuous learner in your field you should be open to what you have yet to accomplish; take a class."

The hashtag #ActingWhileBlack began to spread on social media over the weekend, and people of color chimed in to share their stories.

Actress Yvette Nicole Brown shared that she often carries her own hair extensions and clothes for shoots, and that having stylists who are untrained in black beauty often runs the risk of them looking bad later on. Oscar-nominee Gabourey Sidibe shared a similar sentiment.

Insecure’s Natasha Rothwell hit the nail on the head in her tweet about the issue with not hiring the right people to work with ethnic hair.

“If you cast a POC— And thank you for doing so!—you also have to hire someone who knows how to do ethnic hair,” she wrote on Mar. 11. “Not someone who's "comfortable with it" but someone who actually knows how to style ethnic hair types.”

Check out some tweets from celebs on this issue below.

 

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This message is to spread awareness & hopefully reach anyone in the hair field to expand their range of skills. Black models are still asking for just one hairstylist on every team no matter where your team is from to care for afro hair. I was asked to get out of an empty chair followed by having hairstylists blatantly turning their backs to me when I would walk up to them, to get my hair done. If I am asked to wear my natural hair to a show, the team should prepare the style just as they practice the look and demo for non-afro hair. I arrived backstage where they planned to do cornrows, but not one person on the team knew how to do them without admitting so. After one lady attempted and pulled my edges relentlessly, I stood up to find a model who could possibly do it. After asking two models and then the lead/only nail stylist, she was then taken away from her job to do my hair. This is not okay. This will never be okay. This needs to change. No matter how small your team is, make sure you have one person that is competent at doing afro texture hair care OR just hire a black hairstylist! Black hairstylists are required to know how to do everyone’s hair, why does the same not apply to others? It does not matter if you don’t specialize in afro hair, as a continuous learner in your field you should be open to what you have yet to accomplish; take a class. I was ignored, I was forgotten, and I felt that. Unfortunately I’m not alone, black models with afro texture hair continuously face these similar unfair and disheartening circumstances. It’s 2019, it’s time to do better. || #NaturalHair #ModelsofColor #BlackHairCare #HairCare #Message #Hair #Hairstyling #Backstage #BTS #AfroTexturedHair #Afro #POC #Braids #Message #Spreadtheword #Speak #Awareness #Growth #WorkingTogether #BlackGirlMagic #Melanin

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#ActingWhileBlack Makeup & Hair in one bag. The other bags are filled with clothes because some wardrobe stylists don’t know that cute clothes exist in sizes larger than size 10. “Here try on this mumu, I know it’s a little big, we’ll just belt it!” #ActingWhileBlackAndChubby https://t.co/gl3b64Omtj

— yvette nicole brown (@YNB) March 11, 2019

Most black actresses come to a new set w/ their hair done (me) or bring their wigs & clip-ins w/them. It’s either that or take a chance that you will look crazy on screen. Many of us also bring our own foundation. One too many times seeing no shade that matches you will learn ya! https://t.co/mGAzpuoKtb

— yvette nicole brown (@YNB) March 11, 2019

Most black actresses come to a new set w/ their hair done (me) or bring their wigs & clip-ins w/them. It’s either that or take a chance that you will look crazy on screen. Many of us also bring our own foundation. One too many times seeing no shade that matches you will learn ya! https://t.co/mGAzpuoKtb

— yvette nicole brown (@YNB) March 11, 2019

If they don’t have the budget to hire a black hairstylist for me, or won’t, I just get the director to agree that my character should have box braids or senegalese twist.

— Gabby Sidibe (@GabbySidibe) March 11, 2019

PSA: If you cast a POC— And thank you for doing so!—you also have to hire someone who knows how to do ethnic hair. Not someone who's "comfortable with it" but someone who actually knows how to style ethnic hair types.

Congratulations on advancing to the next level of inclusion! https://t.co/A1Q9ZpvXmH

— Natasha Rothwell (@natasharothwell) March 11, 2019

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Kim Kardashian Credited For Making Crimped Hair Cool Like Beyonce, Janet Jackson And Naomi Campbell Don't Exist

Spring is nothing without doses of cultural appropriation from those out of touch with black culture.

Insert Vogue, who decided to give props to Kim Kardashian for bringing back crimped hair on Friday (March 15). The businesswoman has been on the move lately, rocking a mix of kanekalon and yaki ponytails during fashion month, Chance The Rapper's wedding and other Kardashian-related events.

“What makes this look so modern is that the front is sleek,” explained her stylist Justine Marjan. “This gives a cool contrast to the texture.”

The texture? 

With many trends from the aughts coming back to the mainstream, this is one that hasn't really gone anywhere. But black beauty markers (layered gold chains, perfect baby hairs, name chains) paired with media ignorance and the Kardashian's own fascination with black culture has made it okay for her to receive all the props.

But we can't forget those who have slayed kanekalon, yaki and crimped styles like...

Janet Jackson

The singer's look for her comeback has been a uniform-like one, with Ms. Jackson rocking all black and her now signature ponytail.

Beyoncé

This. was. last. year. How could anyone forget this? The entertainer rocked various styles of kanekalon hair for Beychella.

There was also this amazing look at Serena Williams' wedding.

 

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Ruth E. Carter

The Oscar-winning designer made the look all her own while on the red carpet for Black Panther. 

Nicki Minaj

Fans of the rapper are aware her early looks included fun crimped and wavy styles. When she made to move to ditch her color wigs in 2014, she's kept the crimped styles close to her heart.

And we cannot forget about our queen, Naomi Campbell

She's owned the look her whole career, from the runway to the red carpet, Ms. Campbell has always been on the forefront of casual beautiful looks.

Social media also got wind of Vogue's post, including actor O'Shea Jackson who like many of us, is just over it.

Maaaaaaan come on now. Come ooooon now. Bringing it back? Vogue stop this https://t.co/FEGSw3GM9V

— Stone Cold Shea Jackson (@OsheaJacksonJr) March 15, 2019

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Perhaps there's a bit of truth of the theories of fashion outlets trolling readers but this just deserves a permanent eye roll.

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