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Would You Try BDSM If It Involved Spiritual Healing?

Sex that might take you higher…

When it comes to the topic of BDSM, the topic is still relatively taboo. BDSM practices as a form of alternative sexuality is often stigmatized as deviant, unhealthy, and sensationalized (particularly with the campy novel and 2015 film release of E.L. James's 50 Shades of Grey) instead of being viewed as healing force that improves relationships. In a new insightful piece in Broadly, kinksters share their passion for blending energy work with BDSM practices, offering wonderful benefits for monogamous and vanilla sex lovers.

25-year old Healah Lee, an Aniwodi Cherokee, who has spent over a decade doing healing spiritual work, agrees. "We're naturally connected to an energy outlet. We come from a source that we have forgotten," she explains. Energy work and BDSM are naturally compatible, in that "they connect people...to many kinsters, BDSM and energy work seem like a natural pairing."

"When one is close to climax, you pull the energy from your sacral chakra up to your heart center, then you make the effort to move the energy out from your heart, around your body, up over your head, and encompassing your partner's crown, third eye and throat chakras, and then back into their heart and down into their sacral and root chakras. This permits one to energetically, on top of physically, share an orgasm."

Victrix Oracle, who is a self-proclaimed Goddess Witch in Quebec, performs the following process during BDSM activities, which is termed ankhing, an ancient Egyptian principle that helps bring vitality and strength within a relationship. As a reiki master, clairvoyant, empath, and healer, Victrix maintains that BDSM perfectly coincides with spiritual oneness with a partner, and brings enlightenment.

Fellow Quebec resident Jean-Sebastien Laviolette uses BDSM in energy work as a dominant partner, regularly using psi-balls in his practice. "Psi balls can be used to heighten, deaden, or actively manipulate any erogenous zone on the body of a person, and trigger, prolong, intensify, or literally stop dead in its track an orgasm," he claims. "Psi balls can be used to ping a partner from afar, attracting their attention to text, call, or message you."

Kinksters also report choosing partners based on energy factors alone. When they do find a suitable pairing, the two develop their energy and spiritual work together. "I try to choose my life partners, love interests, and f*ck friends on the basis of our connection on an energy, vibration, and intuitive compatibility level," Laviolette confesses.

The practice of spiritual healing work contradicts the predominant thought of BDSM as an inherently grotesque sexual practice. In 2013, it was also reported that those who engaged in BDSM practices were said to be mentally healthier than those who partook in vanilla sex. "Our social conditioning predisposes us our social conditioning predisposes people to be judgmental about alternative sexualities. This happens due to what I call the adjacency effect, or a conflation of sexual activity with morality (or lack thereof) and a concurrent pollution/stigma that affects everyone around the deviant person," says PhD. Jeana Jorgensen.

While it will take awhile to remove the shame of BDSM practices in the mainstream, practitioners also mind partners to be cautious of unhealthy power dynamics that can develop within the relationship. "Kinky energy workers like Oracle, the witch in Quebec, use a method called "cord cutting" to sever such ties. While hesitant to share the details of her techniques, she says [Victrix Oracle], "The effect is radical not only for getting rid of cling-ons who don't understand the meaning of 'no,' 'piss off,' or 'no more,' but also for reinforcing existing relationships that are meant to be."

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We're deep into the holiday season, and it's clear that Rihanna's Fenty Beauty reign just won't let up. The 30-year-old Bajan star recently called upon the first lady of ratchet reality television, Tiffany Pollard – also known as "New York" from VH1's Flavor of Love and I Love New York –  to star in her latest video campaign vlog for the cosmetics line.

The 36-year-old reality show star looks fabulous in the nine-minute video uploaded on Sunday (Dec. 16), wearing brown lipstick with shoulder-length curly, black hair, acrylic nails, and gold jewelry on her neck and wrist.

Pollard gets straight to the point in the video starting, with the Pro’Filter Foundation saying "I feel younger and thinner, I didn’t know it could do all that, but it’s doing it!"

Other products from the Fenty Beauty collection includes the Killawatt Foil palette, the Frost Bunny-Frost Hunny-Frost Money eye, and lip sets and Gloss Bomb in Fu$$y. Pollard does what she does best while she speaks about on the various items, and she doesn't hold back on the profanity nor the R-rated commentary.

When the former I Love New York star posted a snippet of the vlog to her Instagram, she received a lot of love from her Hollywood peers under the post including Rachel True (The Craft), Dascha Polanco (OITNB), Melyssa Ford, Perez Hilton and her former castmate from Flavor of Love, Deelishis.

Despite her current absence on reality television on the moment, Pollard continues to stay relevant as memes and GIFs of her during her time on love show competitions lives on, as well pop-up exhibits of her in museums.Check out New York in Fenty Beauty's new gift guide video above.

 

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Stephen Curry Inspired By 9-Year-Old To Provide Curry 6 Shoes For Girls

Proving to be more than just an expert shooter from the free-throw line, Stephen Curry has managed to do right by the majority of the people in his life, including a young girl he's never met.

After receiving a handwritten letter from 9-year-old Riley Morrison, the precocious kid pointed out one minor issue with the Golden State Warrior's latest Curry 5 shoes — the sneakers were not manufactured in girls' shoe sizes.

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"My dad and I visited the Under Armour website and were disappointed to see that there were no Curry 5s for sale under the girl's section," the aspiring basketball player wrote.

Quickly swooping in for the save, the 30-year-old athlete responded with a written note, saying, "I appreciate your concern and have spent the last 2 days talking to Under Armour about how we can fix the issue." Continuing the letter, the father-of-three went on to say, "I am going to send you the Curry 5's now and you will be the first kid to get the Curry 6."

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Working diligently to correct the mistake, Curry proceeded to invite the young fan to an event for International Women's Day in March.

Looks like everyone wins, including Riley and girls all over the nation.

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On Thursday (Nov. 1), the iconic hip-hop collective Wu-Tang Clan announced to Billboard that they teamed up with Milk Makeup to launch their first-ever cosmetics line with Teyana Taylor as the star of the campaign.

Wu-Tang, who is heavily inspired by Chinese culture, are no strangers when it comes to extending their brand beyond music. In the past, the Staten Island group has had a line of sneakers via a partnership with Nike and spent this year launching an apparel collection of streetwear for different seasons.

However, this is the first time the group hopes to reach to the hearts of ladies everywhere with the new lipstick collection. Wu-Tang's RZA told Billboard that his wife is a fan of Milk Makeup products. "My wife has a cool perspective about makeup [because] in her youth, she was in the modeling circles," RZA said.

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The 46-second commercial for the limited-edition product features Teyana Taylor performing karate moves on a roof with the NYC skyline in the background. Dressed in an all-black battle suit with long sleek black hair, Taylor is focused on her kung-fu styled moves as the video goes into slow-motion.

Taylor, who featured Wu-Tang on a remix to her 2018 single "Gonna Love Me" spoke with Milk about the new venture. "[Working with Milk and Wu-Tang] was a no-brainer. I have been a huge fan of Wu-Tang forever and I love the modern energy of Milk Makeup. When I saw the quality of the lipstick with the custom-sculpted dragon on the bullet, I was impressed—it's like a work of art."

The limited-edition collection is currently available exclusively on MilkMakeup.com. Each of the lipsticks can be bought separately for $55 each or all together for $440. Along with the collection comes a 24 karat gold compact mirror ($75) and a makeup pin set ($18) that can also be bought separately.

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