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Would You Try BDSM If It Involved Spiritual Healing?

Sex that might take you higher…

When it comes to the topic of BDSM, the topic is still relatively taboo. BDSM practices as a form of alternative sexuality is often stigmatized as deviant, unhealthy, and sensationalized (particularly with the campy novel and 2015 film release of E.L. James's 50 Shades of Grey) instead of being viewed as healing force that improves relationships. In a new insightful piece in Broadly, kinksters share their passion for blending energy work with BDSM practices, offering wonderful benefits for monogamous and vanilla sex lovers.

25-year old Healah Lee, an Aniwodi Cherokee, who has spent over a decade doing healing spiritual work, agrees. "We're naturally connected to an energy outlet. We come from a source that we have forgotten," she explains. Energy work and BDSM are naturally compatible, in that "they connect people...to many kinsters, BDSM and energy work seem like a natural pairing."

"When one is close to climax, you pull the energy from your sacral chakra up to your heart center, then you make the effort to move the energy out from your heart, around your body, up over your head, and encompassing your partner's crown, third eye and throat chakras, and then back into their heart and down into their sacral and root chakras. This permits one to energetically, on top of physically, share an orgasm."

Victrix Oracle, who is a self-proclaimed Goddess Witch in Quebec, performs the following process during BDSM activities, which is termed ankhing, an ancient Egyptian principle that helps bring vitality and strength within a relationship. As a reiki master, clairvoyant, empath, and healer, Victrix maintains that BDSM perfectly coincides with spiritual oneness with a partner, and brings enlightenment.

Fellow Quebec resident Jean-Sebastien Laviolette uses BDSM in energy work as a dominant partner, regularly using psi-balls in his practice. "Psi balls can be used to heighten, deaden, or actively manipulate any erogenous zone on the body of a person, and trigger, prolong, intensify, or literally stop dead in its track an orgasm," he claims. "Psi balls can be used to ping a partner from afar, attracting their attention to text, call, or message you."

Kinksters also report choosing partners based on energy factors alone. When they do find a suitable pairing, the two develop their energy and spiritual work together. "I try to choose my life partners, love interests, and f*ck friends on the basis of our connection on an energy, vibration, and intuitive compatibility level," Laviolette confesses.

The practice of spiritual healing work contradicts the predominant thought of BDSM as an inherently grotesque sexual practice. In 2013, it was also reported that those who engaged in BDSM practices were said to be mentally healthier than those who partook in vanilla sex. "Our social conditioning predisposes us our social conditioning predisposes people to be judgmental about alternative sexualities. This happens due to what I call the adjacency effect, or a conflation of sexual activity with morality (or lack thereof) and a concurrent pollution/stigma that affects everyone around the deviant person," says PhD. Jeana Jorgensen.

While it will take awhile to remove the shame of BDSM practices in the mainstream, practitioners also mind partners to be cautious of unhealthy power dynamics that can develop within the relationship. "Kinky energy workers like Oracle, the witch in Quebec, use a method called "cord cutting" to sever such ties. While hesitant to share the details of her techniques, she says [Victrix Oracle], "The effect is radical not only for getting rid of cling-ons who don't understand the meaning of 'no,' 'piss off,' or 'no more,' but also for reinforcing existing relationships that are meant to be."

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