Will Smith And Jada Pinkett-Smith Explain Why They "Destroyed" Their Marriage Ideals On 'Red Table Talk'
"I'm not marriage material, what I am is a ride or die chick."
Marriage means many things to couples around the world, including Will and Jada Pinkett-Smith. The two have spoken deeply about their unique union, but the couple stepped things up on Part 2 of Red Table Talk.
Shared on Monday (Oct. 29), the power couple got real about the downs of the 21-year marriage. Last week, Jada explained her battle with depression as well as dealing with expectations of a marriage to Will, while he opened up about how his ego took precedence over a lot of factors in their family. In Part 2, the couple explained how they got over the humps by breaking apart their marriage.
"Everybody was operating from a place of hurt. What I realized was that my brokenness created all my discomfort," Jada explained. One of the major breakthroughs in their marriage came before Jada's 40th birthday. After Will's grandiose birthday party for the actress went left, they took a break to reevaluate themselves in hopes to be better partners for one another.
"I took off for two years to see what I was doing wrong," Will said. "I read 50 books on marriage, relationships, behavioral psychology. I was not going to fail in this marriage. But I shut down for two entire years to see what I was doing wrong."
"Really what you're breaking down is all the fantasies," Jada added. "Ultimately to have a successful relationship, you have to be in a relationship with a human being." Part of that, Will added, was stripping himself of his public persona.
"Cause what happened was our characters were trying to have a relationship," he added."If you're going to wear a mask, that person is trying to love your mask. They're trying to love the image that you're presenting but that's not what you really need. I was broken and I learned how to look fixed to the world. Will Smith was a character. But deep down inside, I was an insecure little boy who wanted Jada to say I was great. But if she didn't say I was great, the dragon would come out."
There were many gems shared throughout the episode but the biggest one came from Jada. While in the stage of breaking down their marriage, the actress says she learned many new truths about traumas and expectations she's subconsciously carried.
"I had to learn to be a lot of things for myself," she said. "I used to think if you don't need somebody then you can't love them. And if you're not needed, you aren't loved. That was a false belief I had. I can't expect to love someone to love me more than me. If you don't like being with you, what the hell makes you think someone else would want to be with you? If you don't love yourself...we expect people to love us more than we love ourselves and we expect people to put in the work for that. I definitely went through that with Will. I thought it was his job to make me feel that way. I had to break that fantasy."
Watch the episode up top.