Will Smith And Jada Pinkett-Smith Explain Why They "Destroyed" Their Marriage Ideals On 'Red Table Talk'

"I'm not marriage material, what I am is a ride or die chick." 

Marriage means many things to couples around the world, including Will and Jada Pinkett-Smith. The two have spoken deeply about their unique union, but the couple stepped things up on Part 2 of Red Table Talk.

Shared on Monday (Oct. 29), the power couple got real about the downs of the 21-year marriage. Last week, Jada explained her battle with depression as well as dealing with expectations of a marriage to Will, while he opened up about how his ego took precedence over a lot of factors in their family. In Part 2, the couple explained how they got over the humps by breaking apart their marriage.

"Everybody was operating from a place of hurt. What I realized was that my brokenness created all my discomfort," Jada explained. One of the major breakthroughs in their marriage came before Jada's 40th birthday. After Will's grandiose birthday party for the actress went left, they took a break to reevaluate themselves in hopes to be better partners for one another.

"I took off for two years to see what I was doing wrong," Will said. "I read 50 books on marriage, relationships, behavioral psychology. I was not going to fail in this marriage. But I shut down for two entire years to see what I was doing wrong."

"Really what you're breaking down is all the fantasies," Jada added. "Ultimately to have a successful relationship, you have to be in a relationship with a human being." Part of that, Will added, was stripping himself of his public persona.

"Cause what happened was our characters were trying to have a relationship," he added."If you're going to wear a mask, that person is trying to love your mask. They're trying to love the image that you're presenting but that's not what you really need. I was broken and I learned how to look fixed to the world. Will Smith was a character. But deep down inside, I was an insecure little boy who wanted Jada to say I was great. But if she didn't say I was great, the dragon would come out."

There were many gems shared throughout the episode but the biggest one came from Jada. While in the stage of breaking down their marriage, the actress says she learned many new truths about traumas and expectations she's subconsciously carried.

"I had to learn to be a lot of things for myself," she said. "I used to think if you don't need somebody then you can't love them. And if you're not needed, you aren't loved. That was a false belief I had. I can't expect to love someone to love me more than me. If you don't like being with you, what the hell makes you think someone else would want to be with you? If you don't love yourself...we expect people to love us more than we love ourselves and we expect people to put in the work for that. I definitely went through that with Will. I thought it was his job to make me feel that way. I had to break that fantasy."

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A documentary on Malcolm X’s assassination has prompted authorities to reexamine the case. In Who Killed Malcolm X? historian Abdur-Rahman Muhammad explores the many questions surrounding the death of one of history’s most pivotal figures. The six-part series originally aired on Fusion but has been gaining popularity since appearing on Netflix.

This February will mark the 55-year anniversary of Malcolm’s murder. The former Nation of Islam leader, who left the organization and changed his name to El-Hajj Malik El-Shabazz, was gunned down inside Harlem’s Audubon Ballroom on February 21, 1965. Three members of the NOI, Mujahid Abdul Halim, Muhammad Abdul Aziz and Khalil Islam, were convicted for the murder and sentenced to life in prison.

As noted by the Innocence Project, Aziz and Islam always maintained their innocence, while Halim confessed to partaking in the fatal shooting. In 1966, Halim testified that Aziz and Islam had “nothing to do” with the murder. In 1978, Halim identified four other men as co-conspirators. His confession was supported by FBI documents obtained by civil rights lawyer William Kunstler. Prosecutors in the original trial claimed to have been unaware of the documents and New York State Supreme Court Judge Harold Rothwax ultimately rejected a motion to vacate Aziz and Islam’s convictions. Rothwax died in 1997.

Manhattan District Attorney Cy Vance has since met with representatives from the Innocence Project “and associated counsel regarding the matter,” a spokesperson for the DA’s office said in an emailed statement, per NPR.

Although Islam died in 2009, Aziz, now 81, continues to fight to clear his name. He was freed on parole in 1985. The Innocence Project joined forces with civil rights attorney David Shanies to re-investigate Azis’s conviction. “We are grateful that District Attorney Vance quickly agreed to conduct a review of the conviction of Muhammad Aziz. Given the historical importance of this case and the fact that our client is 81 years old, we are especially encouraged that Mr. Vance has assigned two highly respected prosecutors, Peter Casolaro and Charles King, to work on this re-investigation,” the Innocence Project and Shanies said in a joint statement. “We look forward to working cooperatively with them to see that justice is done.”

Casolaro worked on the case of the Exonerated Five and King is a member of the Conviction Integrity Program of the New York County District Attorney’s Office.

As noted by the Innocence Project, there was no physical evidence linking Aziz or Islam to Malcolm’s murder. In fact, Aziz wasn’t even at the venue. The day of the murder, Aziz had returned home after being treated for a leg injury. He heard about Malcolm's assassination while listening to the radio that day, and has doctors and witnesses, to corroborate his story.

Watch the trailer for Who Killed Malcolm X? below.

 

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Ava DuVernay Named Director Of Nipsey Hussle Documentary For Netflix

Ava DuVernay's next cinematic feat will center on a hometown legend. According to Deadline, the acclaimed director will lead a documentary on Nipsey Hussle for streaming giant Netflix.

The announcement was made on Monday (Feb. 10), two weeks since DuVernay presented a musical tribute to the late rapper at the 52nd annual Grammy Awards. Hussle won two gramophones that evening: Best Rap Performance and Best Rap/Sung Performance.

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For Nipsey. Ermias. Son. Brother. Partner. Friend. Artist. Champion. Grateful that he existed. Grateful we walked this vast earth at the same time. In the same city. Grateful that our paths crossed. Grateful for the work and wisdom he gave us. We miss you. Happy Birthday, Nip. xo pic.twitter.com/cNEZHUhiao

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On March 31, 2019, Hussle, born Ermias Asghedom, was fatally shot outside of his Marathon Clothing store in Los Angeles. His death rattled various communities and prompted supporters and new fans to take a look back at this trajectory within music and entrepreneurship.

According to Billboard, other streaming services in the mix included Apple and Amazon. Alongside Hussle's family, the entrepreneur's Marathon Films will also helm production duties.

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The performance was preceded by a speech that saw Lin Manuel Miranda paying homage to "examples where a song has transformed a film, and where a film has transformed a song." A montage showed clips from Risky Business, Hustle & Flow, Purple Rain and more, before ending with a clip from 8 Mile that showed Eminem's character B. Rabbit pulling up in his car and walking toward the hallway before the film's climactic final battle. Then, to viewers' surprise, Eminem took the stage to perform "Lose Yourself" with a live band.

The performance took social media off-guard – the song "Lose Yourself" or the award ceremony that gave the award aren't celebrating any particular anniversaries, and Eminem wasn't announced to appearing at the show. But that didn't stop Em from giving a pinpoint performance of the song – which is largely seen as the best in his career – or from members of the audience from singing along.

EMINEM AT THE #OSCARS 🤯pic.twitter.com/enMWCOsWif

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After the performance, Eminem posted a video from the 2003 Academy Awards that saw Bette Midler announcing "Lose Yourself" as the winner for Best Original Song; Eminem didn't show up to the ceremony that year, so collaborator Luis Resto accepted the award in his place. "Look, if you had another shot, another opportunity... Thanks for having me @theacademy," Eminem captioned the photo. "Sorry it took me 18 years to get here."

 

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Look, if you had another shot, another opportunity... Thanks for having me @theacademy. Sorry it took me 18 years to get here.

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Eminem also posted a photo with musical target-turned-friend Elton John, who took home an Oscar himself that night for his and songwriter Bernie Taupin's "(I'm Gonna) Love Me Again," from the film Rocketman.

 

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I got to see my Uncle Elton tonight at the Oscars. Congrats on your win too, Sir! @eltonjohn

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Eminem released his new surprise album, Music To Be Murdered By, in January.

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