Michelle Obama On Leaning In "That sh*t Doesn't Work"
Former First Lady to some (and forever a First Lady to most) Michelle Obama continued her Becoming book tour with a stop at Brooklyn's Barclay Center Saturday (Dec. 1). While speaking with poet Elizabeth Alexander, the bestselling author spoke candidly about marriage and marriage equality.
"Marriage ain't equal y'all," Obama said. It ain’t equal. I tell women that whole ‘you can have it all’—mmm, nope, not at the same time, that’s a lie. It’s not always enough to lean in because that sh*t doesn’t work.”
The sold-out arena reportedly erupted into laughter at Obama's frank description of leaning-in and marriage. She then scanned the room noticing children and corrected the language.
“I thought we were at home, y’all. I was gettin’ real comfortable up in here. Alright, I’m back now. Sometimes that stuff doesn't work.”
Obama also explained why she wrote in detail about going to marriage counseling with the former president.
“People are like, “Oh, why’d she talk about marriage counseling?” I’m like, ‘Duh.”Marriage is hard, you know. It is hard . . . I love my husband, and we have a great marriage, and we’ve had a great marriage, but marriage is hard work.” She added that she’s seen too many couples rush into marriage. “Marriage is a lot of work, and it should be. It’s too independent individuals who are trying to come together to build a life forever.
Obama continued discussing the truth about the effect children can have on a marriage: "kids are an interrupter; they mess it all up. Barack and I say that’s why they make ’em cute, ’cause if they weren’t cute, you’d just leave ’em in a basket.”