You could be one of two kinds of people this Valentine’s Day weekend. On one hand, this could be Single’s Awareness Day for you, in which you celebrate it partying with friends or curled up in bed with footie pajamas, Netflix and your Instagram feed. On the other hand, you could be snuggled up in the arms of your interest for the night on location. If option number two is your descriptor, then Sevyn Streeter wants to help your Valentine’s Day outing be up to par. The CBE singer/songwriter knows a thing or two when it comes to love and courtship, as she’s penned love notes for Ariana Grande, Chris Brown, Alicia Keys, Kelly Rowland, Tamar Braxton and more. And with her relationship with longtime friend B.o.B blossoming, she’s in a position to lend out a few courtship tips for the lover’s holiday.
“Every day is Valentine’s Day to me when you have chemistry with somebody,” she said of the newly publicized relationship. “It was just one of those things that gradually happened. It’s not like a high school ‘Do you like me? Check yes or no’ thing. We’re both adults and we just been friends for a really long time and it grew from a friendship.” Looking back on her dating experience with and prior to Bobby Ray, Sevyn puts on her advice columnist hat for VIBE. Whether this weekend will determine a first impression or is just another outing for preexisting couples, here are seven pointers that’ll ensure your V-Day date is something to look forward to. —Stacy-Ann Ellis (@stassi_x) 1. Do your research. Sevyn: It might be too late if they haven’t already, but it’s important to pay attention to the person you’re dating. You shouldn’t start doing your Valentine’s Day research the week of Valentine’s Day. Find out what they get into. If they like going to museums, if there’s a certain restaurant they’ve never been to or there’s a food they love that you want to learn how to cook, I think that’ll spice up any type of relationship. It’s all about being attentive. And when V-Day comes, that’s when you pull that all out to spice it up real quick. 2. Ditch the cheesy movie date idea. Keep it simple and fun. Sevyn: I don’t want to go to a movie theater. I want to go and do something where we can actually have a conversation. Like a movie theater where you sit there for hours and you don’t say anything, that’s definitely not it. Dinner is nice, but not some place that’s crowded and loud. You can cook me dinner and we can have a glass of wine and talk. Any place that we can have a real conversation. We can go check out really dope restaurants or sit in the car and talk or sit and have some nice scenery and I’m good. 3. Master the gift of gab. Sevyn: I can’t stand someone who just—well not can’t stand—but I’m not built for people who can’t really hold conversation. I just want to laugh and talk about random things. Educate me, teach me something. I couldn’t date a guy that doesn’t really have a personality. We would never, ever work. You couldn’t get a second date. I could sit up on my couch and watch TV by myself. 4. Don’t kill the fun by overthinking date locales. Sevyn: For me, obviously I love the studio. I can relax there. Go-kart racing, catch some basketball games, just fun things. Things that aren’t so stuffy. Not too much pressure. Don’t overthink it. I don’t like to over-think it. Hop in a car and drive somewhere and see wherever it takes you, you know? I’m super big on that. 5. Have the perfect playlist set up for sexy time. Sevyn: “It Won’t Stop” would definitely be [a song on my list]. My favorite song is “By Your Side” by Sade so that would definitely be one. D’Angelo’s “How Does It Feel” because that shit’s sexy. John Legend’s “All Of Me” because it’s just beautiful. And what about Beyonce’s “Dance For You”? It’s sexy and I can vibe to that one. SEE ALSO: Future Sex Love Sounds: A Valentine’s Day Playlist 6. Whip out the naughty side every once in a while, but keep it classy in public. Sevyn: If y’all been dating for a minute you better put on some lingerie, “Dance For You”, and dance for him. I am all for that. You better role play! Lady in the streets, lady in the streets. (Laughs) 7. PDA is okay. Finish the date strong with a kiss (if you’re in the clear). Sevyn: I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that at all. I feel it out throughout the date. If you lean in for a hug throughout the date, or you’re trying to hold a hand throughout the date and it’s not going that well, you probably shouldn’t lean in for a kiss at the end of the date. Rub her back, rub his back, and by the end of the date I think you’ll be able to gauge it. I’m all for that end-of-the-night kiss. I love it. [And for PDA] I just don’t really care. If I feel like kissing you, I’m going to kiss you. If I feel like holding your hand, I’m going to hold your hand. You don’t have to be grabbing my ass in public, we don’t have to do that. That will be a little bit too much. But a peck here, you can hold my hand, just be respectful. We can be respectful.” Photo Coutesy of Artist