Tia Mowry is something like a modern-day superhero.
The 36-year-old entrepreneur successfully survived the pitfalls of childhood stardom to emerge as one of Hollywood’s leading talents. The Instant Mom actress balances her career, motherhood (she has a cutiepatootie 3-year-old son named Cree) and being a wife to hubby, fellow actor Cory Hardrict. And while Tia does it all, she admits the key isn’t saying “yes,” but rather not feeling guilty about saying “no.”
In the latest “In A League Of Their Own” series, VIBE spoke with Tia about finding the time to do it all.
Describe you career in two or more words:
I’m a mom. I’m a wife. I’m an actress. I’m an executive producer. I’m an author. I’m an entrepreneur and I’m a sister and a best friend.
The key to balancing life and work:
The number one key is to basically prioritize. I’m a mother and wife first because family is important to me, and a part of having a balanced life is not feeling guilty about taking care of yourself. I will never forget being told by a woman that is a writer, producer and a mother as well. I admire her and asked ‘How do you do it?’ and she told me, ‘You have to take care of the goose, in order for the goose to lay the egg.’ So in order for you to be able to execute all of those different qualities as a woman and as a person, you have to take care of yourself. It’s easy for us to feel guilty when we put ourselves first, but when this woman said it to me from this perspective, it was so clear and so true.
On incorporating healthy eating with a busy lifestyle:
It first starts with the perception on healthy eating, and my perception is it’s important because I’ve seen the benefits of healthy eating in my life in relation to my struggle with endometriosis and having a baby. Also, I simplify everything and then, it becomes doable. I’ll go grocery shopping at the farmer’s market on a Sunday and already know what I’m going to cook for the next two, three or four days. Right now, I make a really good, healthy turkey meatball spaghetti. I make them with turkey, spinach and oatmeal instead of using breadcrumbs. Then I’ll make this really amazing, tasty kale salad with tangerines, pomegranate seeds, walnuts and then I make my own tangerine and olive oil vinaigrette.
On dealing with sexism in Hollywood:
I’ve never been discriminated against, but I have witnessed discrimination. I was talking to a director and asked why one of my friends didn’t get a particular part and he specifically told me it was because she just had a baby and it was hard to see her as sexy. I was very taken back by it because I wasn’t pregnant at the time and it was kind of..sexist. I powered through it by proving this man wrong. After I had my son I felt that I evolved into into the woman I am today and because of that I feel the most confident therefore I feel sexy.
My antidote for a crappy day:
To be honest, seeing my son and him giving me a kiss and a hug. He takes all of it away.
My best piece of dating advice:
Number one: find yourself. Find what you want, find what you can handle and what you can’t handle. What I think is key is everybody has to approach a relationship from a realistic standpoint. Everybody has stuff in the back of a trunk. The key is what kind of stuff can you deal with. There are some women who can deal with a relationship that I can’t. If you can figure that out, then you know what to look for.
The best advice from Mama:
Be yourself! If people don’t like you for who you are, then it’s their loss. Don’t try to be [someone else] or conform just for approval from somebody. Be you. Be who you are.
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