So, you’re a twenty something basking in the single life…and you hate it. Somehow you just can’t find a keeper and when you do, you’re always running into obstacles that ship you right back onto lonely island. Here are 13 reasons you’re probably single!
1. It’s ALL About You!
One of the perks of being a young twenty something is that you have an extended grace period to embrace being totally selfish. You may still be lingering in the phase where everything is about you while enjoying the freedom of answering to no one. Be smart, start thinking of others.
2. Every Bouncer and Party Promoter Knows Your Name
You are living it up and everything you do entails the VIP treatment. When do you have time to settle down if you make party hopping a priority? In a relationship you’ll have to bid farewell to those old single life habits.
3. Friday Nights Turn Into Stranger Hookups and One Night Stands
If your Friday nights end up anything like a Katy Perry track, then you’re just not ready to graduate out of the single world yet. You’re having so much fun that you’ve developed a lifestyle of living free, hooking up with strangers and bed hopping around town.
Don’t think for a second that other guys aren’t talking about you!
4. Everything You Eat Or Cook Is Microwavable
I promise it only takes mastering four main dishes to win over a mans heart. They really aren’t THAT picky about your cooking skills. Nobody is asking you to transform into Betty Crocker or Martha Stewart overnight, but whipping up your old college struggle foods like roman noodles, or TV dinners can’t be a specialty of yours. Nail down two great breakfast dishes, one pasta meal and learn your way around the kitchen.
5. You’re Too Much Like One Of The Guys
You will enjoy a nice and long unsatisfied single life if you are constantly being casted into the friend zone. Does the guy of your affection see your sexy and desirable side? You have to be two types of women; the Susie homemaker and the Marilyn Monroe.
6. You’re Already In a Relationship, With Your Career
Navigating through our twenties, landing a great job and the perfect career can become all we think about. This may not be the best time for allotting and balancing time between your work and having a man. Yes, you deserve to have it all, and in due time you will—but all work and no play is a recipe for lonely nights.
7. You Continue To Sleep With Your Asshole Ex
You can’t be open to a new and healthy relationship if you’re still somehow connected to your past. If a few drinks have you crawling into your ex’s inbox—or even his bed—then you don’t have the closure you need to move on.
8. Your Girlfriends Run Your Life!
From what you wear, to the man you date, you’re constantly seeking your friends approval. Love your friends, but be careful with letting them have influence over your personal decisions. Don’t always let them steer you away from possibilities and opportunities—even if they have your best interest at heart!
10. Defeated By Daddy Issues!
Battling issues with men can have a lot to do with your relationship with your father. You may not have been exposed to having strong male figures in your life, and for that reason it can be difficult for you to build healthy relationships in the dating world. Is all your baggage and heavy insecurities getting in the way? As tough as it is to overcome, you don’t have to be defeated by being the girl with daddy issues. Learn from your past and move on!
11. You Barely Know Yourself , How Can You Get To Know Someone Else?
Before you can give your all to someone, you should be as close to whole as possible. If you haven’t learned who you are by now—you can’t be emotionally prepared to invest in another.
12. Messy, Messy Baby Daddy Drama
Your child may be the love of your life, but you are constantly in war between you and the father’s child. What guy wants to walk into the ruins of a bad relationship? Clean up any drama before dragging another guy into your situation.
13. Men Are Scared of You
Nothing is worst than being a scorned, bitter, angry woman set out to attack any harmless guy that crosses your path. Listen man eater, you won’t leave the playing field until you stop scaring men off by being a consistent Negative Nancy or a Bitter Betty. Reveal a softer side.