The temptation is always there. Whenever he leaves the room or there is an unguarded cell phone or laptop, the urge to snoop is always present. One thing I’ve learned is fighting that urge is better than letting it take over. To say you have never rummaged through a partners’ belongings or had a strong painstaking desire to is a lie. So you can save it! There is something tempting about discovering and revealing things about people that you probably didn’t want you to know. Although the desire to snoop may not be coming from a suspicious place, the consequences can still carry dire effects. Here are three reasons why you should mind yours, and stay away from snooping…
1. Curiosity Killed The Cat
We have probably heard that line more than once. When you start snooping, if you’re lucky, nothing will turn up, and you can carry on your blissful relationship. But on the flip side, you are highly likely to make some unsettling discoveries. Even if what you discover is not detrimental to your relationship, it doesn’t mean you won’t find out some distasteful things.
2. Trust Is Broken
Trust is one of those foundation pieces in relationships. If you are searching through your partner’s e-mails or Facebook messages, chances are that trust is broken. If you have a question about something, your best bet is just to ask. If you have an inkling that something ain’t right, say something. Communication and trust will save you some headache and heartache.
3. Snooping Can Be A Sign Of Insecurity
Snooping can indicate that there is trouble in paradise. The desire to snoop is probably at its height when you and your partner are going through it. As opposed to talking about the problems in the relationship, some may take to becoming a detective to avoid real communication. Once again, if you can’t have a direct conversation about the things that are going on in your relationship, then something needs to be reevaluated.
On the real, if you’re snooping on your partner, something ain’t right in the water. If you find yourself with his phone in your hand, place it down slowly and walk away. Really evaluate your motives. Your urge to be inspector gadget is probably more about you and your insecurities than about your partner’s alleged wrongdoings. Think twice, because the consequences of your actions will cause more harm than good.