Breaking up is hard enough, but staying broken up can be just as difficult. The initial “lonely” feeling after a split is enough to send some running back into the comfort of one’s embrace ,but there’s obviously a reason why “together” didn’t work in the first place.

Don’t sell yourself short and attempt to rekindle a flame that is better left put out. Here are three reminders why you shouldn’t reconnect with your ex.–Jazmine Henley-Brown

1. He cheated…

It may be wise to forgive and forget, but chances are, if you and your man broke up because you found him being unfaithful, he’ll probably do you dirt again. Even if he doesn’t, your diminished trust will have you attempting to hack his phone’s passcode every time he goes to sleep. Do yourself a favor and just leave the two-timer where he needs to be: in the past.

2. The relationship got boring… 

No one wants to be alone during the cold months, but no one wants to be bored to death either! A guy may have lots to talk about in the dating phase, but somewhere along the way, you found yourself pulling teeth just to have a semi-entertaining conversation with him. You dumped him because he no longer kept your attention. Unless he remixes his diplomatic skills, you’re better off riding dolo.

3. You met someone else…

Dating someone new is always scary, but don’t let fear deprive you of testing new waters. If it didn’t work with your previous boo, let it go and try getting to know someone new. Familiarity might make you feel like your old man is where you need to be, but if he was doing his job in the first place, you wouldn’t be having this problem now, would you?