The thrill of a chase will get anyone’s adrenaline pumping, especially if you’re successful in your conquest. But for others, the chase may can be a turn off. Case in point: Taylor Swift.
Ever since the Country singing megastar stepped on the scene, she’s adorned premium arm candy, from Jake Gyllenhaal to recent ex-boyfriend Harry Styles. Her dating rap sheet leaves spectators to wonder why she swiftly dates one guy after another, but to dispel all the speculations of her being a chaser, the “Never Getting Back Together” singer told Elle magazine “I never chase boys!”
Is it a wise decision to chase in order to get what you want, or will a guy just ignore your efforts? Check out 5 reasons why it’s best to leave the chasing up to the men.
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1) It’s not healthy for your psyche.
Finding yourself consumed in this pursuit can burn you out, especially if the results are not in your favor. This is when the infamous saying “if it’s meant to be, it will be” comes into play. The one guy you’re eyeing isn’t the last specimen on Earth. Don’t rack your brain over plans or strategies to get him, just stay sane for the right one.
2) You’ll be labeled thirsty.
Soulja Boy said it best in his song “She Thirsty.” Yes, you most likely will get the attention you seek, but he’ll look at you as “ easy.” Relax a little.
3) He’ll play games with you.
Once a guy notices that you’re overly interested, he might tease you by leading you on then dismissing you. He’ll come back whenever he chooses and you’ll probably let him in your life again. Honestly he’s taking advantage of your naivete.
4) If you still chase him when you already have him, he’ll leave.
This is also known as being clingy or a fear of giving him too much space. He gave into the chase and now that you reeled him in, relax the hook a little bit. There’s no need to invade his space worrying that another chaser will hook him. But if he does leave, could you blame him?
5) “They don’t like it!”
As Ms. Swift said to Elle magazine, men don’t like women to chase them (some women believe it should be vice versa, but that’s a different list). Aggressiveness can be interpreted as “this woman will go to any extreme,” instead of “she genuinely wants to be with me.” It’s best for him to see you for who you naturally are and not someone who’s desperate for companionship.