Being shy or reserved is not necessarily a bad thing, but when you begin to wonder why you are single, you have to ask yourself “Am I putting myself out there enough?”
It’s not something that will change overnight, in terms of honing an outgoing personality. But to catch the fish, you have to first throw your line out there (a corny metaphor for taking a leap of faith on making that first move when meeting someone). Here are six tips accompanied with fitting song titles on how to break out of that shell that is covering your beauty from your potential mate.–Camille Augustin
Times are changing and now you must be the man and make the first move. If you are eyeing him from across the room and you want to know his name, then go over and ask before he swings your way…to the outgoing friend standing next to you.
The worst that could happen is he won’t be interested, but who is to say that the next guy won’t admire your move and chat it up with you instead. If you’re planning to go to a nightclub and you have two left feet, enroll in a dance class before you show off your moves.
Some women are attracted to men who wear their confidence like a well-tailored suit (swoons!)
However, men love to see women do the same with their confidence, so boost up your inner self, don’t shy away from expressing yourself and go with the flow.
The next time you are out with your girls, flex your newfound confidence. Now don’t give everything away at once! Leave a little mystery.
And, if a certain someone catches your eye, show your clique what you are made of and walk right up to him (you might even have the gumption to buy him a drink!). You’ll certainly shock your gals, but also impress your Mr. Man.
As Aaliyah sings, “If at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again.”
Breaking out of your shyness will take practice and you must be prepared to fail at some points but it’ll only make you stronger in that area. Try a speed-dating event to get an understanding of how you interact with different personalities.
Just because you may have come out your shell a little doesn’t mean you should give your time to just anyone.
Work towards the type of guy you want to attract, and don’t fall for the losers who may want to take advantage of a quiet girl.
Just relax, take a deep breath and let the good times roll. Tell him a few of your hobbies or invite him to upcoming events, maybe a little kick back at your place to get to know him even better. Remember don’t run back into your shy-girl shell.
Now that you’ve memorized these tips, put them into action the next time you are out on the town. Let us know how you’ve branched out of your comfort zone!