From UPTOWN–Men are visual creatures. There’s no doubt about that. But when it comes to the potential for commitment and anything more than sideways pokey, there are several things we find attractive about women that have nothing to do with looks. I did a little social media poll and came away with seven nonphysical traits and/or behaviors that give him the hots (or more hots) for her.
A universal winner, but it’s not just about what you say and do. It’s also about what you don’t do. Confident people don’t need to make themselves known for the sake of being seen and heard. They don’t need to proclaim it from center stage at Summer Jam. They don’t need to offer unsolicited criticism and judgments about what others are doing, what they’re wearing, and/or who they’re with. Confident people don’t snoop or question every opposite sex friend. Confident people embrace both their strengths and weaknesses. They’re concerned with controlling what’s in their power, not what’s outside of it. That’s sexy.
Passion isn’t only infectious, it’s sexy. Men love hearing women speak passionately about the things and people they love (unless it’s about the ex they haven’t gotten over) and their dreams. Passion inspires. And inspiration is one of the key things that drives us toward you, to support you, to love you, and to become better ourselves. What’s even sexier is seeing you not just speak about your passions, but to display it through your actions. Seeing you pursue your dreams with determination is a definitely win.
Sense of Humor
Let’s be real, the type of men you find interesting probably aren’t walking the straight and narrow. They’re not just rocking suits, processing paper, and talking about their education and career accomplishments. They’re probably funny. They know how to make you laugh. And when they see you laughing, they feel good. They think you’re fun. Men love fun women. We also love funny women. We don’t love women who are serious all the time. Because when we see that, it more than likely means we won’t be able to be ourselves. Who wants to be with someone like that? That’s not attractive. It’s a repellent.
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