Let’s get right to it.
As more details emerge in the Wednesday night debacle at W.i.P nightclub, several things are becoming painfully clear. The collateral damage caused by bravado, ego and recklessness have gotten serious with four people–including an innocent party-goer, a bodyguard, an NBA superstar and a model girlfriend–sustaining serious head injuries. This is a loss that should serve as a wake-up call for three people in particular: Drake, Rihanna and Chris Brown. And there’s a different message here for each. This won’t be kind, but it will be honest.
First, Drake is not about that life…
And before you ask which life I’m referring to: this life, the life he’s about to try to avoid. Aubrey Graham is a Jewish Toronto native, first known as “Jimmy” from the Canadian teen series Degrassi High. He rebuilt his fan base off the strength of his intuitive songwriting, genuine delivery and ability to express the things many often find too vulnerable to say. Musically he’s put Toronto on the map, building his grass-rooted OVO click into a multi-layered organization complete with a music festival. He’s become a go-to hit maker, who loves strippers, really bad clothing and older women. Drake, however, is not a goon. Now this is not to say that Drake can’t get out of hand like anybody else or that he can’t do dumb shit like everyone has done at some point, but no matter what happens moving forward–inevitable police questioning, potential lawsuits and possible legal charges-the hope is that it’s a one-time thing. There’s too much at stake to risk it all for a fight (or a woman) that really isn’t even his.
The lesson is, be who you are. Trouble will always find you when you are being anyone other than your authentic self. It’s cool to not be the tough guy, especially when not being the tough guy has made you a worldwide phenomenon. Jay warned him, ‘Here’s how they gone come at, with silly rap feuds trying to distract you’…And if this isn’t the biggest distraction, I don’t know what is.
Then there’s Rihanna, who wasn’t even there Wednesday night..
I’m not really sure who she’s slept with, and truth be told, I don’t really care. But when a fight breaks out, sending several people to the hospital, and you’re the rumored common thread between the three major players involved, it’s time to cut some folks off.
These boys are stupid, and Rihanna’s come too far to let their childish behavior derail her. Her lesson in this: don’t be messy. What’s between two people is between two people. Don’t fuck within cliques, and understand that your actions can cause serious consequences, even indirectly.
Last but not least, Chris Brown. Sigh…
Although Rihanna masterfully sings, ‘Want you to make me feel, like I’m the only girl in the world,’ trust me, she’s really not.
It’s time to let this go; that’s the biggest lesson here.
Loving someone is an amazing feeling, but when its negativity starts to spread to other relationships, you have to re-evaluate some things. Brown’s girlfriend Karrueche Tran was treated for a concussion following the fight, his longtime bodyguard Big Pat had several serious head wounds causing hospitalization and Brown’s own face was busted open. Rihanna’s dope but nobody’s snapback is that fresh. The toxicity from this relationship has spread to the lives of other people that he cares about, and it’s only a matter of time before they (out of self-preservation) jump ship. I’m surprised Brown still has a girlfriend, ’cause this is a lot of energy to spend on your ex. But perhaps the most damaging part here is Brown’s immature decision-making. You and Drake aren’t cool? That’s fine. The perhaps don’t party ten feet away from him. His crew is annoying you? Leave. Rih’s with somebody else? So what? It’s not your problem anymore.
There’s a big difference between “me and you against the world” love and “me against myself” love. When the bond becomes destructive, it’s time to break it.
Who knows what will come of the foolishness that happened Wednesday. We may laugh and joke about the absurdity of it all, but really, it’s not funny. People were hurt, and someone is going to have to answer for that. Above all, this situation continues to reinforce the stereotype that hip-hop (and our urban-pop counterparts) doesn’t know how to act. We’re past this, guys. Our culture moves the entire world. We’re businesses who redefine trends daily. You want to enjoy all the spoils of the kingdom, then be more responsible with the crown. —@JasFly