We’ve all heard the saying that some people are only meant to be in your life for a season, and most of the time we are intuitive enough to feel the temperatures of our friendship change, whether we acknowledge it or not. On some of our favorite reality shows, we’ve seen some of the best friendships take a turn for the absolute worst. Jennifer Williams and Evelynn Lazado of Basketball Wives fame, Kim and NeNe on the Real Housewives of Atlanta, and probably you and your best friend “Keisha” who you’ve known since high school.
For whatever reason, the tides have changed in your relationship. Whether she broke the #1 girlfriend rule, ‘besties over testes’ or maybe you went off to college and your friend stayed home to go to nail school and now when you come home to visit it seems you have less in common. Or perhaps, one of your friends has wed, and has less time to devote to your friendship that once had you two joint at the hip like Frick and Frack. Whatever the case may be every person is not meant to be in your life forever. But every person does come into your life for a reason, and if you are in tune, there was most probably a valuable lesson that was derived from your former friends presence in your life at a particular time.
But there are those instances in which some type of trust was broken or there have been repeated infractions of disrespect. In such cases addressing the situation head on can be tricky, but must be done. While some people are confrontational, others may be a bit more mild mannered. So, pick your poison. You may want to address the situation over dinner, through a letter or an email, or a simple phone call. However you decide, keep it classy and try not to result to childish antics and foul language and simply voice to your friend your disappointments. Also, keep an open ear, because you may not be above reproach in the way that you have handled the friendship either. However, if you feel the friendship is irretrievably broken you should express that and move along without bad mouthing your former homegirl, even if she did do some foul shit. The high road is always best.
It can be painful to lose a friend, but be thankful for the times that you were able to share, and the good memories that were formed, and simply keep it pushing. God is only making room to bring more blessings into your life after he finishes pruning your tree.
Count it all joy!