You’ve been invited to an all-inclusive getaway with your girlfriends. You’re so excited that your bags have been packed weeks leading up to the trip. Sunglasses? Check. Sarong? Check. A few cute bikinis? Check. Your studded flip flops check? You’re more than ready to embark upon this all girls vacay with a group of your favorite BFF’s and some of their girlfriends too! Sounds like tons of fun… Or maybe not!
Who doesn’t want to go on a fab vacation? Tahiti, Paris, the Bahamas, Cayman Islands! Throw a dart at the map and just go to a place where you can have lots of fun in the sun, beach time, great continental breakfasts, pool side lounging, and all the rest. But not so fast! Whenever two are more people are gathered, trust there are politics involved. And to add 3, 4, 5, 6 or 8 more people to the mix there is bound to be a conflict of some sort. We saw it most recently on the Real Housewives of Atlanta episode, where the girls journeyed to South Africa, and more than the usual tension filled the room. And you don’t want your vacation going awry over unnecessary tom-foolery. So here are 4 things to keep in mind while you embark upon your own all girls’ vacation.
Everyone is not going to have the same interest. A vacation for some may mean volunteering with an NGO. For others, it could mean luxuriating by the pool with a book or mean indulgences with spa treatments or it’s the perfect opportunity to immerse themselves in the culture as much as possible. Whatever your intentions are on your vacation, try to be flexible to gaining as much from the experience as possible.
5 Star Chic vs. Hostel Chic. Everyone does not expect the same type of accommodations when they travel. While 800-thread count Egyptian cotton sheets are a prerequisite for some, there are other travelers who are more budget-conscious or who would genuinely prefer to stay in a hostel or less frilly accommodations. You don’t want to be uncomfortable on your vacation, while at the same time you don’t want to be totally inflexible. Know what it is you require in your lodging and provide some wiggle room to experience a gamut of opportunities. Hostels are, after all, said to be one of the best places to meet people while traveling.
Ladies Can Be Clique-ish. Especially when going on a trip with friends, who are also friends of friends. Alliances can be formed, which can invariably cause someone to be a third wheel. This is where being flexible is so important. As aforementioned, take the time out to participate in activities that the group can participate in together. Zip-lining, horseback riding, wine tasting, a concert, something to lessen the tension and help you refocus on the amazing time to be had while you are away.
Try something new! After all this is one of the foremost points of traveling, but if you do not have much travel experience, adopting to new things, hearing new languages, tasting new food, listening to different music can be a bit overwhelming. Push yourself anyway to do and try something you never would have done at home. Eat a chicken liver, try to dance Samba, learn a few words in the local language to interact with the natives. Don’t be scared!
Ignore her. There is bound to be someone on the trip that is going to irk your soul. The know-it-all who has been to fifty-eleven countries, and speaks another fifty-eleven languages, who has designated herself as the group tour guide. Or the chick that has taken the trip to indulge in international hoe-tivity? Whatever the case, if it’s not life-threatening, or putting you in a compromising situation, let it go and enjoy the new atmosphere. It’s probably not that serious, and no one should be able to cause you not to have a good vacay! —Phalena Jean