When many of the men that I know have referred to a woman as sexy, they weren’t speaking about what they were wearing. They were speaking about the manner in which she carried themselves and the impression that woman left on the opposite sex. The difference between a girl and a woman is that a woman knows that sexy is indeed a state of mind and not about the clothes that you wear.
Some of the most insecure women try to cover up their insecurities by wearing scantily clad clothing, in order to draw attention from men. This charade only lasts but so long until her low self-esteem is discovered. A woman who is sexy knows that she is just as sexy in a sweat suit as she is in a pair of high heels and a fitted outfit. Her aura is sexy, her attitude, the way she speaks and the fact that she values herself as a queen makes her sexy.
Clothing is nothing more than an adornment and cannot make anyone sexy; this is a misconception that many have fed into. They wonder why, despite the type of clothes they wear, that they still aren’t considered sexy. Well, because confidence is sexy, knowledge is sexy and self-assurance is sexy. Once you understand this, then your level of sexiness will never be measured by the things that you wear, but rather the person you are.
Material things should never make the person. They should only be attributes for the greatness that is already there. If you want to increase or enhance your sexy focus on developing your inner woman instead of playing dress up. —Risa Dixon