The social media sea is full of fish and, yes, some of us like to be the bait, but there’s a fine line between showing that you’re open to meeting people online and just being tacky.
With Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter all swarming with available, accomplished (at least that’s what their bios say) and attractive men and women (#nofilter), it’s been shown that online is in the top three places to meet a mate. If that’s your aim, take this advice so that you won’t come off as a thirst bucket–Jazmine Henley-Brown
1. DON’T be overly sexual
Ladies, if your name is @StayWet69 and every tweet details what type of sexual acts you’d perform on your future man, be prepared to not be taken seriously. Yes, your DM inbox is flooded, but it’s not with potential husband material. It’s a bunch of men who want to “see what that mouth do though”(hi, Charlamange). It’s okay for you to be a freak for your boo, but if you keep displaying your insatiable appetite for sex, you’ll only attract nymphomaniacs. Say no to freaky statuses and #twitterafterdark!
2. Stop bashing men!
Does every tweet and FB status have to be a rant about “ain’t shit” guys? Do us all a favor: build a bridge and get over the last dude who hurt you. As you should know, being bitter is an ugly trait to have. No one wants to read those annoying updates everyday and no man is going to think you’re interesting if each hash tag is #niggasaintshit.
3. Let’s not seem desperate, Vixens…
Don’t be so hung up on finding a man that you annoy your followers with whiny day dreams and scenarios that you’re wishing for. Every time it rains, you’re whining about cuddling if you had a boo, and every time it’s sunny, you fantasize (out loud) about ice cream dates with your imaginary “him.” You’ll meet someone. Just be patient!
4. Liking and/or commenting does NOT equal romantic interests.
Just because he retweets you or likes your Instagram pictures, does not mean he actually wants to pursue something with you. Simple and plain. I mean, come on. Do you like all the guys whose photos you like on Instagram?
5. Highlight activities that you do outside of social media.
Men love a woman who has something going for herself. Make sure that you mention the business ventures or good books that you come across. If he’s going to send a private message, he’ll want to make sure that he’s not stepping out on the limb for a woman with no substance, show him you’re more than cheesy song lyrics.