We see it all the time on social media–the war on black women by black men–but what happens when a black woman pens a piece on one of the biggest websites in the world about her fellow black women? Controversy; at least that’s what happened this week to writer, Kim Lute of The Huffington Post.
In an article titled, “The Problem With Black Women,” Lute, a lighter-skinned black woman shares her story about her relationships, or the lack thereof, with darker skinned black women. The lengthy opinion piece delves into understanding the plight of women deeper in complexion to her personal accounts of growing up in a household where her sister, shades darker, was favored and praised.
So what’s the issue you may ask? Lute’s stance on why she prefers relationships with white women over blacks and why she believes there’s a “wedge that divides” her and those that are darker colored.
On her friendships, Kim Lute explains:
As a journalist, author and the designated “light girl” in my coterie, I’m frankly “Fanny Lou-Hamer tired” of the nitpicking among black women. Since moving to Atlanta in the millennia, I’ve befriended mostly white women. Why? The unvarnished truth lies somewhere between my own emotional hang-ups and the fact that most of the darker black women I’ve met are competitive, strident, pushy and critical of my decisions. As such, it’s been easier to socialize with those women who value my friendship without stipulations and constant backtalk. Thus, my friendships with white women are neat, unfettered and based solely on our likes and dislikes. And instead of forcing my friendship on black women who want nothing to do with me, I’ve allowed my other relationships to develop organically even if it meant there was a glaring absence of color that would cause my ancestral foremothers to spin in their unmarked graves.
Check out the post in its entirety here and weigh in. Is Lute simply broken and bugging on her beliefs, or does she actually have a point on her views on colorism?