From UPTOWN—When you watch your best girlfriends settle for men who are less than they deserve, we offer a mouthful of advice. But when our heart’s involved, it’s hard to apply the same logic. You hear it, but are you really listening? How many times have you heard these phrases men say that really should piss us off?
1. “That’s my Bitch” or “This my Wifey.” If a Tiffany’s box were placed in front of you, you’d get excited, right? Just by the packaging, your expectations would soar. Even before untying the ribbon, your mind can envision what’s inside. On the contrary, your hopes are instantly dashed when you are handed a loaded garbage bag, correct? While your mind can imagine what’s inside, you’d rather not. That is exactly what happens when you are identified as some man’s “bitch” or his “wifey”. It’s all in the presentation. When a man, both, recognizes and values the treasure he’s found in you, his only wish is to represent you in the same light. Labels like “bitch” and “wifey” are too dim for someone as bright as you.
2. “I’m not looking for a relationship right now.” This is a tricky phrase, especially if you do not know what you want. If you’re honest with yourself and you know you want to be in a relationship, do not be softened by the “right now.” Every moment lived is lived “right now.” Understand if he doesn’t want a relationship with you, his “right now” may be as long as you know him. No matter what you do, or how good you do it, forcing someone to be in a relationship with you is the same as building a jail. Do it and you’ll find you’re dating an escape artist.
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