Breakups are never easy. Should you take him back? Will he change?
Here are the types of exes that you should steer clear from starting over with.
1. The Mama’s Boy
There’s only one available space in his heart, and if his mother has the VIP spot, it’s more than likely a losing battle. The mama boy may appear to be gentle and sweet from afar, but not being his top priority is hard to forgive and truly endure. It takes a strong woman to be comfortable coming in second. Is that you?
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2. Mr. Too Sensitive
As much as we desire a partner who is open, honest, caring and invested – the sensitive guy never lasts. In a relationship, it’s our desire to be honest with one another. Tip toeing over feelings and being overly cautious of emotional breakdowns (on his end) is no way to live.
3. The Curver
The key to a healthy-functioning relationship is a lot of communication and a little compromise. If he constantly curves both, allow him to take time to mature to understand what a meaningful relationship truly entails. Perhaps that means you’ll be single for a while, but would you rather re-enter a relationship with someone who doesn’t make your wants a priority?
4. The (Consistent) Cheater
My theory on cheating? it happens. Is it right? No. But can it be forgivable? Absolutely.
It all depends on how it went down and if his makeup efforts are congruent to your standards.
“Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.”
Before rewarding a cheating ex with a second chance, consider all aspects of your relationship and if it’s worth diving back into. Naturally, women have forgiving hearts, but be in sync with your gut and intuition.
5. The Angry, Bitter Tweeting Ex
If your ex is still channeling his pain and unfiltered emotion through social media, be careful of damaged goods. A relationship is sacred and should be kept between the two of you. Whatever occurred in the past for your relationship to fail should be a silent war, not a public vent. Angry tweets which consist of petty subliminal or directed character bashing further suggest that he is incapable of moving forward in anything new with you now. Or maybe ever.
He’s going out for blood and wants his entire social network to be alarmed with what a “bitch” you were.
6. The Bi-Polar Ex
Hopefully you’ve never had to dodge flying objects. This type of ex will always remind you just how mentally unstable he is. And why cops were on the scene during your heated breakup.
7. The Habitual Liar
Most men love to lie. They even lie amongst each other with impunity about anything. And we’re not talking little white lies either. Askmen.com (who surveys hundreds of men) and Readers Digest continue to create lengthy articles elaborating on the famous lies men tell. It just so happens that is the ultimate deal breaker in a relationship. Dont. I repeat- don’t– invest in the liar.
8. The Habitual Apologizer
If you’ve heard it once, you’ll hear it again. Apologies always tend to come with a slight leftover of suspicion. Just because he apologizes doesn’t mean he’s worth a second go-around. In fact, it’s typically the ones who apologize incessantly that set the tone for a stagnant relationship. His apology should 100% match his actions. Perhaps he should even construct a plan-of-action spread sheet to ensure his repetitive apologies do not become a habit.
But allow him to do that on some other woman’s precious time.
9. Mr. Ego
A man’s ego is hard to break, but when it does- the doors are open for the most beautiful outcome. Is he willing to completely emotionally invest this time around?
10. The Game Player
We’ve all played the game. Initially, we have to. Women have to portray ourselves as “hard to get,” and men take on the role as the aggressors or “chasers.” Overtime,as the relationship develops, the protective shield should start to strip off and vulnerability becomes embraced. That’s if your partner isn’t trapped in the childish mindset of constantly seeking the chase. While remaining mysterious to a degree, it’s important that you feel comfortable enough to lay the weapons down.
Every game has an expiration point. If he’s still calculating his next chess move, leave him to play the game by himself.
11. The Fair Weather Ex
Reject any and all of those part-time exes who came and went like the seasons. Consider making them a worthy candidate on your trusty Iphone’s “block” list, so the next time winter comes around- he’s prohibited from making those convenient phone calls.