has many of us yearning to get comfy with an ex. Although revisiting an old flame may be tempting, take into precaution the very thin line you’re balancing on. This warm rendezvous can be hot in the beginning then easily turn cold. The biggest issue with trying to go casual with an ex is maintaining the definition when the past (good or bad) is always in the back of your mind.
Here are some reasons why going casual (and we know this from experience) is a very bad idea.–Desire Thompson
While it may seem fun and emotionless at first, someone is going to catch feelings…again. It starts by getting back into those old habits: wearing his t-shirt post-coitus, romantic dining, spending all your time with him, etc. Before you know it, you’re saying the L word and on the first trip back into the relationship you never wanted in the first place.
Jealousy and Power
So you’re between the sheets with your old beau, but you don’t like the girls that he’s picking up at the bar? Think about this: Do you really have a reason to be jealous? Casual dating means just that. It’s not supposed to mean anything more than just sex. Plus, you no longer have the power to tell him what to do and where he needs to be. Don’t be offended if he’s calling you at 2 AM. Are you able to act accordingly?
You’ll be stuck!
How can you move on if you’re still involved with your past? You’re holding yourself back from growth, change and a chance to really challenge yourself. The best things that can happen after a breakup are the changes that you go through. Why hold yourself back from something (or someone) else amazing?
The only thing that can go right in a casual relationship with an ex is an understanding. Set the boundaries, especially before hitting the sack. And as always, wrap it up! This isn’t an exclusive relationship.
Vixens, share your tales of casually dating an ex!