While the Internet may still be rolling its digital eyes after watching the viral #Hurtbae video and laughing at the spinoffs that were birthed, Compton musician and native Garren decided to use the format to confront his absentee father in what he calls #FatherlessBae.
The short clip, which lives on Garren’s Instagram page, opens with him and his father sitting across from one another in a non-descript room. Garren questions his dad about why his gang-banging lifestyle was more important than being with his family.
“You chose the streets as a priority, in our eyes,” Garren said. “On the times that we did find out that you were out [of prison] we were knowing after your homies. You were were on the block hanging out.”
As his father sat stoically, and at times gently rocked back and forth in the chair, Garren reminded dad of the time he selfishly missed his birthday.
“Even on my birthday I remember seeing you. You know, it was my birthday I’m looking for you and you should be looking for me, or at least calling for me.” Garren said. “Like what made you choose that life over being there for us?”
The video takes an even more honest turn when Garren admits that when he was 11 or 12 years old, he planned on joining a gang because he wanted to imitate his pops.
“I was going to commit to a Blood neighborhood. I was going to do it because I looked up to you and I knew I would get some stripes like ‘Yo, I’m a gang banger too!’ “
Originally posted Friday ,(April 7) the video has earned nearly 2,800 views on Garren’s page, and 74,000 on BallerAlert, with many praising Garren for his honesty and courage.
Watch Garren confront his father below.
I’ve never had the option to sit down with my father and have a man to man conversation about our relationship. I was a fatherless child growing up, and as often as he was incarcerated, there was little to no opportunity to get to know him. Having this talk I wanted to gain some sort of peace & possibly even some sort of understanding. Knowing he still hasn’t let the streets go I’m extremely grateful I got the chance to ask WHY?