The saying goes “out of sight, out of mind.” But if you’re really trying to make it work, follow these tips.
Relationships are far from easy. Long distance relationships (LDR) are even harder, and it takes more out of both you and your partner. Rather than give up what could be an awesome opportunity based solely on the distance, here are a few ways to keep a LDR strong.
The most important part of a LDR is to be on the same page as your partner. The relationship is bound to fail if the two of you want different things. You should come up with some sort of plan of what you need from each other and decide the best to go about being there for each other.
Make your presence obvious. I have found that small surprises are simple ways to bring about a smile, no matter how many miles apart you are. Something that never fails is ordering a pizza to be delivered to him wherever he is. Send a text giving him a little heads up: Already tipped the driver, enjoy! Everybody loves a surprise pizza. If the pizza guy isn’t being difficult, try to get them to write something on it with a topping.
Reach out to his friends. When he and his friends are out at the bars, make them want him to focus on you. The worst would be for you to come off as “that girlfriend that lives 1,170 that keeps Steve from having any fun.” Make his friends look forward to your visits also. It’ll make him feel luckier to have you around when his bros approve of you. You will have to put in a bit more work on your end (asking about his friends, keeping in touch with them) but you will feel a lot more comfortable when you’re not together and you’ll have a lot more fun when you visit.
Give each other small memories: When the going gets tough, something as small as the smell of your partner can be comforting. Wear his t-shirts to bed and keep a photo or two in your purse. If you guys care about each other enough, a small reminder of you will be enough to keep him wanting more and keep working towards the two of you.
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