Talking to a rapper about love and marriage might not seem like the best course of action, but I’ve had the pleasure of interviewing Malice a few times and despite his public persona he’s got a good head on his shoulders. Besides that he’s been married to his wife since ’91, so that’s 20 years of experience and knowledge that a soon-to-be newlywed would be a fool to not tap into. So during a recent interview with Malice about his first novel, Wretched, Pitiful, Poor, Blind and Naked, I asked him about what keys opened doors to a happy marriage and here’s what Malice had to say:
“Oh, my goodness, [laughs] I don’t think you’re ready for this. Faith is the foundation. It’s the floor plan to my marriage. Faith and forgiveness lay the ground rules… It’s just a big part of it and I think that as… and I got to choose my words carefully, but I think, not just Black people, but in our culture and I do believe it’s culture in general… I’m just so focused on my culture that it’s just very relevant for us, but I think that many times we give up on those who we claim to love or we know we’re in relationships with.”
“I think the divorce rate, which I believe is 50/50 or somewhere around there… I think we give up too quick and I think we’re too quick to get rid of a person and I just think that we need to work with each other more. I think that we need to be more understanding, because I don’t think that you’re ever going to find that perfection; you know? I think that relationships and marriage especially is about working with one another and loving each other so much that you know you’re able to forgive and be willing to compromise and work out some things and I just think that we give up too soon, so I think that faith definitely plays a part in building strong, lasting relationships and sometimes you just have to go through the fire to be purified.”
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