Once you guys are married, do you plan to stay on TV?
No. It’s time to be a wife. It’s time to be the woman my man needs. My man don’t need a girl that’s on TV, my man needs a girl by his side. That’s really what it’s about right now for me. It’s kind of bittersweet, this whole process, especially filming this last season. Even though there’s still the Erica Mena crazy stuff going on, this really is the best season ever for me.
Just everything. You’re also gonna see that when put in situations that could have possibly been altercations, not become one, because I walked away from it. Since the Kimbella situation, my whole thing has been about redemption. I know the mistakes I made, and I go so hard to try and fix them, but at the same time, I’m a human being. So as I'm fixing one mistake, I’m probably gonna make a few others. I get bashed for it, obviously, but it’s not uncommon to see a crazy Puerto Rican wild out if you cross her over. It’s actually more realistic than anything else. And look at me now, I’m engaged and I still didn’t change who I was.
"My man don’t need a girl that’s on TV, my man needs a girl by his side. That’s really what it’s about right now for me."
Does the new season end before you get engaged, or does that play out on the show as well?
Well you’re definitely going to see reactions I’m sure. My loser exes have a reaction to it. And you might see a little bit more, but one thing you’re not going to see is him. You know how I’ve been saying that I keep my son sacred? It’s the same thing with him. This is what really matters to me now. No one’s fucking with it. And if we do decide to do something like that, it’s not gonna be with a cast full of people who just, are nobodies.
And you won’t miss the reality TV thing at all?
Here’s the thing, I’ve been working my butt off since I was 16; I was 16 in a Fabolous video. I’m 27 now. I’ve had a good run. I’m bowing out gracefully, on my own terms. Plants need to be repotted every once in a while, and I need to repot myself. Love & Hip-Hop has opened doors for me, it’s even brought me to this position where I was actually able to host 106, and get to that level with Shad. I think it’s done everything it was supposed to do for me. Now it’s time to let another Erica Mena in the door.
A lot of people think that love & Hip-Hop is perpetuating this negative image of women.
It’s really not Love & Hip-Hop, it’s the people that come in. I can’t specify this enough: when cameras go on, everybody wanna be big and tough. You’re not like that in real life. Like, even this season, Teairra Mari was fucking screaming and running when I fought Kimbella, now this season, you’re so Detroit? And even if that is who you are, why weren’t you [that way] back then? Maybe you probably would’ve made a hit by now. When I came into it, I was a young girl, getting out of an extremely abusive relationship. Once I got out, I had this mentality that I have to now try to protect the little girl that I couldn’t protect then. So what you guys saw then was someone that was really lashing out because she was hurting, she didn’t know how to deal with things. I had just left a man I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with, had a kid, homeless, had to literally start from scratch. At the same time, I was releasing all the anger I had in me every time I got my ass beat. It’s not right, I’m not justifying it, but that’s just really what it is. So now, when I see girls come on and not be who they are, it makes the show look scripted, because this is not who the fuck you are.
That’s a good point.
I will say this, and I don’t care what no one says about her, the realest one on there to me is Hazel. Whether she is in denial about what the relationship was, one thing about a woman is, whether you’re fucking her or not, you obviously made her feel that way. And she’s being honest about her feelings towards this particular gentleman. She’s the only one that’s actually shed a tear, and she’s the only one that you feel like really feels anything. It’s okay to be human.
So Mona Scott-Young doesn’t give you directions on what to do during filming?
Oh no. And on my scenes, I got this down pat. From the start, Mona used to be on set for all my scenes. Now, I hardly see Mona. It’s like ‘Oh, it’s Erica’s scene? I got the day off.’ It’s so easy for me. But she doesn’t. The only thing is that, obviously, if I don’t like you, I’m not gonna invite you to dinner, but in order for America to know I don’t like you and to hear what I have to say to you, I’m gonna invite you to dinner. Stuff like that is common sense. It’s put together so that the show can be created, ultimately. But what you say, what you do, last time I checked, she’s never done that once with me. Not once.
She gets a lot of the blame.
Again, it goes back to her being a woman that running the show, doing what the fuck she wants, whether you like it or not. Who else do you blame?